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NPSR: Is this a big deal or not?

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So, my husband travels alot for work.  I'm a SAHM of our 4 year old daughter.  I love it but I have to admit that I am a little "jealous" of DH because he gets away from the day-to-day stresses since he has to travel so often.  Granted, we both have our share of stresses that go with the territory of our jobs, but what I wouldn't kill for a 3 night stay at a hotel, a soft bed, dinners out and TV time all without being interrupted every two minutes! :)  Recently, he traveled to Denver for a football game.  Coincedentally, the day after he returned was his mom's birthday.  He wanted to visit with her (which I was fine with) but I wanted to drive separately so that I could leave earlier and hang out with a few friends of mine.  He made a huge deal about that so I gave in and spent the entire afternoon hanging out with him and his mom.  The same situation is happening now:  friends of mine want to get together for a quick happy hour.  He has to travel 2 days, Wednesday and Thursday.  Friday, he wants to leave for Houston to make it to his cousin's wedding (which is Saturday) because the guys are getting together for a bachelor party.  My night out with the girls would have to be a Tuesday.  (Monday, DD has a dance class.)  

I'm saying all of that to say: would it be asking too much of him to make a few adjustments to HIS schedule to accommodate the one time a quarter that I want to hang with my girls?  I understand that nothing can be done about work; I'd never ask him to make that change but a bachelor party?  Especially when he just came back from a 3 day Denver trip for a football game?  Let me know what y'all think.  

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Re: NPSR: Is this a big deal or not?

  • jeroljerol
    No- you are not asking too much!  hanging out with my friends is very important to me and DH knows that so he also helps to work things out so that I can do that once a month.
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  • RoxBrideRoxBride member

    I think you have every right to expect him to adjust his schedule for your needs, and spending time without kids is a need.

    That said, a cousin's bachelor party is a rare occasion, at least in my family, and if he is remotely close to his cousin and other realtives that might be there, I think he should go.

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  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member
    I think he should be flexible, but I also think you might need to hire a babysitter.
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  • shellybird101shellybird101

    Not at all, we all have to have time to ourselves.  Are you going to the wedding too?

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  • cecee36cecee36
    imageshellybird101:

    Not at all, we all have to have time to ourselves.  Are you going to the wedding too?

     I am reluctantly going to the wedding.  I'm putting up a good front, showing that I'm interested and supportive of the relative getting married but do I feel like spending another night with my daughter, cooped up in a hotel room with no comforts of home while he "bachelor nights' it" with the boys?  Not.  Even.  Almost.   

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