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Talk to me about stranger anxiety

RomeRomance06RomeRomance06
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DD is a relatively social baby and she's been in a smallish in-home daycare since she was 3 months old. On Tuesday the main DCP's daughter had to go for surgery so she was absent for part of the day. She warned us way ahead of time and said that her assistant would be there along with an assistant who works for another DCP that she's friendly with (I've never met her). She only has bout 6 kids in the DC and since it was just for a few hours, I figured it was fine. Well, I went to pick her up, DCP was back from the hospital and said DD was a mess all day. She would start crying the minute she saw this woman (the substitute assistant) and wouldn't nap (thankfully, she ate). Since they only had 4 kids there that day, they ended up sending this poor woman home because Laurel was such a mess. She's only been like this one other time recently, with a guy friend of ours, who she's basically known and has seen often since birth. We're not sure what that is about because he's very good with her and has held her many times and she was fine. So, this stranger anxiety seems to be very recent and very random. I know it's normal, but I'm just curious what other people's experiences are.
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  • tracy042206tracy042206

    Maggie did this as a baby with DCP's husband (as well as any strangers in our home including family).  It was rough but it was just a stage and it passed.  I felt bad for DCP's husband since she would scream when she saw him enter the room when he got home from work at the end of the day.  The only people she didn;t scream at were DCP, me and DH.  

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  • WinesNot WhinesWinesNot Whines
    Yep, it's normal. I think you just have to roll with it and try to stay within her comfort zone as much as possible. M warms up to people after an hour or so, but during the first 30-60 minutes, he clings to me (or his dad) and will cry if someone else tries to hold him or otherwise interact with him while we're not around. So we just let him stay with us until he's comfortable. Eventually he gets brave and will wander off on his own. He does this even with people who he's seen a dozen times before.
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  • SofkaSofka

    my kids reach much worse to men (even those they see regularly) than women

    men with beards, those are scary scary people to them!

     

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  • RomeRomance06RomeRomance06
    imageSofka:

    my kids reach much worse to men (even those they see regularly) than women

    men with beards, those are scary scary people to them!

     

    Yes! Our guy friend has a goatee so we thought it was mainly that, since I don't think she's ever seen a guy with facial hair before. But this woman, I'm assuming, didn't have facial hair so, like I said, random.

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  • umdbrideumdbride

    Our DS does this to two people primarily, my BIL and my grandma.  He used to see BIL pretty often, like once a week or so, and no matter what if BIL held him and we weren't right there, DS would cry.  I think with BIL, honestly, it's a scent thing - he smokes and sometimes smells of alcohol when he comes over because of the night before (he's still leading a bachelor life, ick).  

    DS would also cry anytime my grandma would hold him and there's not much we could figure out for this one.  I think she just looks different than most of us - she has really light hair, lots of makeup, and wrinkly skin, lol. 

    It could be a smell (like perfume) or just that the assistant looks really unfamiliar?

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