Did DH leave during surgery after baby was born?

Switzerland · September 2011

My first c-section was unplanned and in America. DH stayed with me until I was rolled into recovery. His "job" was to roll our baby behind me into the recovery room. We live in Switzerland now and the procedure here is after 10 min of the baby being born they bring the baby to another room and DH goes with them. My OB said this is because the surgery room is very cold --- well for me I want DH with me while they sew me up -- it's the longest part of the entire operation and I am already having a complex about having another c-section and quite nervous. When DD was born, watching them do stuff with her and DH bringing her to me back and forth to say hello helped the time pass more quickly as they finished up the operation.

Any advice?

lilydeven · September 2011

my SO left after they completed my surgery and the pediatrician took the baby to the nursery. meanwhile, I was taken to recovery and then my SO joined me briefly. Hospital visiting hours were over so he couldn't stay any longer and I couldnt see my parents that night, even though they had come. But they did get to see the baby in ther nursery.

MommyMar2010 · September 2011

DH was asked to leave soon after the baby was born (after we got to see her, and he got to hold her, etc). After that, the doctors told me that the baby would remain with ME in the OR until I was sent to recovery. I was wheeled out of the OR holding my baby and when I got to recovery, DH was there to take wheel the baby up to the nursery to get weighed, washed, etc. It was nice to know she was with me the whole time in the OR!

pepomntpat · September 2011

My DH left with DD and stayed with her in the nursery while I was in recovery. I was not willing to have my daughter be alone in the nursery. As a grown up, I felt I should be the one to be alone.I really wish both of them could have stayed with me in recovery. I actually wrote a letter to the hospital telling them to change their stupid policy (I was much more respectful in my tone in the letter). They told me they were happy to have my feedback. Confused

J+MS · September 2011

My husband went with our daughter into the next room, which was fine with me. The morphine made me shake really bad so the N.A. gave me a sedative and I slept throught through closing. Maybe try to get some rest if your H is sent out?

disbride061103 · September 2011

DH left the OR about 1 minute before I was wheeled out. He stayed with me and the baby the entire time.

RoxBride · September 2011

We were able to keep LO with us for about 10 minutes and she left with DH to go to the nursery and warm up (she was 5 pounds, so really needed it). 10 minutes later the pedi came back to give me an update on her stats and such. It was no big deal to me, I was lying there so happy she was born, and my nurses and doctors talked to me and kept me entertained.

magdalina.h · September 2011

He stayed with us until I was ready to go to my room. When I took Lucas to the room, he went to tell our parents.

Shoshi10 · September 2011

After DD was born, the nurse took pictures of us and then DH went with DD to the nursery while they finished with me. He passed my mom in the waiting room on the way, so she got to see DD quickly and then she waited to be with me when I got to recovery.

Kdonn15 · September 2011

I had an emergency c-section with both my kids but was planning a VBAC with the second. Dh wasn't in the room for my first birth since I had general anesthesia and for my second he left with our son to go to the nursery (as we had both wanted him to stay with the baby). It was more important to me that my baby not be alone than for my husband to be in the room with me so it all worked out.

annabelle.27 · September 2011

My husband had to take my son down to the nursery while I went to recovery. We all left the OR at the same time and went our separate ways down the hall. That is my biggest (and pretty much only) regret about having a c-section.

Aloe0l · September 2011

DH went with the baby after she was born. I would have rather her have a parent with her versus him stay with me. Ideally, it would have been nice if all 3 of us could have stayed in the OR and moved everywhere together, but, it didn't work out that way.

aandg · September 2011

My husband went with the baby while she was being checked out by the NICU team and I was being sewn up. I didn't want her to be alone and I'm an adult who can handle being by myself for a couple of minutes. They joined me as soon as I was taken to recovery.

versam · September 2011

My DH and DD were able to stay with me while they finished up. But I freaked out anyways. I was given something htat slightly knocked me out. Dh said it put me to sleep and the nurse had to hold my head up and I snoring loudly. LOL He said all it took were her to slightly tap my face and I woke up. I too am worried about that part as it wasnt very comfortable thinking about what was happening.

Leap08 · September 2011

My husband went with my daughter to recovery, and I met them there after surgery. If I have to have a repeat c/s (really hoping for a VBAC), I want to see if both of them can stay in the OR with me until I'm moved to recovery.

ILoveRunning · September 2011

My DH left with DS after I got to kiss him. They went into recovery where my H spent the next 15 minutes doing skin-to-skin. My mom and MIL were also there but my H was the only one who held DS. I am glad my DH was able to be there for DS. I hope to VBAC in the future, but if I end up with a RCS I am hoping to do a gentle c/s so that I can hold/nuse DC right away.

biblionerd · September 2011

It was important to me to pick a hospital where we would all stay together, except for an emergency of course. I was prepped in the OR and then DH came in and stood next to me for the whole thing. When DS was born, they did all of his evaluations and vitals under warmers. DH brought him over to me to kiss and we stayed like that until I was stitched up, which by that point was only a few minutes. Then I held DS while we were wheeled to the pp/recovery room with DH walking with us. Maybe it's because you don't recover in the cold OR at this hospital? I don't know, but I would have been a mess if DH had to leave with DS just because of routine. I was already crying because DS was crying and I couldn't even touch him. Poor DH didn't know whether to stay by me or go to DS.

SarahRae812 · September 2011

This is really surprising to me to hear about hospitals taking the baby away when there's no medical emergency! My hospital doesn't have a recovery room; you go back to your own room after surgery. DH stayed for the entire surgery - they even let him watch! Once DD was born, weighed and cleaned up, DH sat next to my head holding her while they stitched me up. I didn't get to hold her until we were wheeling back to our room. As soon as we got to the room, the nurse gave her a quick sponge bath under the heat lamps then gave her to me to start BFing. I was really happy with the whole process.

sabrina69barnes · September 2011

My first c-section was unplanned after labor and I was too tired to really be aware of what was going on but I do know that DS and my then BF were with me the whole time. With DS2 DH was with me and DS2 the whole time but I felt horrible. I felt very hot, dizzy, and like I was going to pass out. There was an air vent on the opposite side of the room as the warmer so I had my heard turned to that. I wasn't able to pay attention to DH or DS. If they hadn't been there I wouldn't have noticed. I remember the part when I was sewn up being pretty quick both times. It sucks that DH can't stay but in the long run it's not a huge deal. It's not like he has to miss the birth.

TotallyNot_Isha · September 2011

DH left to do skin-to-skin with the baby. It was our #1 concern, and it was freezing in the OR. Over a month later, he still gushes about how amazing those 15 minutes with her were. While I hate that I wasn't there to see it, I am happy that he got to have that special bonding time. They had knocked me out after she was out anyway because I was feeling the surgery, so he really had no reason to hang around.

biblionerd · September 2011

SarahRae812:
This is really surprising to me to hear about hospitals taking the baby away when there's no medical emergency! My hospital doesn't have a recovery room; you go back to your own room after surgery. DH stayed for the entire surgery - they even let him watch! Once DD was born, weighed and cleaned up, DH sat next to my head holding her while they stitched me up. I didn't get to hold her until we were wheeling back to our room. As soon as we got to the room, the nurse gave her a quick sponge bath under the heat lamps then gave her to me to start BFing. I was really happy with the whole process.

I know! I'm really amazed and disappointed in so many hospitals. I can see taking the baby if something's wrong, but it seems like an antiquated routine.

kjj834 · September 2011

They showed me DD right after they wrapped her up, and DH got to hold her for a minute. Then the two of them left because they needed to give her something for her blood sugar that was in the 20s. While they were gone, the county went under a tornado warning, so it delayed our reunion. They wheeled me back to my room because they didn't have a separate recovery room for C-sections, and I waited there until the warning was cleared and DH and DD came to meet me. It was probably an hour in between her birth and me seeing them again.

Holly TH · September 2011

My husband went with the babies and I did not care because I was so ill from the morphine both times.

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