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I can't snap out of it

robinsokjrobinsokj member
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Ever since finding out that gpa il's cancer is caused by a genetic disease that fil is already being treated for I can't stop thinking about it.  I've been totally useless.  I went to the gym b/c it's my cure all and I nearly ate pavement a couple times b/c I was so distracted.  Someone slap me.  Or send me a housekeeper b/c this place is a farking disaster.
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Re: I can't snap out of it

  • akaluttsakalutts member

    Think about it this way - the boys only share 12.5% of their genes with great-grandpa. Even if their grandpa is showing signs of the same illness (I think I remember you saying that) they only share 25% with him. That's 3/4 of their genes that are free and clear.

    (rudimentary math, I know, and genetics is obviously more complicated than that, but hopefully it will still help you shake this without having to resort to being slapped out of it.)

    ((((hugs))))

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  • ExcitedtostartExcitedtostart member

    Are you having the boys tested? If you start treatment before there's any damage, there likely won't be any damage. And treatment is mainly having your blood drawn. 

    Look at it this way: I sort of assume that we'll all get a disease at some point or another. I would rather get one that's easily treatable than something that's not treatable.

    As for the housework, I'm of little help. Make a list of 5 things that need to be done, set the timer for 5 minutes. Do the first thing on the list (dishes) for 5 minutes, then 10 minutes off. Then 5 minutes of the second thing. I realize this probably doesn't  work with twins, but it's all I got. Big Hugs, and I'm so sorry you have to deal with this stuff. 

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    Are you worrying about the boys or your husband?  Probably both, I'm sorry.  I know it's easier said than done, but try not to worry unless you know there is something to worry about. The gym is a good idea, I wish I had your motivation.
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  • robinsokjrobinsokj member
    imageExcitedtostart:

    Are you having the boys tested? If you start treatment before there's any damage, there likely won't be any damage. And treatment is mainly having your blood drawn. 

    Look at it this way: I sort of assume that we'll all get a disease at some point or another. I would rather get one that's easily treatable than something that's not treatable.

    As for the housework, I'm of little help. Make a list of 5 things that need to be done, set the timer for 5 minutes. Do the first thing on the list (dishes) for 5 minutes, then 10 minutes off. Then 5 minutes of the second thing. I realize this probably doesn't  work with twins, but it's all I got. Big Hugs, and I'm so sorry you have to deal with this stuff. 

    Logically, I know this.  But, GPA IL did all that and look where he is now so the logical side of my head isn't winning at the moment

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  • akaluttsakalutts member
    imagerobinsokj:
    imageExcitedtostart:

    Look at it this way: I sort of assume that we'll all get a disease at some point or another. I would rather get one that's easily treatable than something that's not treatable.

    Logically, I know this.  But, GPA IL did all that and look where he is now so the logical side of my head isn't winning at the moment

    But hasn't he also had this for a long time? And lived a pretty long life? As much as chronic illness blows, try to look at the positive side - how much life he's had despite a long term illness. I know that doesn't make the negative go away, but perhaps if you keep reminding yourself about the ++ it will at least start to balance it all out.

     

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  • Rach21Rach21 member
    Knowing what your GPA IL is facing, seeing your FIL undergoing treatment, and worrying about your DH and boys, I think the housekeeping can slide for a few days. I would strongly suggest your DH get some pre-screening tests done, just to be vigilant. T&Ps for ALL of your guys!
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