c-sec momma's- a question

abba916 · September 2011

My healing with my first c-sec was fine- but obvs this time I will have L to take care of- DH will be home for the first week-to-week and half full time then do some half days but I was wondering about having help around the second through third week...

we were talking about hiring someone to be here- thoughts? (I have some family and friends we can cobble together some coverage but DH thought maybe having someone full time for the week- would be better piece of mind {and probably assuage his guilt of being at work...LOL}

Kim72508 · September 2011

I obviously have only had 1 c-section so I dont' have experience in recovering while taking care of a newborn. Just my .02 though.....I think it depends on who you're going to hire and what they're going to do. I'd probably enlist the help of friends/family to take DS#1 out for a few hours here and there so you can get some down time. Definitely hire someone to clean your house so you don't have to worry about that!

ArcticFox · September 2011

My DH was home about 3 days and then my aunt came for a week. After that I was fine. I doubt I would have wanted to hire anyone since I felt kind of gross. I just wanted to be able to nurse when I needed and wear grubby clothes without having outside people in my home. I could see finding something for your older DC, like preschool or some kind of dropoff program, even someone to pick him up and then get him lunch and then maybe cleaning a little?

meryltheresa · September 2011

I honestly can't remember what we did after Liam. haha! It's such a blur. This time around however, DH will be off with me the week of the surgery. I should get out of the hospital on thursday of that week, and he will ofcourse be home with me through the weekend. The following week my mom is coming to stay with us, and we will have family and friends in and out throughout that week and the week following.

wendyj · September 2011

I just remember feeling like I wanted to do as little as physically possible during that time because when I worked myself too hard, I was messed up for the rest of the day. I think I'd feel more comfortable and less likely to push myself if it was family and friends than someone I hired. With a stranger, I'd be more inclined to focus more on what DS and that person were doing, especially if they were in the house with me.

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · September 2011

If DH will be home for a week/week and half, I think you should be fine. Don't forget that newborns spend a majority of their time sleeping so it's not so bad entertaining a toddler at that point. It will be getting cooler in the next few weeks when you're due so maybe get him some new movies or some new board books and just relax together.

I'm with ArcticFox- I liked being alone with the kids better as I got the hang of nursing and handling 3. I wouldn't want to feel like I needed to be showered/dressed for someone to come over.

Telyco · September 2011

I had to kick my MIL out. By 1.5 weeks you should be fine, IMO.

It's much easier by yourself...you can relax and get on your own schedule with your family.

mrsoc · September 2011

DH was home for 3 weeks and then my Mom came when he was working. I liked having the extra help and she is retired, so she was more than willing. I did not want to push things. Have you thought about a post partum doula? I would not feel like I had to "get ready" for a doula to come over, as they understand and would be able to help. If you have the resources to do it, why not and then if you only need the extra help short term you will have it.

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