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36 year old man dating 15 year old? WDYT?
Is it less weird once they are 20 and 41?
I was lurking on TTGP and someone posted they were 20, had been dating for 5 years and is ready to TTC. Then it came out how old her husband is.
Can you imagine letting your daughter date someone old enough to be her father when she is 15?
So weird.
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Re: 36 year old man dating 15 year old? WDYT?
Are they part of some strange religion?
There was someone on RE on the knot that was 16 when she married her husband...he was younger than 40, though. He was probably 22 or 23. He was her youth pastor, I think.
Wait- what?? 15-year-olds can get married? You can't even get a driver's license at 15, but you can get married? Crazy.
My aunt was 15 when she met my uncle. He was 30 and he already had three kids from a previous marriage (my first aunt just took off). They married when she turned 18 and they had another child.
Honestly -- my cousins are MESSED up from basically being abandoned and a new mommy who was basically a teenager. Especially the eldest girl who basically is still in some sort of weird, strange competition for her father's love. The only normal, not-f-up kid is fourth child.
It's not so strange right now because she is 60 and he is 75 (or something like that).
Ick.
And I question the use of the word "man".
Right on! What does a 36 year old have in common with a 15 year old?
How do 12 year olds "date"?
I had boyfriends, and sometimes went on occasional "dates" with boys...to the movies or something. A parent always had to drive us. I started dating DH at 16, though, and it was more like real dating. Before that it was mainly talking on the phone, going to dances, etc. And the "relationship" never lasted longer than a month or two.
Is it my DD? If so, then I think it's time for H to get a shotgun.
If not, meh.
It's still weird for 20 and 41, but at least at that point it's LEGAL.
Ick. 20 to 41 also sounds icky to me in almost any situation.
That said, a good friend of mine from grad school is married, she's 27 and he's 50 or 51 now and it's actually not a weird marriage. When I met her I thought she was an older student who had returned to school because she's very mature for her age (and dresses and cuts her hair old for her age). They met working at a national historic site together and knew they were far apart in age, but he seemed a good 10 years younger than he was and she seemed a good 10 years older than she was, so they thought it was more like a 7 year age difference. When they realized how far apart they were they broke up for a while but realized that they still missed each other, so they dated for a really long time then got married. So their relationship actually doesn't get the side eye from me, but I think it's an exceedingly rare thing for a couple that far apart in age to not be weird.
My grandma married my grandpa when she was 15. she lied and said she as 16. I know he was in his 30's.
That said, I would lose my s h i t if DD brought home a guy DH's age.
ETA: he was 38 and she was 15. he was 57 when my mom was born.
BTDT and it was icky.
I knew it was a huge mistake the morning that we got up and went to the grocery store to buy stuff for bacon. I picked up some bacon and he immediately started lecturing me on how to do price comparison. He sounded like a father scolding his daughter!
I don't know what the hell I was thinking in the first place. Thinking back, the entire situation was really quite gross.
15 is age of consent in NJ I think, maybe it is 16 but some states it definitely is.
HELL TO THE NO.
I just have to wonder about what's going on at home if a 15 year old even wants to date someone that old. I mean, when I was 15, I thought 30 year-olds were ancient.
To sum it up: No, I would not ever allow my 15 year-old daughter to date someone more than maybe 2 or 3 years older (and 18 is really pushing it).
And if she said she wanted to, I would take a good hard look at our home, and we would change some things immediately.
This.