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TTC after 35
Hi, I'm new
Hi, I am currently on cycle 3 of TTC and I will be turning 39 next month. My DH and I were married in June and hope we will be able to add to our family. I have two children from a previous marriage but struggled with infertility for two years before I had them (I had my first daughter at age 30, after conceiving while on Clomid). My second daughter was even more of a miracle because I conceived naturally, without any fertility drugs! She just turned 7.
I am really nervous about TTC at my age. I have a long history of endometriosis, which affected my fertility when I was younger. Now that I am almost 39 I feel like the deck is stacked against me. I had an IUD and was not having periods. I had that removed after DH and I got married and I've had two periods since then. Before I had the IUD my cycles would be about 31 days. Now my periods seem to be coming after only 24 days. Last week I had what felt like a hot flash, out of the blue. The only other time I've had hot flashes was when I was pregnant, which I am not (I took a test) so now I am worried I might be starting menopause early! I've heard shorter cycles and hot flashes can be signs.
My OB said he will prescribe Clomid if I am not pregnant after this cycle but I am wondering what are the odds of getting pregnant? Are they dramatically lower at 39 than at age 30? I've been reading some posts on here about RE's and I'm wondering if due to my age I should directly go see an RE instead of my OB.
Anyway, just wanted to say hello & hope to get to know you all better. 
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Re: Hi, I'm new
Hi and welcome. I don't want to scare you, but since you asked -- 39 is A LOT different than 30 when it comes to getting PG and a lot can change in those years. Looking at the stats, there really is a drop in fertility after age 35. You might be one of the lucky ones with no problems, but I definitely would go straight to an RE for testing to figure out where you stand.
Many OB's will prescribe clomid like it's candy without bothering to do an HSG first to see if your tubes are blocked (possibly by endo since you have a history of it). Clomid won't help with a blocked tube.
Similarly, if your ovarian reserve has become compromised, clomid would be useless (I was told it would not increase my chances in any way) but you might have a better chance with injectible meds.
Finally, YH should get a semen analysis done before you try any treatments, because fertility issues are just as likely to be from the male side as from the female side (contrary to what most people seem to believe).
Once you have all of the information, then you can make decisions about how to proceed -- rather than spending months and months waiting and wondering what could be going on. That's how I see things, at least.
welcome!!!!
I began my TTC when I was one month from 39 and I am now 41 (ouch). I went to an OB for a year and looking back I feel like it was a waste of time. To do it again...yup for sure I would have asked to be referred to the RE right away. For sure there is a chance that you could concieve without ART it happens all the time. Knowing that you have had "issues" previously I'd want the RE.
Wishing you luck in your cycle.
5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
Fibroid removal Nov2010
IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty
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This. I was 37 when I started trying and it is not looking like I will ever get PG at this point. You just never know which side of the coin you will fall on. I would not waste any time and get the initial testing done now just to see what you are starting with. 39 and 30 are entirely different worlds unfortunately. I also have much shorter cycles than I used to with some night sweats and I am very DOR.
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
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me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)
MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!
Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!
Welcome to the board. I agree with the woman that said that you should see an RE. I also have had endo in the past. You really need to make sure that the endo is not blocking anything before you start clomid. You also need to make sure that you have proper monitoring with clomid.
Good luck!
Sorry to interrupt your thread, but does anyone know what it means when the opposite happens? All of a sudden my cycles are getting longer - not shorter. Does this indicate DOR as well? Or something else? Again, sorry.
Just wanted to properly welcome you (after I so rudely interrupted!) and I hope that your stay here is a short one!
GL!
Yeah, I have no idea! The shorter cycles and DOR does not make sense to me since with menopause, your period stop showing up or shows up after being missing for a few months etc. To me, that is longer cycles so I don't understand the short cycles I have. Do they get shorter and shorter and then just stop, show up after a few months, disappear again etc. I don't know how it really works!
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com
Well thank you anyway for trying. Maybe someone else knows. I thought what you thought - - shorter would be better than longer. Longer is making me feel like menopause is on its way. This sucks, by the way.
Anyone out there able to shed some light on this? Thanks in advance!