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those with grandparents as daycare providers...

andigurlandigurl
in May 2011 Moms
If you don't mind sharing, what do you pay your parents or IL's for watching LO?  How does it compare to the average going rate for in-home daycare in your city.  We are trying to find a reasonable amount to give to my mom for watching G about 36 hours a week and I'm just wondering what is average for this type of situation? Thanks!
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  • disneyfan0511disneyfan0511 member

    We pay $50/day - 3 days a week. We also provide all meals (we get a list of what she'd like for the week). And we give her a Starbucks card at the start of each week.

    For daycare we would be paying $1250/month for the same amount of care.

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  • NeverEnoughTimeNeverEnoughTime

    Why dont you just ask GP how much they would like to be paid?

    I know W's GP would never accept payment of anysort, so I will probably just give very generoud gift cards every couple months (a nice weekend away, fancy restaraunt, etc) However for us, it will only be 2-3 days a week.

    Of course we will provide all food,diapers,supplies, etc.

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  • jreese14jreese14

    I feel super cheap after reading previous posts. haha. My dad will have Xander when I go back to school in January and at first he wouldn't even hear of taking money from us for it but we decided we will supply all the supplies, keep food/drink in the house for my dad (since he decided he would rather come to our place) and depending what the hours are between $10-15 a day. That was the highest I was able to get with him, so I'm not going to fight him and risks him saying well nevermind then (not that I think he would but still) DH and I have talked about every few months we would get them a hotel room at the beach or at Disney for the night just to give them a night away together (my mom is a Disney fanatic and her parents live with them so a room wouldn't be silly to them) or a nice dinner.

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  • msdonnasmsdonnas member
    We have a weird schedule, dh works 4 on 4 off so some weeks we need care 4 days per week, sometimes only 2 and it's constantly shifting. I teach so I get breaks and summer. We will pay my mom 700 per month regardless. She can't have another side job because of the hours we need her and no where will let us have a varied schedule like that since they essentially need a full time slot for ds because of the inconsistency. She also will be coming to our house so dh can see ds in the mornings when he works nights, otherwise he'd literally never see him since we'd have to leave before he got home and he would leave before we get home. Considering our needs I think it's super cheap.
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  • disneyfan0511disneyfan0511 member

    My mom quit her job to watch DD so that is why we pay her. She refused at first but we told her we insisted - the first month we paid her in Starbucks gift cards. I want to make sure she wants to keep watching DD so I can avoid daycare for at least the first year, that would be my ideal situation.  

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  • racegirl595racegirl595
    I am paying my mom $3 per hour that our DD is there. This seems to work well for us because our hours very so much. I think the going rate for an infant is about that for a daycare as well, but like I tell people I know she is in the best of care there so I would be willing to pay $10 an hour if needed.
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  • mmkayemmkaye member

    I am paying for my parents gas to come up here and keep him.  They live 45 minutes away.  I also try to make sure I have food in the house and lunch meat.  I plan on getting them a gift card to a nice restaurant once I get caught up on bills now that I am back to work.

    They are keeping him four days a week.  (Actually at the moment MIL is helping out some until she goes back to work.)   He will go into daycare in Jan though.  :(  That will cost 145 per week. 

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  • AmyO.AmyO.

    We are really lucky.  We don't pay anything to either grandparent.  My dad watches C for 3 days a week and H's mom watches him 1 day.  Neither of them want or expect payment and they are very happy to do it just to have a relationship with their grandson.  We do plan on getting them little gifts here and there (gcs for dinners, golf lessons, flowers for his mom, etc) randomly as our thank you. And my mom actually just decided she wants to throw her hat into the ring and she will be watching him one day a week most likely as well.

    Daycare here is about $1500/month for one child.

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  • mzsparklepdxmzsparklepdx
    We aren't paying my mom anything.  She volunteered to watch DD and she knows that if we had to pay for daycare, I would have to work full-time and DD would be in daycare all week, which neither of us wants.  I bought everything she would need to watch DD and I drive her over there so she can be in her own house.  I like the idea of some gift cards every once in a while though.  I thank her profusely every day she watches her and she tells me all the time how much she is treasuring this time with her granddaughter.
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  • andigurlandigurl
    Thanks for the replies ladies! 
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  • paramedicswifeparamedicswife
    imagemzsparklepdx:
    We aren't paying my mom anything.  She volunteered to watch DD and she knows that if we had to pay for daycare, I would have to work full-time and DD would be in daycare all week, which neither of us wants.  I bought everything she would need to watch DD and I drive her over there so she can be in her own house.  I like the idea of some gift cards every once in a while though.  I thank her profusely every day she watches her and she tells me all the time how much she is treasuring this time with her granddaughter.
    This is us with FIL as well. DH works on 24 hrson, 48 hrs off, so our schedule varies for when we need someone to watch him. FIL also works the same schedule as DH (only a different 24 hrs), so as of right now, since he is still working his full time job, we aren't paying him anything to keep him. I've tried my best to let him let us supply everything he needs (diapers, wipes, butt cream, etc.) but MIL/FIL always say they are so thrilled and feel special that they get to buy him stuff. I LOVE the idea of giftcards every once in a while as an extra thank you. so we'll probably start doing that.  
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  • leeshab1982leeshab1982
    My mom watches our son at our house.  She said she didn't want any money for watching him, but that she'd also do all of our housework for $100/week.  My mom is totally one of those 'can't ever sit still, need to constantly be moving' kind of people, so I'm pretty sure she'd do the housework even if we didn't pay her.  So I agreed to that so that she'd at least be taking home a little bit of money each week.  So far it is working out nicely, but I've only been back at work for a week and a half.  Daycare here would be at least $1000/month, so this is a lifesaver for us.  Gotta love Grammy! 
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