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Texas77again · September 2011

ummmm, OMFG. i just read your post about your RE appt and i'm sitting here with tears in my eyes and shocked! i had started to write you a PM, but i decided that i was going to put it here for everyone to see.

i am fat. i've always been fat. i'll probably always be fat. my mom's a big woman and my dad is a big guy. we's just big people. i weigh more than my hubs. i weigh more than most of my friends. i weigh more than the three doctors that i work for. i'm the biggest girl in my office. would i like to lose weight? yes. do i like being fat? no. do i try to work on it all.the.time? yes. do i put in an honest effort? probably not. lol. i am an emotional eater and addicted to carbs, and sweet carbs at that.

i wear a size 22/24 and i honestly think that if someone has not dealt with addictions or emotional eating that they don't get it. they think all you have to do is stop eating or exercise. they don't get that for some people, like me, it is a mental problem that needs to be dealt with first. the overeating for me is a symptom, not the problem.

i thought that my weight would hold be back from getting pg, and maybe it did, i don't really know for sure. i have suspicions of what our problem was, but that's another story. i was terrified to go to my first appt with the fert specialist because i just knew he was going to say to me what your dr said to you. he didn't and i was shocked. he did say that if i could lose 50 lbs it would be great, but that was that.

when i went for my first appt with the RE i was shaking while sitting in the waiting room because i was afraid to have the whole appt be about my weight. for me it was more about my high bp, he went on and on and on and on and on and on about that. kinda pissed me off and i finally had to ask him if we could move on to another subject. he did say that he was refusing to treat me until i got my bp under control. it wasn't so much what he was saying to me, as the WAY that he said it to me. he made me feel similar to what you felt. when i left his office i sat in my car and cried. he was a *** and it felt so good to call back to his office and tell them their services were no longer needed when i found out i was pg.

girlfriend, please don't let what that dickface said to you get you down. he's an insensitive priick and has totally forgotten that he got into this field to help people, not to make them feel like shiit. i'm so sorry that you had that experience. fuuck him and try to find someone else that will be caring and willing to help you achieve your goal of being a mom. this shiit pisses me off and i don't like to see you being treated this way. i'm extra sensitive to this subject because it's so personal to me.

Love you!

Texas77again · September 2011

Hi wicked!! i miss you too!

Rawr08 · September 2011

Thank you so much for your kind words. I have since emailed two different clincs, but have not gotten a response yet.

I knew my weight was going to be an issue, I was terrified to go to the appointment. I had to mentally prepare myself to make it to the appointment. Then to have it turn into something 100 times worse then what I thought was awful. I wish I could have asked him to move on from the subject, I was just too busy crying. I am still not sure how to inform the clinic of how awful that Dr. treated me.

I hope my time will come, that we can get KU all on our own.

PS-HI Wicked! Wink

+SMACE+ · September 2011

I wonder if that _fuck_head doctor would have been as cruel to a person who was a smoker or a heavy drinker.

I really want to hulk smash that idiot's face in.

EclairAngst · September 2011

Texas77again:
girlfriend, please don't let what that dickface said to you get you down. he's an insensitive priick and has totally forgotten that he got into this field to help people, not to make them feel like shiit. i'm so sorry that you had that experience. fuuck him and try to find someone else that will be caring and willing to help you achieve your goal of being a mom. this shiit pisses me off and i don't like to see you being treated this way. i'm extra sensitive to this subject because it's so personal to me.

Love you!

All of this, but especially this. I'm still pissed.

Rawr08 · September 2011

Thanks guys!!! It means a lot to have all of your support!!

CashewsMommy · September 2011

:::butting in:::

Yes Yes

and a big {{hugs}} to rawr!!

::butting out::

Cissi64 · September 2011

wickedsugar:

::Butting in:::

Miss you Texas !!!

::Butting Out::

Ditto from me!

damabo80 · September 2011

CashewsMommy:

:::butting in:::

and a big {{hugs}} to rawr!!

::butting out::

Ditto as well. I have 100% faith that you'll be able to find an RE who can help, and not in a "lose weight then come see me" help (which isn't really help). On a side note, I have heard that more RE's do this in an effort to increase their success rates. Which makes sense....if they only treat 100% physically "perfect" people, they will have higher success rates. What is forgotten is that the job of an RE is to help people get PG, even if it "lowers" their success rates. So, maybe take a look at the RE's around your area for one with lower success rates....this tells me that they don't only treat the "perfect patient".

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