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Birthday party quandary

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So, DS is not even 9 months old, and he already has 2 party invitations for the same day.  He's taking after his social butterfly Mama!  Big Smile

The first party is a 1 year old's party.  I met the mom through my mom's group and it is in a very nice restaurant.  Obviously the focus here is on the adults.  The second party is a 3 year old's party at Gymboree.  The mom is a very good friend of mine.  Focus here is on the kids.

I'm leaning towards the first party as I would like to continue fostering this new friendship, especially since our boys are so close in age.  I imagine this will be a very nice lunch, whereas DS is too young to really enjoy Gymboree. I am trying to figure out some way to go to both, but I just don't think it's possible.  The times overlap and the distance between them is too far.  If we stayed at the first party for an hour and a half, we'd have an hour at the second party.  That would be the best we could do if we tried to do both.  I guess I feel obligated to go to my good friend's party.

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Re: Birthday party quandary

  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Could you go to the "adult" party and have DH take your kiddo to the "kid" party?  Or would that be weird for your hubby, if he's never really met these people.

    Just a thought.  I do like the idea of hitting both of them, but I like parties!

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  • NewMrs07NewMrs07 member
    I think doing both would be very tiring for your LO, and it's no fun for anyone when LO's are cranky! If I were you I would pick the one your good friend is hosting. I was hurt when some of my friends didn't attend my son's birthday party at our home. I think your friend would be more hurt if you didn't go than that mom you just met at your mom group. Your LO is to young to enjoy either of those parties anyway.
    Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
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  • mwdmwd member
    I would go to the friend party, and then invite the mom and her LO over for lunch another time to celebrate the birthday.  It depends how much you want to foster the new relationship.  Social butterfly that you are, I am sure you will work it out.  
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  • KerryHSKerryHS
    Tough call.  I can understand wanting to make new friends and also not wanting to upset or hurt another good friend's feelings.  I like meeting new people and expanding my circle of friends so I would be really tempted to go to the lunch party, but it would really come down to how my good friend would react.  I have some friends who wouldn't blink an eye about me not being able to go to their child's birthday party.  I have other friends who would be really hurt if I didn't go.  Like I said, tough call.  Good luck with your decision.  Either way - I hope you have fun :-)
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  • PeskyPesky member
    If you think your friend would be hurt by your non-attendance, I would attend that one and as pp suggested, set up a playdate with the other mom instead.  If you don't think your friend will be offended, then I'd go to the other mom's but you would know that best.


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  • rsrn02rsrn02
    imagemwd:
    I would go to the friend party, and then invite the mom and her LO over for lunch another time to celebrate the birthday.  It depends how much you want to foster the new relationship.  Social butterfly that you are, I am sure you will work it out.  
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  • superauntsuperaunt member
    i'm not a social butterfly so i'd go to the 2nd one myself but if i were a social butterfly and if i thought my kid could hack it i'd go to the 1st bday party and then try to at least show up to the 3yo's party... yeah, she's your good friend but your little one can't really do anything at Gymboree (right? i've never been) so no need to be there for the whole thing, right?
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  • Piranha54Piranha54

    imagemwd:
    I would go to the friend party, and then invite the mom and her LO over for lunch another time to celebrate the birthday.  It depends how much you want to foster the new relationship.  Social butterfly that you are, I am sure you will work it out.  

    this is essentially what I was going to suggest - the kids will get to play together and you'll get a chance to chat.

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