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My DH is coming back to the states....one of these days, back to the Post and militarytown we lived in. He is goint to start processing to get out (his contract is up) as soon as he comes back, And he wants to me to stay in my Hometown while he lives in Militarytown. It's going to take a long time, and I will most likely give birth while he is there. I would like to move back to Militarytown and have the baby because his unit is notorious for not caring about soldiers or their famlies. If he tells them I am giving birth in Hometown, they are going to say "screw you , you can't leave". They have done it to several soldiers before. DH wants me to stay in Hometown because I will get waay better medical care than I would at the Army Hospital (which has a notoriously bad reputation and almost killed two of my friends and their babies when they were preggo), or any of the local civilian hospitals.
I really really want to be living in the same city as DH when I give birth. I don't like the idea of a "weekend husband" or "weekend daddy". I understand his reasons but to me the most important thing is for him to be able to be with our first child and experience all the milestones. I think giving birth in a local civilian hospital will be fine. I am pretty healthy and It really won't be that much trouble to move because my Hometown is only a few hours away from Militarytown. All my friends are still on Post, and would be willing to help me in any way possible.
If you had these options, what would you do? IMHO It is important for him to see the birth, since a lot of soldiers are deployed when their kids are born.