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Anyone put their kids in different preschools?

jsugrinjsugrin member
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Andrew is in a preschool that couldn't be more perfect for him and that we love.  Cooper is getting close to ready for a little preschool and of course the easy thing to do is send him to the same place, maybe one day a week to start.

Well it's a small at home preschool, so there's 6-7 kids max.  I'm worried that the boys being there together would be a distraction to both of them, and that they would fight like siblings do and that would be a distraction to the entire preschool.

I talked to the teacher and she said she's had a couple siblings and that for the most part they behaved much better together at school than at home and she's fine with Cooper coming so it's really up to me.

So anyone send their kiddos to different schools or am I crazy to even consider taking my perfect mornings ( DH does drop off and pick up) and turn that into me running all over town twice a day ( the other school I'd consider is on the opposite end of town.

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  • futrkingsleyfutrkingsley member

    I obviously don't have this issue but I wonder if they boys have opinions on it you could piece out without asking directly (just in case their opinion is strong and you don't end up following through with it).

    Like does Coop have any interest in where Andrew goes while he's gone?  Does Andrew have any desire to "show" Coop his school?  If Coop never sees it then maybe it's not an issue.  But I do know that for the sib pairs in our family, the youngers see the older's school and have waited for their "turn" to go and I think they'd be disappointed if they didn't go there.  But that maybe just a little tiny family weirdness. ;) I was the first in our family to go there, my brother the second.  All five kids of my two brothers went or are going to the school now so to deviate would be a biggish deal.

    What's the other school like? 

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  • EmmieBEmmieB member

    it really depends on the children. I don't see the harm in trying them out together and making the switch later if a change of environment is needed. It might ease the transition for Cooper if his brother is there to "help" him.

    I'm not in the situation, though, so take my advice with a grain of salt :-) You know your boys. Trust your gut. 

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  • scrapmama2201scrapmama2201

    I'll share our experience.

    I worried about the boys being together, this summer, at the same school. Same class. I asked three different teachers and they all said the same thing: what a special treat for them. When else are they going to have the chance. Ultimately, we kept them together and they LOVED the summer program. Spent a lot of time playing together but also formed their own peer groups. I do see this past summer as a treat for them, a special memory because they likely won't ever be in the same school/class again.

    This school year, they are separated (by class, next door to each other) and the first couple weeks were ROUGH for Jake. He didn't understand why he couldn't be with Ty anymore, in the same room. Drop offs are just now getting easier.

    At the end of the day, two years together is such a small portion of time in relation to the bigger picture of their academic career. The ease of drop offs and pick ups, and knowing that Ty and Jake will see each other on the playground helps ME feel better about them being there.

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  • jsugrinjsugrin member

    Their opinions vary greatly Big Smile.  Cooper wants to go to preschool because he's seen where brother goes and it's fun, plus a few days a week brother gets to take off with daddy in the morning and Cooper feels left out.  Andrew wants Cooper to go to the same school or not depending on his mood.

    I think that Cooper would put up some fuss if we sent him somewhere else and I think Andrew would be fine with it most of the time.  Now Andrew will be going (mostly likely) to transitional preschool next fall since he's a Nov. bday and we're thinking of maybe one day for Cooper now and then in Jan. uping him to 2 days a week.  No matter what we do sending them at the same time is going to cause some grumpiness because we can't afford to send them both 3 days a week right now.

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  • dblhappinessdblhappiness
    Well totally different circumstance but yes my boys were in two different preschools (special ed classes) 10 minute drives from each school on 2 different schedules. It was brutal for the last 1.5 years shuttling one, go home or run errands, take other, run errands/kill some time before picking up kiddo #1 then hauling a$$ to get kiddo #2, BUT it was necessary and all in all the boys did great. They each had their own classrooms, teachers, friends, etc. Now we have them in the same class and while it's still early, they are doing pretty well. I was worried about the transition from being separated to now being together, but what scrapmama said is true. They will never be together again so maybe this time to have them together is one to really important. 
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