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When did you stop visiting?

TotalyuppieTotalyuppie
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For the past 3 months I have visited my LO at daycare during my lunch break almost everyday. He is normally happy when I visit and has no problem when I leave. Friday, when I went to leave he started to stare at me and cry, arms outstretched in my direction. He is only 5 months old, was it just an off moment or has the time come for the visits to stop. I don't want to upset him in the middle of the day and leave the poor teachers to deal with a fussy LO. When do LO's start to understand the whole "leaving" thing?
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Re: When did you stop visiting?

  • Jessys_GirlJessys_Girl

    I never did the visit during lunch thing because I work 20 minutes from my mom's (my mom does in home daycare for DD and DD's 2 cousins). 

    But usually around 5 - 6 months is when I think babies start to understand the whole "leaving" thing so it seems your son might be starting to recognize, mommy comes and then mommy goes.

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  • SouthFloridaMommySouthFloridaMommy member

    I never visit DD1 or DD2 at daycare, and never have.  I work 45 minutes from daycare (daycare is close to my home, far from work) so it would be pretty impossible for me.  Plus, they have a schedule there that I don't like to mess with.  The one or two times I could have swung by, it was nap time and I didn't want to wake anyone.

    I guess it was only one day that your LO had a problem with you leaving - maybe it was a fluke?  If it continues, I would try to stop visiting because it will be harder on you and LO.  I just hate when they cry at drop off.  Thank goodness it doesn't happen often.

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  • Erikajojo23Erikajojo23
    I was in the same boat as you. I visited LO at daycare almost every day on my lunch, once I went back to work (her daycare is 2 minutes from where I work). I had to stop around 6 months as well because she was fussy when I left. It just made it too hard on me, her, and the daycare teachers. So, I made the decision to stop going and visiting. I was nice while it lasted though and I can still watch her on the webcam!
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  • shannmshannm member

    Day one.  I didn't have the option.

    In the event that I have the chance to visit with #2, I will only if I choose to BF rather than provide a bottle at that time of day.  And as soon as it seemed to disrupt the flow of things, I would stop. 

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  • Aloe0lAloe0l member
    I stoped visiting shortly after DD dropped her noontime nursing session.  It was around 9mo.  Also around that time, she would get really upset when I would leave her, so, it was better for everyone that I cut out the visits.  She never cried long after I left of course, but the daily disruption was becoming hard on everyone.
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  • cc62406cc62406
    Slightly different perspective from me. I visited until he was almost 1 year. I would feed him and often time lay him down for a nap so there was no seperation issues. I think you just need to do what is best for you, baby and the teachers and other students. I am so glad visiting worked, but I told the teachers to be honest about if I was disrupting other babies, naptime, etc.
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  • CrazyToastCrazyToast member
    I agree w/ PP - the visits are for you and you're upsetting him, so no more visits. 
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  • TotalyuppieTotalyuppie

    Thanks for the input ladies. I didn't go today as I agree that if he really is starting to be upset by my leaving than the lunchtime visits are doing more harm than good.

    Instead I watched videos of him on my phone. Poor substitute but it will have to do!

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  • ZoeyMarieZoeyMarie member
    I never visited G at daycare. I work 40 minutes from my house and the DCP. But, it sounds like you may want to start backing it off a bit. Let him be excited to see you and go home with you. No use in putting more stress for you or him into the situation than there already is.
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