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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Stillbirth / Late Loss / Infant Loss check-in
Stillbirth / late loss / infant loss check-in
This is a weekly check-in for women who have experiences a Stillbirth/Late Loss/ or Infant Loss. Hopefully this will be a chance for us to connect and provide additional support on our losses with other women who understand. Anyone who has experienced this type of loss is welcome to join no matter if they are taking a break, TTC, currently PG, or have delivered a healthy baby. We sadly accept new members every week:(
Nest Name: STLBride_2_Be
Real Name: Amanda
Angel Info: Addison was stillborn last year on March 21, 007 at 24w5d. We also had m/c in July 2007 and Oct. 2007.
My nest name is KristysRedBarn
My name is Kristy
Miller was born on Feb. 29th, at 17 weeks
Real name: Brandy
Nest name: banbear2
Angel Info: Raymond Bradley went to heaven on 1/24/07 when I was 20 weeks pregnant
Nest Name: stacey2005
Real Name: Stacey
Angel Info: Spencer Allen, 03-08-07, 17w5d. We believe it was a cord accident.
Nest Name: Georgia-Peach
Angel Info: Matthew, born an angel on 11-22-07 at 19 weeks.
Nest Name: lauracg (formerly lmwVA)
Real Name: Laura
Angel Info: Baby angel Mary was born March 8th, 2007 ~ 22 weeks due to a blood clot and placental abruption. M/C Feb.16th, 2008 ~ 9 weeks. Baby angel Richard was born September 27, 2008 ~ 20 weeks as a result of an incompetent cervix.
Nest Name: AB&TB (formerly tinablatchford while pg with my first).
Real Name: Tina
Angel Info: Our son was confirmed missed m/c at 18wks 2days. He passed due to a ringed 18th chromosome.
Nest Name: Dontblink
Real Name: Jessica
Angel Info: Cameron Douglas, 1/11/08, 21 weeks, reason for loss is still unknown at this time.
Nest name: BabyLoveBug
Angel Info: My daughter passed away while I was 41 weeks + 3 days along (2 days shy of induction
Nest Name: kxland
Angel Info: Her name was Brooke Aubrey, November 22, 2006, 22 weeks gestation, my daughter had Turners Syndrome (Chromosomal Disorder). M/c in March 2008.
Nest Name: mommy2anangel (formerly amykbride)
Real Name: Amy
Angel Info: Nathaniel Martin born still at 21 weeks 5 days on June 22, 2007. He was diagnosed at our 20 week ultrasound with a Giant Omphalocele (abdominal wall defect) and a heart defect. m/c at 7w4d in 2008.
Nest Name: YukonC
Real Name: Jen
Angel Info: delivered DD at 19 weeks on June 29, 2007 due to sever pre-eclampsia. M/C July 2008.
Nest Name: julesverne
Real name: Julia
Angel Info: Jack Stewart was born at 34 wks 1/16/08. He died 1/25 due to complications of having Ebstein's Anomaly (heart defect)
Nestname: Tams148
Real name: Tammy
Angel info: Grace Elizabeth, born at 21 weeks, 2/27/08, suspected Turner Syndrome, but testing results still aren't back. She was diagnosed at our 18-week ultrasound with hydrops, and died at 19 weeks.
Nest Name: cpsocal
Real Name: Christa
Angel Info: Leilani was lost on 08/14/07 at 18 weeks 3 days due to Turners Syndrome
Nest Names: AmberL
Real Names: Amber
Angel info: Joshua Nicholas was born at 18 weeks on December 25th, 2007 due to a placental abruption. m/c 5-19-04 at 6 weeks
Nest name: ocean75106 (formerly kroach34)
Angel Info: We lost Ava to triploidy at 19 1/2 weeks on 1/25/08
Nest Name: bride2003
Real Name: Sheila
Angel Info: Stephen Joseph delivered at home at 19 weeks on April 10, 2007 due to cervical problems unknown until day of delivery. Aug 2007 I traveled to Chicago to have TAC (transabdominal cerclage) permanently placed around my cervix to fix the problem.
2nd m/c Feb 10, 2008 at 6.5 weeks
Nest Name: ChelM1216
Real Name: Michele
Angel Info: Gwyniviere Emlyn and Onora Casidhe, miscarriaged was discovered on 2/5/08 and our girls were delivered on 2/7/08. Unknown cause for m/c
Nest name: Timmylulu
Real name: Cindy
Angel info: I delivered our son at 21wks and 2days on March 10, 2008. We don't know why, but I went into pre-term labor, hopefully dr's will get us some answers with the tests they will be running.
Nest Name: Schmoodle
Real Name: Kathy
Angel Info: We lost our twin Doodles at 23 weeks and 3 days, they were born premature due to a placental abruption on March 25, 2008.
Nest Name: Nikki731
Real Name: Nicole
Angel Info: I delivered my baby girl on March 2, 2008 at 18w 5d. I had Placenta Previa at 9 weeks
Nest Name: ToraDales
Real Name: Victoria
Angel Info: Stryker was born on October 9th at 37 weeks, his kidneys weren't working and they were 3 times the size they should have been, because of that his lungs did not have the room they needed to grow.
Nest Name: Baby McCloghry
Real Name: Jilly
Angel Info: Max Kingston McCloghry - born 23 +5 weeks at 1205 pm and lived until 1025 pm that night Went to Glory 10:25 pm Feb 27 2008.
Nest Name: HTB
Real Name: Hilary
Angel Info: Dalton was born on 1/17/08 at 25W 2D
Nest Name: outofcntrl82
Real Name: Rhonda
Angel Info: Baby boy had a very rare chromosomal disorder- a partial deletion on chromosome 21 as well as a partial trisomy of chromosome 4 attached to chromosome 21. Our baby died on March 24, 2008 and was delivered on March 26.
Nest Name: Loops925
Real Name: Lupe
Angel Info: Our baby boy's name was Jordan, at 41 wks & 4 days I was induced. Dr broke my water and discovered meconium, I had an emergency c/s 10 hrs later when my baby's h/b stopped. He was born still at 8:40 am on 2/17/08. Autopsy results confirmed that his lungs were full of meconium which caused him to not be able to breath.
Nest Name: mmcrocker
Real Name: Amanda
Angel Info: Discover m/c of Baby Crocker at 18w1d due to Protein S Deficiency
Nest name: travelbug
Real name: Bridget
Angel info: Ciara Grace - d&e on April 12,2007. She had passed due to complications of Spina Bifida.
Real name: Beth
Nest name: 450bnb
Angel Info: Makenna Grace was born on March 5, 2008 and went to heaven on March 6, 2008. She had hydrops brought on by Turners Syndrome that had to be identified through an autopsy.
Nest Name: here4u
Angel Info: Twin B lost at 21 weeks 3 days.
Nest Name: irishmama13
Real Name: Kelli
Angel Info: Erickson Thomas Gunnar born on July 23, 2008 at 31 weeks. Stillborn due to placental abruption/preeclampsia.
Real name: Elisa
nest name: emdaly
Angel info: Caroline Rose heart stopped on March 3, 2008. I had a D&E on March 5, 2008. She was 26 weeks but measured 23 weeks due to placental insufficiency.
Real Name: Kara
Nest Name: Hemb
Angel info--Our daughter, Hailee Eileen was born on 7/8/2008 at @21 weeks, 3 days due to bilateral renal agenisis.
Real Name: Vicki
Nest name: vml14
Angel info: Valerie Ann was born too early at 21 weeks on May 28, 2008. She had Trisomy 18.
Real Name: Debbie
Nest name: MRSBELLALEE
Angel info: Chloe Eva was born on September 12, 2008 at 31 weeks 4 days.
Nest Name: September2006
Real Name: Shelly
Angel Info: William was born Aug 25, 2008 at 24 weeks 3days.
Nest Name: Delta_Diva
Angel Info: Joshua was still born on August 17,2008 due to me having severe pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome. He was almost 22 weeks.
Nest Name: lmyanda21
Real Name: Louann
Angel Info: Gabrielle was 20 wk 4d, she became an angel because my cervix open too soon due to incompetent cervix
Nest Name: JEOZ
Real Name: Julia
Angel Info: Mia Elizabeth was born on August 19, 2008 at 36 weeks. She died 31 hours later on August 20. She died from lung complications which was due to Polycystic Kidney Disease. We are still trying to find out if it was autosommal recessive or autosommal dominate PKD.
Nest Name: Coolteacher79
Real Name: Stacy
Angel Info: Isaac Timothy was born at 36w2d on October7, 2008. He lived for 16 minutes before going home to be with Jesus. His diagnosis is a rare sequence of giant omphalocele, kyphoscoliosis, and hypoplastic lungs. M/C in October 2007.
Nest Name: mmsgal
Real Name: Nicole
Angel Info: Abigail Rose was born 7/19/07 and lived 20 hrs. on complete life support before passing away 7/20/07. She had HLHS (hypoplastic left heart syndrome) and many other small defects.
Nest Name: boghill
Angel Info: Baby girl was born at 20 weeks, autopsy showed she had Tuners Syndrome, found out at 20 weeks sonogram that something was wrong.
Nest Name: baughnfire
Real Name: Carrie
Angel Info: I had a D&E on August 8, 2008. I was 19 weeks 4 days along, baby died around 18 weeks. Baby had Down Syndrome and we chose not to find out the sex.
Nest Name: LV2006
Angel Info: Audrey Lee became and angel on October 10, 2008 at 19 weeks, 6 days. She is missed every single day?
Nest Name: shellyrmmi
Angel Info: Miscarriage at 17w6d discovered at survey ultrasound. Delivered October 17, 2008. MC at 8wks in 5/2000.
Real Name: Sarah
Nest name: BeachBride72106
Angel info: Wyatt George was stillborn May 11, 2008 at 32 weeks. We think it was a cord accident. We have since learned that I am Factor V Leiden.
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1. Please feel free to give a general update
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you?
4. Any suggestions for either QOTD?
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Re: Stillbirth / Late Loss / Infant Loss check-in
1. Please feel free to give a general update
Mia died 12 weeks ago today. I miss her so much and can't stop wondering what she'd look like now and how she's developed. I feel left behind by the world right now. I hope I can jump in again soon. I am so tired of being sad, angry and depressed most of the time.
On the plus side we are getting closer to finding out what type of Polycystic Kidney Disease she had which will tell us what our chances of having another sick baby would be. I wish we didn't have to deal with all these doctors anymore.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
I go to individual therapy and am trying to get into a support group now. I also met another woman who lost her babies recently through the hospital. I think meeting her has been the most helpful.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you?
My DH is an Illustrator and for our first anniversary (paper) he started a journal full of drawings of our life past, present, and dreams for the future. He still adds to it from time to time.
1 -Some of you might have seen my post yesterday. Wyatt's 6 month angelversary was really tough. But today is a new day and we are not letting this be a sign that we are not ready to try again. I also am within 1 pound of the 20 pound weightloss goal set by the hematologist in August and 5.4 pounds from the 20 pound weightloss goal set by the OB. Whoo hoo for progress!
2- We attended the local Empty Arms group once. It only meets once a month and the second time we could of gone was on our wedding anniversary and we really wanted to do something fun instead. Then it seemed like it had been so long since the last meeting that we were worried it would hinder instead of help so we did not go back. I did seek individual counseling twice. I really do think that helped me and after yesterdays rough day I thought maybe I should go back and see her again. I do think I will see her again when we do get pg to help deal with the fear that I know we will have during the next pregnancy.
3- I don't know if this is the "most" romantic thing he has ever done but it was pretty good. A year ago last spring was the first year in our house. I really wanted patio furniture and found a nice set for a reasonable amount of money. DH really thought we should pay off some bills etc. instead of spend the money. I reluctantly agreed he was probably right. One day I had a horrible day at work. I even had an evening meeting that night. He went out and bought the set I wanted. Took the cover off the pick-up truck himself (which is a pain with two people I don't know how he did it alone.) Picked up the set and flowers and had it setting on our deck when I got home. It was awesome and let me tell you that set has been used a lot the last two summers so it was a VERY good buy!
4- If you have question suggests I could really use the help. I am starting to run out on my list. Thanks ladies. I am so glad we can check-in and support each other like this. ((Big Hugs)) to us all.
1. I'm doing ok... still TTC, no luck yet. It's hard every month when I get AF, but I'm still keeping hope. Sometimes it is just overwhelming because I feel like it is just so not fair. But, I know that when the time is right, it will happen for us. I'm starting to stress a bit about the holidays, but have taken the approach that I need to just take everything one day at a time. So, Thanksgiving is 2 weeks away, and I'll deal with it then. And Christmas is 6 weeks away, and I'll deal with it then. For now, I'm just going to focus on today.
2. I have gone to a support group every month since my loss. I went to my first meeting 2 weeks after I delivered. I have found it invaluable. It has provided me with a group of people to talk to who I can actually say really DO understand. Recently I've found it a bit harder to be there, because it sometimes tends to depress me a bit as I feel I'm trying to heal, but I'm still going.... I have made a couple of friends through the group, and it is nice to know that I can email them about my fears and thoughts and questions instead of feeling so alone. I've found that the personal connections I've made with people are what help so much. I've considered individual therapy, but haven't done it yet. I'm just not sure I want to yet. I'd love to hear about some of your experiences.
3. This was actually about 6 weeks after we met.... for Valentine's Day weekend, my DH planned weekend away in Washington DC (where we live now, but back then we both lived in different places, about 2 hours away). I'd never been to DC before, so he chose a nice hotel right near the national mall. He even requested that we have a room that faced the Washington Monument, because that is my favorite. He did all of the planning for the weekend, and we went to great dinners, a show, and did lots of sightseeing. After the whole weekend, when we drove back to our "meeting point" to get my car, he told me he had a card for me, and said (in a totally corny way) "Will you be my valentine?" It was cute. That was such a great weekend.
4. Non pg questions:
If you could travel anywhere, where would it be and why?
What is your favorite animal?
1. Please feel free to give a general update
I haven't posted over here for a while. I had our second (first live) daughter seven weeks ago. It has been great but still a little sad. Sometimes I call her by the wrong name (our first daughter's.) That really upsets everyone. But for so long I thought of Ciara as my baby girl, it just takes a while to adjust. I still think about her and miss her everyday.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
Never attended any support or therapy sessions.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you?
He is not a terribly romantic guy. But he tries hard. Once he did thirty days in a row of small romantic things like drawing a cartoon, bringing home flowers, and making a map of all the places we've been and want to go. It was really special.
4. Any suggestions for either QOTD?
Travelbug - thanks for checking back in with the group. I will add you precious daughter to the list above to give us all hope that there can be success after loss. Congratulations!
I'm 12 weeks pg right now. Everything seems to be going ok, knock on wood.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
I have done both. I really found the local support group to be the best place for me. It helped me a lot to meet other women and now some of those women are good friends. I did try individual counseling, but found it less helpful...just not my thing I guess.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you?
The doesn't sound very romantic, but when I come home and he has cleaned the house without having to be told...it leaves me speechless.
1. I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant with a baby boy, and things are going very well so far. Just this week I had the big ultrasound, which is also the point in my first pregnancy that we found out things were wrong, so getting past this milestone was a big deal.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? I always meant to go, but chickened out and never did. I'm sure it would have helped.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you? Wow, is it bad that I can't think of anything? We're not really the flowers and chocolate type of couple, so I think it's more those little everyday things... Oh, he makes me omelets on the weekends (he actually does a lot of the cooking), and that's sort of our special time together.
4. Any suggestions for either QOTD?
Hi,
I haven't checked in a while but I am currently pregnant and just hit 14 weeks. It has been such a long road, but please know that there is hope. I think that was one of the hardest parts of dealing with my loss, is that I lost all hope. But it comes back, a tiny bit at a time. Wishing you all strength during this difficult time and know that you will emerge stronger than you ever thought possible.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
I went to a grief councelor since the sessions were covered by my insurance. I really got a lot of help from going.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you? Definitely his proposal! It was during a carriage ride in FL
4. Any suggestions for either QOTD?
Any creative ideas for homemade Christmas gifts? Kind of random, but I'm hunting for that right now
1. Please feel free to give a general update
I'm currently pregnant again praying for a healthy and strong baby.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
I've attended one bible study, but I truly think The Bump helped more than anything.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you?
OMG, he's done so many things, but is slacking off right now though.
1. Please feel free to give a general update
I haven't checked in over here in awhile. I'm doing very well. Still miss my little girl. We took Oliver to the cemetary. It was bittersweet.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
I never attended a support group in person. I found a yahoo group when I was pregnant and sfter her loss I went to the sister group. It's helpful to have the support of women who have gone through the same thing.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful? I have attended both. I have been going to counseling since the end of July, since we knew about Isaac's grim prognosis for quite some time. It has definitely been helpful. Just attended my first support group session last week at the hospital where I delivered. I did find it helpful, too.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you? One Valentine's day, I had been out for part of the day and when I came home, DH had put long-stemmed red roses all over our apartment, each with a clue leading to the next one. The last one was on our DVD player, and he had our wedding video cued to our first dance. The little clue on the rose said to play it, so I did, and he came out and danced with me to it again. It was sweet
4. Any suggestions for either QOTD? I am of no help here....
1. We are VERY cautiously expecting again after IVF#2. We transferred one embryo and our first ultrasound revealed one sac and one yolk sac, but I'm very nervous that at our ultrasound on Friday we'll discover that there's no h/b and be back at square one. It's been almost 8 months since we lost our Doodles, and I'm feeling more myself in some ways but not so much in others. I'm dreading the holidays because we imagined spending them with twin babies.
2. No, I'm not open enough to do anything like that.
3. One year we made each other easter baskets with a spending limit of $20. I followed the limit, he bought me a designer bag I'd been lusting after and filled it with Easter Candy. It wasn't the $/gift as much as the thought and that he'd paid attention and remembered this specific bag I'd liked. Such a sweet surprise.
1. We are currently pregnant again. We had another early m/c in May 08. I am now almost 22 weeks with another little boy. It's exciting, but Josh's 1st birthday is coming up on Christmas, and I keep going back to last year. My DH is in Iraq until April, so that has been difficult as well. Overall, we are doing well. This baby is healthy so far, and we haven't had any complications, so we have a lot to be grateful for.
2. I did a little therapy after Josh was born last year, but stopped after we moved. I definitly think it helps to talk to someone.
3. When he takes our DD and lets me sleep, that is so romantic :}
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful? I never attened any official therapy. My mom had a fullterm stillborn herself when I was 10 years old--she's been my rock and my inspiration. She always had the right words to say to help me when I was feeling out of control with grief.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you? I think just being there for me--like when I've been so sick from morning sickness in my pregnancies, I would lie in bed immediately upon coming home from work, and he would carry around the portable phone so I could intercom him from upstairs. Meanwhile, he would bring me drinks and food, and wait on me hand and foot.
1. Please feel free to give a general update:
I am starting TTC again. It's so hard - I hate having 'scheduled sex' again, I hate going through the wait, I hate going through the disappointment, and I hate getting my hopes up.....TTC for a 4th time is just hard - so many emotions. It's hard to hope for the best.....been such a long 3 1/2 years.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful?
I've done individual therapy with my priest and a therapist. It helped me, but it also gave me 'false hopes' that everything would 'be ok the next time I got pregnant.' Now with my third loss, I am going to try a pg loss support group. Maybe it'll help me more to be surrounded by others that have had losses.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you?
On our one year wedding anniversary, he wrote me a letter about how much he loved me, how he felt when he met me, all the feelings on our wedding day, and how much the first year of marriage meant to him. He writes me love letters every anniversary (I've been married for 3 1/2 years). I treasure them all.
1. Please feel free to give a general update....Today is week 4 since we had the fateful ultrasound that told us the baby had died. I found myself on the edge of tears many, many times today. I think that Friday will be worse as it will be 4 weeks since I delivered our "Little Peanut"...who we discovered was a little girl after the birth.
2. Pg related QOTD: Have any of you attended a local support group or individual therapy? Did you find it helpful? I have not attended a support group as of yet....I have leaned heavily on all of you here PL board...and also on my two friends who have had similar 2nd trimester mcs. I am putting some thought into finding a local group....it would probably be good for me to be more active in a "face to face" situation instead of the online variety. I also think I would like to find a way to be of help for the unfortunate women who will be facing these types of losses in the future.
3. Non-pg related QOTD: What is the most romantic thing you DH has ever done for you? Stopped by my office with 2 dozen red roses and a new diamond ring.....just for the heck of it! All my coworkers were jealous!!
4. Any suggestions for either QOTD?