2nd Trimester

Its a boy!!! with possible Downs Syndrome

Today is a special day. My husband and I found out that we are having a boy! Yeeaaa! During the ultrasound they noticed that there wasnt a nasal bone. The doctor told me the possibilities, but to be sure he told me to go to another doctor in the same building for a 2nd opinion. At the 2nd doctor he did 2 ultrasounds (one by him and one by his nurse). They both didnt see the nasal bone and also they saw something in the heart (cant remember what its called) that is also a sign of Downs Syndrome. At that point they did an amniocentesis and we will know the results by Thurs/Friday.

I have a lot on my mind. Of course I want a "normal" child, but I know that God doesnt make mistakes! We are going to love this child the same way that we love our 6 year old daugther. I am praying that everything will be fine, but I will be the best parent I can possibly be no matter what the results are. I have a very caring heart and my child is a gift from God. I just ask for your prayers and any encouraging words. Thanks!

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  • You have such a positive attitude and that makes all the difference! I hope that they are wrong and it turns out he is healthy but if not it sounds like you will make a wonderful mother to a very special baby boy. If it really is the case I think there will be lots of highs and some lows but ultimately he will bring you an endless amount of joy. Good luck!
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  • First congrats on the little boy. That is exciting. I have a dd and now having a son.

    You have a wonderful attitude. I also believe in God and know that He does things for reasons. You will be a wonderful parent to him even if he does have Downs and He knew that from the start.

    Just pray for your little boy and I am sure everything will work out OK no matter what happens.

    Do you have a name for your little guy yet? I will pray for him of course but I do like to put a name with the person I am praying for.

    Would you keep my name and PM me when you get those results.....I want to know how everything works out for you.

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  • I love and admire your attitude, especially so soon after being hit with the news! I pray that your son is healthy, despite his condition :)
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  • I really admire your positive attitude too.  Wishing you the best and congratulations on a boy!!
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  • Your baby is very lucky to have a wonderful mother like you!  I hope the doctors are wrong, and everything will be fine!
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  • Thank you all so much! I know have a special needs child is not easy all of the time, but I know God will not put more on you than you can bare. No, we dont have a name yet because this whole time we thought we were gonna have a girl LOL. I will keep all of you posted. The last 2 1/2 yrs have been very hard. My daughter's dad passed away April 2009. Then my husband and I got married Oct 12, 2010 and 2 hours later, my dad passed. So my wedding day was so hard to deal with. Finally hearing the news us of getting pregnant finally brought our spirits up. So hearing this news today was very hard on us, but I know that prayers go a very long way!
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    Thank you all so much! I know have a special needs child is not easy all of the time, but I know God will not put more on you than you can bare. No, we dont have a name yet because this whole time we thought we were gonna have a girl LOL. I will keep all of you posted. The last 2 1/2 yrs have been very hard. My daughter's dad passed away April 2009. Then my husband and I got married Oct 12, 2010 and 2 hours later, my dad passed. So my wedding day was so hard to deal with. Finally hearing the news us of getting pregnant finally brought our spirits up. So hearing this news today was very hard on us, but I know that prayers go a very long way!

    Congratulations on your baby boy.  I was going to agree with the pp that I admire your postitive attitude after hearing the news.  I admire it even more now after reading about all you have been through.  I aslo agree that God will not put more on you than you can bare.  I hope the tests are wrong and your baby boy is fine.  If not, you were chosen to be his mother because of all your strength and love you have for your children. 

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  • My best friend just had a baby with down syndrome and he has an av valve defect (I didn't know if that was what you were trying to remember.)

    With that being said, I truly believe that God gives special babies to special parents.  I admire your attitude and I know that you will do great with whatever you are dealt. It is hard for some to remember that a baby with down syndrome will still grow up as a happy child.  They will still giggle and laugh and hit milestones like any other chilld.  I am so glad that you are looking at the positive and not dwelling on the negative.  Congrats on your new little prince and my t and p are with you!

    ETA:  I just realized that I posted on the second tri board.  I thought I was on the first tri board the whole time, and couldn't figure out how you already knew what you were having.  Lol!  I might be losing my mind :)




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  • wow, you are going to be an AWESOME mom to this little boy.... it's apparent! No matter what, he is meant to be in your life and what an amazing attitude you have :)
  • You sound like a truly wonderful person. Your children are lucky to have such a caring and supportive mommy. Congratulations on your son...whatever the outcome, he will be perfect. ::hugs::
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  • I really love and admire the way you are handling such difficult news. And as most of the pp stated, I too beleive that God puts special babies and special parents together. With everything that you've gone through in the last few yrs, I believe you will handle whatever comes your way with strength and grace. Your baby boy is so blessed to have you as a mom! Your love and great attitude will make you an amazing momSmile  Sending you a big hug, T&Ps.....
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  • Prayers headed your way.  But your blessing is already in the making!!!
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  • I just wanted to add that there is a "Special Needs" board that might be a good resource for you. 

    Best wishes to you!

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  • Congratulations on your baby boy, I love the special bond between a mom and a son. You sound like you're going to be a phenomenal mom to him no matter what health issues may arise. Hoping the amnio shows nothing of concern but if it does, you sound like you can handle anything and he's lucky to have you! 
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  • Congrats on the baby boy news!!

    T & P's your way for the next couple of days while you wait for the results of your test!  Wishing you the best!

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  • Congrats on a boy! I can't imagine how you are feeling right now while you have to wait for results, but I can tell that your positivity will help you no matter what the results.  Just remember, with God all things are possible! Prayers and hugs to your family.
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  • It's obvious that you are an amazing parent with a ton of love in your heart! Congrats on your little boy!  For what it's worth, my niece has Down's Syndrome (she's 22 years old) and she is the sweetest girl ever!  She is always smiling and laughing!  She loves music and she is "boy crazy."  We all just adore her!  I know that it is tough waiting for your results, but know that if your little guy does have Down's -- it is not such a bad thing...  He will fill your life with joy!  
  • First of all I commend you for your positive outlook and sweet words about your precious baby! Secondly, I wanted to say that I am in a similar boat as you. When we had our 20 week ultrasound and saw we were having a girl, they also found that the skin on the back of her head was measuring thicker than normal which is a downs marker. I think there are 5 markers. My chances are 1/38 for having a downs baby. I feel the same way as you though. God doesn't make mistakes! :) I did make a post about my experience and got a lot of positive feedback. Several people knew of someone whos baby had several indicators and then had a healthy baby. You just never knkw, but It is what it is. I wish you and your family the best!
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  • Thinking of you and your sweet baby. You have my prayers that things will work out hon.
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  • My co-worker had a Down baby a year and a half ago.  She didn't know until she gave birth.  She was initially upset, but has since said "it's the greatest gift you never knew you wanted".  I think you have an amazing outlook and only having read this one post, I think you will be an amazing Mommy. 

     



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  • You have such a positive attitude, and that is why no  matter the results of the amnio, your little one is going to be such a blessing.  GL !
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  • Congratulations on your little boy!

    You are an amazing woman.

     I don't know if you've read Kelle Hampton's blog before, but she is amazing. Her daughter Nella was born with down syndrome and her journey is absolutely worth reading.

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  • You have an amazing attitude about this special situation.  T&P to you and I hope all turns out okay for your & your family.  Your are right...every child is a gift from God.  Blessings to you all!!
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  • I agree that your positive attitude is awesome!  I will be praying for you and your little boy!  I pray all turns out well!!!
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  • I admire you. God doesnt put on us more than what we can bear so things will work out for the best!! I will be praying for you and your LO. Much Love!!
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  • Congrats on your baby boy! I also love your positive attitude. I believe there is a reason for everything. You and your family are in our prayers!
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    Congrats on the baby boy news!!

    T & P's your way for the next couple of days while you wait for the results of your test!  Wishing you the best!

    My BFF has twin boys--one has DS the other does not.  She always says her son with DS has such a sweet nature that it helps balance out the craziness of his hyperactive brother.  He has had a few minor health issues, but overall he is a healthy happy little guy. 

    I agree that God will only give you what he knows you can handle.  No matter what I hope you have a happy healthy baby boy.  :-)

     

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  • Definitely sending T&P your way! 

    I have a close friend whose DS1 has Downs.  He is only a couple weeks younger than my DD1 and is considered to be incredibly high functioning - he has no problems "keeping up" with DD1 or other kids his age.  He also has no Downs-related health issues either.  So it is possible for him to still be "normal" :)  Just hang in there and try not to stress until you get the results. 

    If he does end up having Downs, try to find a local Easter Seals organization - they are a non-profit that offers various services for individuals with disabilities from infancy to adulthood.  They can be a great resource for your family.  I used to work for them and have seen first hand the positive impact that they have had on many families :)

     

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  • I can honestly say that your positive attitude is going to take you a long way! You are correct God does not makes mistakes so I will be sure to keep your family in my prayers. I wish you all the best and good luck with your results.
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  • Congratulations on the boy!  Like PP said you are going to be a wonderful mom.  You totally have the right attitude, so maybe God knew that you could handle it. 

    I have a nephew with Downs and I wouldn't trade him for the world.  Yes there are some difficulties but the rewards are wonderful as well.  GL!

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  • I just want to thank each and everyone of you who post on this thread. I am in tears right now. The news finally settle in this morning and I have been an emotional wreck! I thought the test results would be back tomorrow like the 2nd doctor said, but I found out that it actually takes up to 4 weeks to know. You have no idea how great it felt to come back to this message board and see all of the wonderful messages you all have written.  I have so much going on in my mind. I know that God will make this situation the best that he can. Thank u all soo soooooo sooo much for the prayers and support, I truly mean that!!!
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