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relationship with ILs
I feel a little odd but this is the situation: EX is not currently in our life and hasn't been in the past, however, his family adores DS, visit and stay in contact and wish to continue to do so. They are aware that G (ex) is not involved and even agree that he's not being a mature person in regards the choices he is making right now.
I want as many people in Logan's life that want to be there and that love him but am worried it could get really awkward with the IL's in the future (G and I are currently in court for custody/cs). . We've agreed to not talk about G and focus on building relationships between ourselves and Logan but part of me feels like that isn't realistic - G is their son and Logan's father - somethings are bound to come up. Also, just to throw it in there; his family is absolutely amazing and so loving towards myself, my family, and Logan... they really are good people who have DS's best interests at heart and really love him.
Has anyone had this experience where the father is not involved but the family members are???
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Re: relationship with ILs
Yes, I have a similar situation. Ex's parents are divorced, and he doesn't talk to his mom, however, his mom is incredibly supportive of me and DD and we get along really well. She's allowed to come see DD whenever she wants, and we go visit her for a weekend every now and then (she lives in a different state). I feel that it's in DD's best interest to have as much love from whatever family members are willing to give it. We generally don't talk about ex much, but whenever we do, his mom is on my side
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His dad is a different story. I gave him an opportunity to be involved by sending a baby shower invite to his wife. She never responded at all and I haven't heard from them since, so I just assume they don't care and don't want to be a part of DD's life. That's fine with me too.
I have a similar situation. X goes through phases where he basically drops off the face of the earth for a couple of months at a time and doesn't have any contact with me, DS, or his family. His parents still always want to be involved with DS, and I get along pretty well with them given the circumstances. His mom helps me out with keeping DS when I have things to do, and she occasionally keeps him overnight just for fun.
I still keep my guard up with them somewhat though, because no matter what, that is their son, so I feel like if it came down to it, they would take his side over mine.