DH Deploying

croberts22 · September 2011

I hope you all don't mind me posting here...I don't really post on the military board and I didn't want to drop a b!tch and moan post on a board I don't frequent.

DH is in the Ohio National Guard and is deploying. Its really starting to hit me all he does and that I'll have to take over for the next year. I know I can, its just a little over whelming.

I think I'm more worried about things emotionally than physically. We aren't near the unit, so I don't have anyone I can really relate to. I have physical help from our families, but not a lot of mental/emotional backing. My family just doesn't get it because DH is the only person they know that's close to them in the military. DH's family always has it worse. I'm not saying sometimes commiserating with someone isn't nice, but occasionally I just need a hug and an "it will be okay" instead of an "if you think that's bad..." I just found out there is a military support group through the Red Cross, so I hope I like it when I go to the meeting next week. I'm also so glad I have you all to bounce ideas off since I won't be able to ask DH his opinions on everything.

I know I'll make it...I'm just getting that pre-deployment down in the dumps feeling and needed to get it out.

Drinks Pretend that more "whine" to go with my post Embarrassed

theaustins05 · September 2011

I hear you! If you need someone to talk to I can PM you my email address. I just joined my local MOMS club. Maybe you have one near you. It's geared towards SAHMs but they may have times that work for you too. www.momsclub.org and good luck with your military wives group.

heikem87 · September 2011

So sorry!! I know what you?re going through but it?ll be ok. It takes some time to get used to but everything will be alright. Just try to surround yourself with people who really know what you?re going through because that makes it easier. Right Hug

Leipock · September 2011

I understand how you feel. My husband is Georgia National Guard and is deploying again at the beginning of next year. We have done this before. He left for that deployment when our oldest was 4 weeks old. It was rough being a new mom and on my own. My parents lived three hours away and his parents were less than useless. This time since we know have two children I have decided to move home with my parents. If you need someone to talk to just PM me and I will give you my email address.

eawebster · September 2011

If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me your email. DH is PA national guard and will be deploying after the first of the year. I already have anxieties about it. During our first deployment we weren't near his unit either (and my not be this time, he's going with a different unit) so I know how tough it is not having anyone close to relate to. I did join an online community (very small group of maybe 10 girls) and they are some of the best friends I have. They may not be close, most are in Germany, but they are there when I need them.

croberts22 · September 2011

Thanks. I know I can do it, and I knew this day was coming...its just all hitting me hard today for some reason.

MommyHarrison · September 2011

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I know how you feel. DH was an active duty marine for a while. He was stationed overseas and deployed to Iraq from there (this was way back in 2005), so even though we were married and he was active duty, I didn't live with him. I lived in my hometown with family and friends that knew little to nothing about military lifestyle.

It is hard when you're surrounded by people who don't truly understand. I hope you can get some support from your family and friends and your new group will help you not feel so alone.

Good luck!!

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