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I think I am going to have a meltdown!

HeavenlyExcitedBrideHeavenlyExcitedBride
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I've been seeing a therapist for awhile and it has been wonderful.  I have told my family and a few good friends of my situation with my stbxh divorcing me.

 However, I guess I never dealt with my own pain yet and that was made obvious when I went to a fairly large event at my church the other night.  I let it slipped that I am getting divorced to a couple of people that I was not ready to tell.  Prior to telling, there were so many people asking me about why my husband was not there.  I think I let it pent up and exploded because I felt so fake.  Now I am mortified... like I don't want to show up at any more events.

Part of it was I was not ready and yet I let it slip out.  The other part is that I believe it is a tendency for church goers to have a higher expectation on marriage.

I know *** happens but still, I can't help but feel so mortified inside.  I guess I need to lay low or something going forward but seems like too late for that now that the information is out there.  Thanks for letting me vent.

 

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Re: I think I am going to have a meltdown!

  • achase123achase123

    Don't worry so much about what others think.  You know why you are ending your marriage and you don't need to justify that to anyone.

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  • cemacmilcemacmil
    imageachase123:

    Don't worry so much about what others think. 

    This. Also as far as the church-goers, I was raised Catholic and currently attend but do not participate (only because I haven't practiced for so long, not because of circumstance) in church. My mom gave me some advice, St. Augustine said that no matter what decisions you make in life as long as you make them out of love you are right. Even if that is love for yourself.

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  • lauragetsfitlauragetsfit member
    I'm still new in the game, too. My STBXH and I are getting divorced and I'm still prego. I was worried that people would look at me and judge me. I'm learning that it doesn't matter what others think. Just remember you're doing what's right for yourself and your baby. Life will get better. And, you don't have to explain anything to anyone if you don't want to :)
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