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about to file for divorce
I can't take it anymore. Told the h today. He doesn't think I'm serious. I don't know what to do. He doesn't think I will do it because I don't work and need him for the money, true, but I can't live my life unhappy with him anymore. We have no relationship and the final straw came today when he put me down for being on anti-depressants. There is no problem with him, the problem lies with me because he's not the one who has to take medication to make it through the day.
I don't know what to do. I stah. I don't have a degree, some classes under my belt, but no degree, Anyone else been in this situation? Where do I start? I know I have to get a job. How do I find a laywer? I'm in Michigan. Is there somewhere that has a listing? I'm clueless.
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Re: about to file for divorce
Usually there is an organization that can help you through stuff. In colorado, it is called the Alpha Center. Michigan should have a place that provides resources and a person to talk to to get all this information from. Also, if you take classes at a community college, they are required to have some sort of program to help single parents in finding jobs, daycare, health care... all that stuff.
I was in counseling before by myself, I will be returning soon. We were in couples therapy but he was a total different person there, the person he used to be, then we would leave and it would be a total different story until the next appt. We had to cancel one appt. for his work and he never rescheduled. He travels and works long hours sometimes. He said he wanted to reschedule and would, but never did and when I would reschedule, we'd cancel because he ended up working or whatever. There is so much more that has been going on for so long. He told me yesterday that this is what he has wanted for a very long time, even though he's been trying to make me feel bad and guilty for not being happy with him and our marriage, and that marrying me was the biggest mistake of his life and he never should have done it. The only reason it's not a regret he says, is because of the kids.
Where in Michigan are you located? I'm in Eaton county (I grew up in/work in Calhoun Country)...maybe I can help you locate some resources.
Your H sounds like a grade A maniuplator. He's twisting everything around to make you feel like that bad person -- stay strong and know that you're doing this to create a better life for you and your children.
I'm in St. Claire county, borderline Macomb.