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Toddler Party Etiquette - Regarding Parents Staying?

vtkgirl77vtkgirl77
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My daughter got invited to her first party thrown by someone I don't know. The invite is from the mom of a little boy that used to go to her daycare. It's called a "Fall Party" so I guess it's not a birthday party.

Anyway, the invite has an email and phone number that we can use to RSVP. I would like for my DD to go but I do not feel comfortable just dropping her off because she's only two and I don't know this family. Would most people who throw a toddler party expect for a parent to stay and hang around? When I RSVP, should I just ask the mom if it's okay if I hang around and offer to bring something? I don't want to step on any toes but I also don't like the idea of dropping my daughter off because she's so young and since I don't know the family.

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Re: Toddler Party Etiquette - Regarding Parents Staying?

  • Hey JellisyHey Jellisy

    All of the toddler parties we've gone to the parents have stayed.  I hope that helps.  I think it might be my nightmare if folks dropped and went away.  Can you imagine a dozen toddlers on your own?

     

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  • clarajclaraj
    I'd think the parents would be expected to stay. I'd be mad if people came to my DD's party and just dropped them off, at this age, anyway.
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  • AgrippaRidesAgainAgrippaRidesAgain member
    I've never been to a kid party where you just drop off a kid. Those with older kids, what age does that start?
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  • vtkgirl77vtkgirl77
    Okay, thank you ladies. That's what I thought but I wasn't sure. This will also be a good opportunity for me to meet other parents in my new neighborhood.
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  • SoonToBeMrsDTSSoonToBeMrsDTS member

    imageAgrippaRidesAgain:
    I've never been to a kid party where you just drop off a kid. Those with older kids, what age does that start?

    This usually starts once they're in elementary school. My kids are both in preschool and I still stay with them at birthday parties. 

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    imagevtkendra:
    Okay, thank you ladies. That's what I thought but I wasn't sure. This will also be a good opportunity for me to meet other parents in my new neighborhood.

    This is probably why the other Mom is having the party!  I think you're definitely expected to stay.

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  • JKM416JKM416 member
    All of DD's classmates turned four last year.  The parties held in the fall and winter had parents staying.  By the spring, at which point some of the kids were 4.5, I'd show up at parties with her and see other moms walking out the door.  So maybe once the attendees are four is when drop-offs are expected?  Also, when the kids were a bit younger and all the classmates were invited, parents were expected to stay (20+ kids; I don't blame the hosts).  As the school year progressed, there were more boy- or girl-only parties being held and therefore half the number of kids in attendance...which likely influences whether parents can drop off or stay.  Just an FYI for the future.
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  • vtkgirl77vtkgirl77
    Thanks ladies. Yeah, the mom wrote me back and said that the whole family is invited.
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  • bh2720bh2720

    lol, yes, I would say that there is zero chance that she wants the parents to all drop off their toddlers and then leave. can you imagine what a nightmare that would be?

    I don't think that the "drop the kid off" parties start until the kids are at least in kindergarten--and definitely not until they are all potty trained!! 

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  • ArtslvrArtslvr
    At my DDs' preschool parents leave the party when the kids are about 5, and definitely six (our preschool goes through K). 
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