I don't want a baby shower

Feathah · September 2011

Is there anyone else not having a baby shower? I'm not normally superstitious but I really don't want one. I'd like to have a get together after the baby is born with close family and maybe a couple friends. But that's it. I don't want the attention and all the stuff in my house. Am I crazy?

D&D4Ever7 · September 2011

You are not crazy. I thought about this option also but decided against it because I would be too busy to get together with everyone after my baby is born and also didn't want too many people around my LO while he is so young.
If you feel very strongly about this, definitely let your family know because someone is most likely thinking to set-up a baby shower for you. Hugs

hlyn11 · September 2011

I agree, there is nothing wrong w/ doing it afterwards. I have been to both types of showers and I think it is lots of fun to be able to see the baby after it is born!

DragonflyBelle · September 2011

Mine for Cailin was happening the week after I lost her. The invitations had gone out, everything had been bought and I had no clue. I didn't expect one since I was having another girl. My BFF is still keeping an extra invite in case I am ready to see it one day.

I really do need one this time because I, stupidly, got rid of and donated EVERYTHING but my baby furniture because I wanted it the heck out of my house.

ECHC829 · September 2011

I go back and forth on this.... part of me is really superstitious and would prefer to just have a baby welcoming party after, then like PP mentioned, I dont know if I'll be up (literally, awake ha) for that many people with a newborn. And there are probably a lot of things we would need off the bat.

The thought of having a shower and not getting a take home baby would crush me. We started throwing a St.Patricks Day party every year, maybe we can just co-join that into a couples shower, where it doesn't have to be baby focused present opening etc... but just get what we need so we aren't bare (or broke) by the time the baby arrives, at the same time... I'm refusing to throw myself a shower, so who knows....

I'm trying not to think about it too much, figure I'll deal with it after V-day.

hopeandlove0417 · September 2011

I'm feeling EXACTLY the same way. Your not crazy at all *hugs* I may change my mind in the next few weeks, but as of right now I'm terrified by thought! I just hope my family/friends will be respectful of my decision if I choose to opt out of having one.

Kitttkattt · September 2011

I don't want one either. Maybe afterwards if things work out. I feel that others knowing about my pregnancy will jinx it.

mizdiz444 · September 2011

I'm not thrilled about one either, but my sisters really wanted to throw one. I'm not good in big crowds of people and I'm afraid something could happen in the next few months. I know I can't think that way, but I can't help it.

So no, you're not crazy!

steph141 · September 2011

I am right there with you!!! It sends me into a cold sweat. My DH made us go register last weekend, and on the way, he called MIL. Just hearing her drone on, and on, and on about everything we needed made me break out into a cold sweat. I feel for you! {{Hugs}}

sgarciadiaz · September 2011

I was feeling this too! We went to visit family in another state over the summer and I was 21 weeks, they threw me a surprise shower...I felt so trapped! It was the sweetest thing but after everything with our first pregnancy I thought this was WAY too early to 'shower' me. I didn't really have a choice, so it all went well and I'm thankful that they spent the time and love putting it all together but at the moment I was overwhelmed. Since then I've had another shower (last week) and I have another coming up this weekend. I think if you're emotionally ready for baby stuff in your house, then that's great but you can be the only one to decide that, hopefully you won't get ambushed like me!! I find it hard sometimes walking past the nursery wondering if she'll get here safely...with it all being ready for baby, but I'd rather be 'ready' then not have one thing in the house!

jertie · September 2011

I'm not having one. (We weren't having one for Ace either.) I don't like being the center of attention and anything we need or want we can get for Pip, so I asked family and friends to skip it and spend the money doing something fun with their own families. Big Smile

BabyCampbell312 · November 2011

I have no desire for a baby shower but my friend keeps saying she is going to plan one. I've told her and my DH that I REALLY DO NOT WANT ONE.

Anyone else have or had someone pushing this on them? How did you deal with it?

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