I can't stop worrying.

kmh1203 · September 2011

I really have nothing specific to worry about, but I can't get it out of my head that I could have a miscarriage. It's hard to even get excited.
I'm 9 weeks, and saw the baby and the heartbeat last Thursday. I heard that once you see the heartbeat, the chance of miscarriage drops dramatically. However, I googled it (which I really need to stop doing) and some things had ridiculous statistics, like the chances still being 30% ? It also doesn't help seeing about how other people had miscarriages at 11 weeks or 12 weeks, because then I know it's not extremely rare.
Anyone have comforting words? Or maybe the actual chances of miscarriage at this point? I planned to ask my doctor but I was so excited about the ultrasound that I just forgot about everything.
Thanks

ephillips1981 · September 2011

My doctor told me that after a strong heartbeat and growth rate are calculated the risk of miscarriage drop drastically. She said it doesn't mean that it still couldn't happen, but that it is much less likely...I think none of us can help but worry. Getting ready for parenthood I guess!

heathie2010 · September 2011

Stop googling! I'm a worrier, too. I wake up in the middle of the night with worries - is the baby ok, is it going to have all it's fingers and toes, will it be artistic like us or good at math that I won't be able to help with.

As far as miscarriage goes, I had a CP in April and have been worried about a miscarriage ever since. We go see the doctor tomorrow and get to hear the heartbeat and I'm sure all will be fine. Just try to relax, it'll only help the baby if we can stay calm.

altachica · September 2011

I agree with the "stop googling" advice. So many times I've worked myself up and cried worrying about these random statistics that I find. It doesn't help that I'm a researcher for a living and with this being my first pregnancy I delve into things I probably don't need to be delving into.

Just try to relax (easier said than done).

By the way, also liked the artistic statement---If my baby is a math genius--then my hubby and I are in trouble!

huskymomma94 · September 2011

After my ultrasound on Friday my doctor told me that the chances of miscarriage are about 3%. Try not to worry, I know its hard. And stop googling!

kmh1203 · September 2011

huskymomma94:

After my ultrasound on Friday my doctor told me that the chances of miscarriage are about 3%. Try not to worry, I know its hard. And stop googling!

Thanks! I was hoping someone would tell me what their doctor told them about that.
And thanks to everyone else for answering also!
I know once I get over the fear of miscarriage, I'm going to worry about the baby having some horrible disease or something, so I guess I really should just get used to worrying.

and123 · September 2011

I was terrified for my entire first trimester with my son. It's part of being a mother!

I did find, however, that the more I researched, the more worried I became. There are always stories to be found that can make you worry. So far, your pregnancy is healthy. Try to focus on taking the best care of yourself and enjoying being pregnant. As you already know, it really is an amazing experience, morning sickness and all.

kmh1203 · September 2011

and123:
I was terrified for my entire first trimester with my son. It's part of being a mother! I did find, however, that the more I researched, the more worried I became. There are always stories to be found that can make you worry. So far, your pregnancy is healthy. Try to focus on taking the best care of yourself and enjoying being pregnant. As you already know, it really is an amazing experience, morning sickness and all.

I know, I would go to google to try and feel better and end up so worried. I will not be googling anything else.

charmschool · September 2011

Here is the way I look at it, maybe it will help you. The statistics don't matter AT ALL. Whether the chances of miscarriage at this point are 30% or 3%, it really doesn't matter. You're either going to be in that 3% (or 30%) or you're not. Other peoples miscarriages and healthy pregnancies have nothing to do with you. The best thing you can do right now is to relax and stay as healthy as possible!

dutchess546 · September 2011

I think it is a female thing... i am a Google'r as well. i google everything! and i have been told by many of people, many of times, that i need to stop. especially when it comes to this. But i worry, i worry about getting too attached and then what if something happens. My friend tells me to have Faith not Fear. so that is what i have to keep telling myself. and to stop thinking the worst & hope for the best... and what is meant to be will be.

I am just very impatient... and waiting another 3 weeks until i have my first apt could be the dealth of me!

Here is to Healthy Momma's & Babbies! Drinks v non-alcoholic of course Angel

HotChocolate79 · September 2011

No advice but me too. I haven't enjoyed a single thing about this pregnancy so far because I am worried sick over losing it. I've had two chemical pregnancies before and spent about 4 years TTC. I have a very hart time believing that I am actually pregnant. I know that ultimately it doesn't change anything and what will happen, will happen anyway. But for a long time, I've had to work on wrapping my mind around being childfree-not-by-choice, and it will be that much harder to go back to thinking that way again if this doesn't work out. I've cried more in the last two weeks than I have in the year past. Again, no advice, but here's to hoping that both feel better soon.