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wrong of me?
DH picked our boys name this go round and I have two girl names I am in love with and have pretty much decided that one of them will be our girls name if we ever have one. I refuse to budge on it (just like he refused to budge on MJs name) BUT EVERYONE in my family hates both of the names I absolutely love.
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Bristol
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Re: wrong of me?
I'm not sure of what you're asking, but I also hate the names, and I think you and your husband should both love the name you choose.
I would never compromise on something so important. Are you going to divide up all parenting tasks by the gender of baby and parent?
I think you both need to negotiate with each other.
FWIW, I think both of your girl names are....not my style.
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If I was dumb enough to do that my child would never get taken care of since he is never home anyway
Oh dear. Honey, your husband is being a complete and total douchebag. Getting to name your child isn't a luxury, it's a right. If you despise the name, don't use it. You as the mother have to sign the birth certificate to secure a name. Tell your husband that. If you don't like the name, there's nothing he can do about it. Maybe that will get him to talk about other names.
only a jerk when you try to budge him on his oppinion. he has to be right all the time. But Im going to suck it up, stop looking to the boards for help and move on.
Good luck on your pregnancies and children ladies.
I am sorry, I also do not like your girl names at all.
As far as your boy name all I can say is grow a pair. You are a grown woman and this childs mother, you should put your foot down if you really dislike the name. Stand up for yourself, it is that simple. If your husband is such a jerk I think it's time for counseling not catering to him and naming your child something you do not like. Sorry if that was harsh, but you really need to take your power back.
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For what? Not liking her name? or telling her that her husband is acting like a jerk when he reduced a pregnant woman to tears?
That "I hope you never have a girl" comment may have been out of line, but that was just one person. No need to qualify the entire board over it.
Thank you.
OP, seriousl question:
What were you looking for in this post? Opinions on your girl names? Opinions on the boy name? Opinions on you and your husband's naming strategy? Were you just making statements?
What were you asking and what kind of responses were you hoping for? I honestly do not understand how anyone was being mean (except for perhaps the one commenter that wished girlessness on you). Can you explain what you were wanting and how the responses failed to live up to your expectations?
After going back up and reading my post, half of it didnt show up. Not sure where it went. But I was looking for advice on bringing up naming to my husband without starting a battle. I know I have seen plenty of posts where mom and dad were liking two different names I just never looked at them. Hoping for someone to help me bring up a compromise. The first few posts stung a little but I have been hearing I hate those names for weeks now so it was not as bad as the I hope you never have a girl. That was just flat out rude and extremely hurtful considering what I went through to just have this baby and all the struggles. But anyway, just advice on a next move
Ok. Well honestly, it sounds that he's so stubborn, that there isn't a diplomatic way to go about compromising. If it were me, I would just directly tell him "we're not naming the baby Mac." And take it from there. It doesn't sound like he's leaving you room to compromise, so you have to just take charge. Remind him that the baby is half yours, and you get a say. If it were me, I would read what some of these posts say about him to try to knock some sense into him.
Thank you. He read the posts (why he wanted to turn off the internet) and he did seem to finally get it. He got that look like something clicked in his head. We spoke briefly and decided to pick it back up later. he is cutting down a tree thats about to fall on our house before our fire meeting
Oh! I forgot! I use this line a lot for people who ask the same questions as you. Tell him "If you wanted to name a baby all by yourself, you should have taken the steps to becoming a single parent".
Well, since you are posting on this board I guess that includes you too. Smart one aren't you?
I think it's time to back away from the computer and take stock of your day-to-day. Your anger's a bit misdirected.
I'm really glad you two had something of a meeting of the minds, and he's willing to work with you on the name. It will be great to get through this issue, because I find that in my relationship, we have to compromise and work together more than ever before now that our baby has arrived. It takes a lot of work to be loving and respectful all of the time; good for you for working on it.
I remember telling my family I was thinking of naming our DD Violet. They HATED it. I never imagined it would make me so emotional, so I understand how you're feeling (at least in part).
FWIW, I like Bristol.
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Glad it took a random comment by a stranger on the internet to get you to actually talk to your husband.
Seriously though, the two of you need to talk about names together before you end up with another child who's name you resent. It's ultimately nobody else's decision but your own.
I honestly could give two sh*ts what anyone else would think (besides my husband) about what we finally decide on. It's something that only you guys can decide on. You're never going to find a name that EVERYONE likes.
Just be mature about it. You're bringing a human being into this world. Time to grow up.
-gets off soapbox-
You hit the nail on the head. I can't believe people who are bringing another human into the world can't even communicate effectively with each other. I am worried for you OP. I hope you can work it out or life will be even more complicated with a baby involved.
And FWIW, I would be really unhappy with the name Mac too. Talk to him about this.
All of this fighting over two (awful) names for a hypothetical baby? Both names are terrible IMO, but you're already looking ahead to future, potential girl babies! Two big ifs there-- we might as well talk about what we'd all do if we won the lottery tomorrow.
And FWIW, your husband is a giant piece of sh**.
*eyeroll*
OP- your issues with your DH are deeper than an internet baby names board can help you with.
...and your hypothetical girl names are...not my style we'll say.
Amen!! I was reading these posts and thinking, this can not be for real!
Your husband sounds like a diick, Instead of worrying about baby names I'd worry about his sorry asss.
GL, OP!
Ummmmm next time please do a clicky poll and save us all the drama.
FWIW I am with your family, those names are horrible.
Your DH is wrong for deciding on the boys name without your input. Why are his feelings more important than yours? I think that both parents should get veto power on the name. It's something that you will live with for the rest of your lives. From the child's perspective, it would be really sad to find out later on that one parent doesn't like your name.
Maybe start by each of you making lists of names that you like for boys and girls. Then, see if your lists have any overlap. Hopefully this will at least open up the discussion. The key is to compromise and find a name you can both like. It may not be the name that you would use if it was just you making the decision. But, then again, two people made this child.
Your girl names are NMS. However, your family doesn't get to name your child. You should decide the name based on what you and your husband want, period. You guys are the ones who will be raising the child. And naming is so personal that you will never find a name that pleases everyone.
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