2+ moms- how many visitors did you have?

ChloeBelle58 · September 2011

For those of you that already have a child, how many people came to see you while you were in the hospital? I am very active in my church, and I expect that some people we aren't super close to may surprise us by showing up. Did this happen to you? Also, did you have lots of visitors to your home the first week or so that LO was born? If so, did you like it or did it wear you out?

b.heather · September 2011

We specifically asked that no one but our closest family come to the hospital. We only had a couple people disregard this request. I was still a bit peeved because I looked a felt like crapola (had to be on mag sulfate due to pre-e) and was trying to nurse, etc. Also you have nurses come in a lot to check your "business", etc. I personally don't get why people who aren't super close to you want to come to the hospital...

We also didn't want a lot of visitors at the house right away - I was nervous about germs and our world was turned upside down with nursing DD, lack of sleep, etc. However, our close family and friends were welcome (as long as they called ahead). I did NOT wake the baby to see people, and I also did NOT go hide in a back room to nurse.

MommaErica · September 2011

I had a lot of visitors because we have a huge family. I liked the visitors but, everyone is different and I think your wishes should be respected if you don't feel up to a lot of hospital visitors.

We are active in our church as well. I'm sure when our baby is born, an announcement will be made. If I were you, I'd just ask the pastor to say either "visitors welcome" or "visitors will be welcomed after mom and baby are home."

Holley+Day · September 2011

Tons of visitors in the hospital, but minimal at home, we asked every one to give us a little time to adjust to our new family and routine, even though it was usually just a few days, it helped and every one was kind enough to listen. Both moms? stopped by to see if we were ok though, but didn't stay long, it was a nice gesture but they both understood we needed to rest. I loved all the people coming to see our little miracles and they were all welcome even if unexpected But to me home was more private and I was glad for the chance to be alone.

RedCamaro · September 2011

We had a decent amount of people aside from family members come by the hospital. However, all of them called first. The hospital we'll be going to this time has very limited hours for visitors, so I'm not worried about being bombarded there.

At home for the first 2 weeks, I didn't want any visitors. If someone offered to bring a meal I would accept it, but kindly let them know that we weren't ready to show off baby yet. It will be the same way with this LO especially since we'll be in the middle of flu season.

brewcitybride · September 2011

If people showed up that were not super close to me, I would not have let them in my room. Just sayin'

My mom, DH's mom, DH's dad. My BFF and her husband. My DH's aunt and grandpa. That was it, and it was spread out over 3 days. I could NOT have taken any more.

mbgreenwalt · September 2011

We had about 15 of our close family and friends come visit in the hospital. We had family and friends in and out all week after we came home. DD was a really easy baby so it personally didn't bother me, but I am one of those "the more the merrier" kind of people.

vanessa11411 · September 2011

Too many. I had people show up who I didn't even tell I was in labor. People just came and kept coming. When I got home it was a little less hectic. This time around I just want it to be me and DH and I'd like DD to be the first to meet LO.

LurkieLoo · September 2011

I only let people know that I had him if I was okay with them visiting. That meant that only my family and two best friends heard that the baby was born before we came home

I had a c-section so we were there for almost 4 days- my parents and one brother came daily, my other brother and his girlfriend came once, my girl friends once as well. Once home we really didn't have any visitors which was great because my recovery was awful.

sbelle3 · September 2011

With my first baby I had a ton of visitors. It actually stressed me out and I am a very social person. When we got home we had a lot of visitors as well. I was having a really hard time nursing and the visitors definitly contributed to "let's give him a bottle just this once" while someone was there. When DS2 was born I guess the novelty of a new baby had worn off in my family bc I definitly didn't have as many visitors. He was also born at 10pm, which was AWESOME! I could just rest and no one was coming that late. With him, I knew better so whether visitors were there or not I excused myself to nurse him. I will do the same this time. It's nice that people care about my baby but I won't hesitate to be a "rude hostess" and leave, sleep etc. when we need to.

britzymama · September 2011

I am not a 2+ mom..but I am worried about the hospital part too..what happens when it's time to breast feed? I don't want to whip out my boob infront of DH's family. DH has a huge family at least 30 and I know I will be stressed if they all come :S

Janimal · September 2011

I had NO visitors at the hospital. I was exhausted, DD had jaundice on the Billi bed so I was pumping every couple hours to try and get my supply going, and feeding her, and dang if it isn't hard to sleep in a hospital. We have no local family and I just wasn't up to seeing people. Some friends were bummed but it was about ME at that point!

Once we got home, we accepted visitors from time to time, but not long visits.

mrsjenniferg2010 · September 2011

We had 8 visitors during our whole stay. At home we had more, but it was like 2 or 3 at a time. I liked it sometimes. Mostly when someone held the baby while I rested a bit.

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