I'm a lurker but I need to vent for a second and you ladies are the only ones who will understand.
DH has 13 months left on his current contract and we're trying to decide if he's going to stay in or get out (he's been in for 7). We have this conversation almost daily and everyday we change our minds. DH is currently a recruiter and is not enjoying it at all and we're both worried that that will affect his decision. We have gone over all the pros and cons of staying in and getting out and they're pretty equal. Anyways, besides it annoying me not knowing what we're going to do, nobody around me understands how hard it is to make this decision. We're in an area where there aren't any military families so none of our friends understand and to my family it's a no brainer to get out because they want us to move closer to them (which is our plan). It's hard to hear how much they would miss us if we stayed in since we would have to move (we live 3 hours away right now) and how much my kids love being around family. Plus, if DH stays in, he'll most likely deploy mulitple times. To my family, that's reason enough for him to get out. Unfortunately it's not that easy. It's a very tough decision for many reasons and I can't get anyone to understand that.
I don't know if any of this made sense, but I just needed to vent to some people who would understand where I'm coming from. Thanks for letting me get this out!