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January 2012 Moms
I'm horrible: was disappointed- It's a .....
It's a girl. I was entirely disappointed at first and cried because I've always wanted a little boy. Then I immediately felt horrible for it. God blessed us with this pregnancy after 11 years of trying and there I was crying over it. Sheesh. I felt like a complete a$$ and feel so guilty about it.
Anyway- I'm completely excited now and my 12 yr old step daughter got to be there for the ultrasound and completely pushed daddy out of the way so she could be up front. lol. She has been praying for a sister and finally got her wish. She has two brothers and has been asking me and her dad to give her a sister since she was 5.
Ultrasound tech said she was 95% sure. That's good enough for me, even though she said mistakes happen. That's not very reassuring, but whatever. 
I would hate to buy all that I need, just for LO to pop up with a dangle later on. That happened to SD's mother in her second pregnancy. That's a scary thought.
FYI- I'm not a complete POS I wanted a boy so bad because I don't want to pass the problems that I've had on to my little girl, but I still feel horrible about my initial reaction.
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Re: I'm horrible: was disappointed- It's a .....
I know what you mean. There was a moment of disappointment yesterday when I found out it was a boy. Then I got over it, and said, as long as he's healthy, that's really all I care about.
Congrats on Team Pink!
Don't feel guilty about your disappointment at first. It's totally normal. 13 years ago when I had my son I wanted a girl soooo badly that it took me a while to get used to the idea that he was a boy. I even secretly hoped that when he came out they'd say "it's a girl!". But I love my son to death and can't imagine life any differently.
This time, I am with someone else and this LO is my husband's first. So he really wanted to have a boy first (then a girl). When we found out we were having a girl he was really disappointed and you could see it written alllll over his face. Everyone kept asking him what was wrong. Needless to say, a few weeks later, he is over the moon excited and once she's here I'm sure he'll totally fall in love.
PLUS, you definitely have a reason for wanting a boy more than a girl as far as medical issues go. Don't ever feel guilty about wanting the best for your child.
With all of that being said, congrats on team pink, and a healthy baby!
i certainly don't think you're a monster for crying :P
Thanks for the understanding responses!
I had expected to be flamed for my initial disappointment. I keep imagining the perfect combination of me and her dad and it gets me so excited.
A little bit of me and a little bit of him, all smooshed together to make one perfect, pumpkin headed child. muahahahaha. My little girl will have such a round face, lol. Dad and I both have round faces and giant heads.
My step daughter informed me last night that we will have to roll our baby around because the size of her head. Was hilarious, mostly because DH got all sensitive about his massive knoggin. Gotta love 12 yr old humor 
She's so excited and how it just makes my heart swell with the thought that my baby will be cherished by her sister. A 13 yr age gap is going to be challenging, but SD was more excited than anyone, including her dad, when I found out I was pregnant.
I really do appreciate everyone's understanding and supportive comments regarding my Doh! moment.
Wish you all the best. 
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We just found out #2 is a girl. I really had my heart set on another boy and when we found out 2 weeks ago I was very disappointed for a few days. I totally understand how you feel. Now that I've done a little bit of shopping I'm alot more excited now. Talking to other people who have older son/young sister kids has helped too. I still have my mama's boy and now dh has his baby girl coming.
I don't think its horrible at all. I think a lot of moms feel this way.
When I went in for my a/s I of course just wanted everything to be ok with the babies heart, did not care about the sex. But I was secretly hoping for a girl. When we found out we were having a boy...my DH was so thrilled but I felt a pang of loss...because I thought it was a girl.
But I am thrilled that we have a healthy baby boy in there, and I know I will love him so incredibly much. I feel blessed.
Congrats!
I had that moment when I learned I was having another boy. I think it's good to acknowlege what you're feeling and be able to work through it (sounds like you have!) rather than hide it or act as if you never felt it.
I wrote about mine here: https://wp.me/p15qKy-cI if you want to take a look. or you can click my blog below and look for a post called "goodbye girl".
Congratulations on being team pink!! I'm sure your step-daughter's enthusiasm and joy is utterly contagious. And congratulations on your pregnancy after such a long battle.