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Maternity Pics?

scawley01scawley01
in November 2011 Moms
I have schedule a session for maternity pics on Oct 2 for me and my husband... I have an 11 year old stepson who lives with us and I was wondering if I should include him in the pics or not. Any suggestions will be appreciated...
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Re: Maternity Pics?

  • vanessa11411vanessa11411 member
    I would. I was planning on taking maternity pics with DH, DD and myself.
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  • Holley+DayHolley+Day
    I think you should unless you are taking pics alone for just the "bump" kind of pics... if DH is in them, I think step-son should be too. IMO :) Have you asked DH how he feels...? Might be a sensitive subject
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  • 909bride909bride
    I have my pics scheduled for 9/25.  My stepdaughter is 10.  I plan on having her in some, but not all.  I will take some alone, some with DH and me, and some with all of us.  Maybe a few with SD and I, if I find some cute poses.  She is super excited about a baby sister and I treat her like she is my own child anyway. 
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  • cikangellcikangell
    I would absolutely include him!!
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  • scawley01scawley01
    If he was my own son or we had a special bond there would be no question about it, but I keep changing my mind about it.  Some times I feel like he doesn't need to because this pics are for LO but some other times I feel like he should. DH leaves it up to me, he just said probably his mom will like to have one with all of us in it ( I guess that is his way to tell me to include him on a few) we probably end up doing that...
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  • MommaEricaMommaErica

    imagescawley01:
    If he was my own son or we had a special bond there would be no question about it, but I keep changing my mind about it.  Some times I feel like he doesn't need to because this pics are for LO but some other times I feel like he should. DH leaves it up to me, he just said probably his mom will like to have one with all of us in it ( I guess that is his way to tell me to include him on a few) we probably end up doing that...

    OUCH! "If he was my own son or we had a special bond."  Every step child's worse nightmare.  Their parent goes on to a new family and they aren't considered a part of it.  Super sucks to be that kid :(

    And SHAME ON HIS DAD for not sticking up for him :( 

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  • tailanistailanis member

    imagecikangell:
    I would absolutely include him!!

    I second this; maybe something like this...

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    imageMommaErica:

    imagescawley01:
    If he was my own son or we had a special bond there would be no question about it, but I keep changing my mind about it.  Some times I feel like he doesn't need to because this pics are for LO but some other times I feel like he should. DH leaves it up to me, he just said probably his mom will like to have one with all of us in it ( I guess that is his way to tell me to include him on a few) we probably end up doing that...

    OUCH! "If he was my own son or we had a special bond."  Every step child's worse nightmare.  Their parent goes on to a new family and they aren't considered a part of it.  Super sucks to be that kid :(

    And SHAME ON HIS DAD for not sticking up for him :( 

    Erica, I have to agree with you on this one!

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  • scawley01scawley01
    If you knew the whole story I would take your reply in consideration but since you don't and is too long to get into it I would not worry about...I will just assume you don't have stepchildrens...there is a bond but is not the intimate kind of bond you will have with your own child, I have dedicated 10 year to raise him and do care about him...he's been included on everything since we find out and we even let him be the one to spread the news, he was even included at the A/S scan. Is just when it comes to this pictures that I feel this way...when he was told about it, he just said he hate pictures...as far as his dad, this are just pictures girls! is not like he have to stick up for him because we are dealing on a life changing event!!
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  • cikangellcikangell

    Your EXACT words were: if he was my own son....

    Everything after that is moot. Either he is an equal member of the family or he is not. I may not be a step-parent, but I am a step-sister, and I DARE anyone to say my non-genetic related sister is any less my REAL sister than my genetic one.

    As far as my Mom, she would DIE for my step-sister. And I don't have to give you our entire family's back story for my reply to deserve consideration. Family is family is family. If you don't have an "intimate bond" with your step-son after "dedicating 10 years to raising him" then I don't know what to tell you. He should be "your own son" by now....

    And OF COURSE he thinks pictures are lame. He's a kid. But years later he will look back and wonder why he wasn't included, and he might not remember saying he hated pictures.

    Sorry if anyone thinks this response is not in correct proportion to the topic- i just feel very strongly about step vs. "real" families.

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  • scawley01scawley01

    Chill lady!! he is going to be included on some.

    Step-parent vs Step-sister no were near the same to compare.

    The "intimate bond", he got that now with his bio mother and for that reason after "10 years of raising him" we just have a different kind of bond.

    He is my Step-son and this IS his "Real" family...there was never one for him before I came around :-)

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