Going for it!

Re: Going for it!

• bwtsn

  September 2011

  Of course, I know I have PLENTY of time, but this is something that has been giving me quite a bit of anxiety so it's great for me to think about it and explore all of my options early. =]

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• cchill01 member

  September 2011

  Here's the way I look at your "what-if."  I would rather try and fail, then not try at all.  My BIGGEST regret from my first birth, was not the c/s, it was that I didn't try harder.  I didn't give myself the best chance to succeed and then I gave up - and I am very disappointed in myself.

  If I go through this next birth and do EVERYTHING possible (doula, natural induction techniques, accupuncture, chiropracter, old wives tales, walking around, staying at home as long as possible, different labor positions) and it still doesn't work, then I'll be ok with it. 

  Actual labor does hurt, but you forget quickly.  So, if you still end up with an rcs, you can add labor pain to your "life experiences" bucket.

  Good luck!

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• Aloe0l member

  September 2011

  Labor is very beneficial, for both you and baby, even if you end up with a c-section.  Many hormonal/biological changes take place during labor.  And while labor hurts, it's "pain with a purpose" - just keep the end result in mind.  You WILL have a super sweet LO when it's all said and done. 

  
  
  

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• disbride061103 member

  September 2011

  bwtsn:

  Sooo I think I'm going for a VBAC! I have talked to my doc about both options and actually told him at our last appt that we were kind of leaning towards an RCS, but after thinking about it daily and doing more research I think I'm going to [at least] attempt a VBAC. 

  The doc did say he thought I would be a great candidate for a VBAC. 

  I guess I'm just nervous because I've never actually been in labor. DD was a scheduled c/s at 39w because she was breech and at the time I wasn't dilated, effaced, never had braxton hicks, NADA. So I really don't know what to expect this time around. 

  I think the big what-if for me is: 

  What if I spend time in labor and wind up having a c-section anyway?

  I guess we'll just cross that bridge when we get there....

  :::fingers crossed:::: 

  This is the question that every VBAC candidate asks.  I know I did.  And I know that after laboring for 20 hours and still winding up with a c/s was hard but I survived.  One thing that totally helped was having a c/s birth plan that I rattled off to my doctor when we made the decision to have a c/s.  I felt in control and part of the birth.

  GL  on your VBAC!
  

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• bugabean

  September 2011

  My two labors were completely different. Being in labor once doesn't mean you really have any idea what to expect the second time either. Don't think you're any worse off than anyone else in that department!

  

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• BlinkingLight1 member

  September 2011

  bwtsn:

  I think the big what-if for me is: 

  What if I spend time in labor and wind up having a c-section anyway?

  If you end up with a c/s, you'll know you did everything you could to have that baby vaginally! That's all you can do. Educate yourself as much as possible. There are instances where a c/s is the best option. You should learn when that is, then you can't feel guilty because you'll know you truly did the best thing for your baby. You know?
  

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