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Feeling conflicted about bedtime nursing

amh_navyblueamh_navyblue
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DD#2 is 20 months old.  She was EBF for year 1 and was mostly weaned by her birthday, with the exception of nursing when she woke up in the morning and then at bedtime.  The morning session dropped pretty quickly, but the bedtime nursing session has continued and she is showing no signs of wanting to wean.  She can go to bed without it, if I'm not around (she just has a sippy cup of milk), but if I am there, she nurses (and she'll ask for it specifically at this point).  DD#1 did the same thing, but stopped right around 18 months and I don't remember her being as tied to it.  Part of me is fine with continuing this (it certainly helps with the bedtime routine!), but part of me would like to wean. 

It also occurred to me last night that I will be gone for nearly 2 weeks in early November on a work trip.  Maybe that will decide it for me?  Should I try to proactively wean before then?

Musings on a very dreary morning...

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Re: Feeling conflicted about bedtime nursing

  • WinesNot WhinesWinesNot Whines

    If you're ready to wean and she's fine going to bed without nursing if you're not around, then it seems like your upcoming work trip would be a good time to wean. If she gets used to a new bedtime routine, hopefully you can stick with it when you get back. That's what I'd do.


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  • ak1234ak1234
    I would also let this work trip initiate weaning.  Talk to your DH and come up with a new routine he can start while you are gone.
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  • 2vthokies2vthokies
    Ditto pp.  I BFd DD1 until she was 17 months and then wanted to wean because I was eight weeks pg with DD2 and it was starting to become painful.  We only BFd at night by that point and one night I just had my DH put her to bed.  Then the next night, and the next and she was totally fine.  It was harder on me than her.  She may be asking just because she knows its available.  I think your trip is a great time to wean.  Kudos to you for nursing this long.  I"m planning to get DD2 to 18 months and then we'll see what happens.
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  • LindseyJWLindseyJW member

    i believe in child led weaning, so my son was a little older when he completely weaned. but what i did might work for you at this age, too.

    when DS dropped his last nursing session (also bedtime), he just stopped asking for it. about two weeks went by that he did not ask. when he did ask again, i didn't really have any milk anyway and told him that he drank it all. i put my arms up and said "you drank it all, it's all gone." he was totally fine with that and never asked again.

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  • MrsPhilDunphyMrsPhilDunphy

    If you continued, would you pump while you're away? I wonder if you'd have milk after two weeks.

    It's such a personal thing - if you're ready, I think the trip sounds like a good time to make the transition. We pretty much did the same thing when we weaned (although I think I stopped a week before, just in case of engorgement issues. I have no idea what you're producing now and if that would be a problem for you.)

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  • amh_navyblueamh_navyblue
    Thanks for the feedback everyone!  I think I'll just wait and see how it goes--I am not going to pump while I'm away and I think pps are right, I think it may be a moot point since I can't imagine I'll have a supply when I get back after 2 weeks.  I have gone for a couple of nights without nursing (because of evening activities) and there were no engorgement issues, so I am guessing things will probably just work themselves out...
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