EDDs and holidays/tragedys

ATXBarber · September 2011

One of my close friends had their baby today. I'm super excited for them and their baby is gorgeous. I do remember a few months ago, he told me the EDD was September 11th and he hoped it came earlier/later...I know he's happy with her arrival date now though. I have a friend who's baby arrived a year after her mother's death. I know she is sad on her daughter's birthday because she remembers her mom.

Would you mind your baby being born on a day that something horrible happened? Like would it bother you so much that you'd want to induce early? Or is there a particular date you would love to have a baby on for any particular reason?

I would be happy with whatever due date, but I read a post earlier that a lot of people induced yesterday because of 9-10-11.

reinstone · September 2011

I have a coworker and a friend who both had birthdays today. While it might be sad that everyone is thinking about something else on your birthday, no one will ever forget the date.

brookelynpaisley · September 2011

1. People probably also induced yesterday because of the novelty date 9-10-11, just like they did for 7-7-07 and 10-10-10. I realize there is a stigma about 9-11, but I don't think that's the only reason.

I don't think it would bother me much. Ideal? Not really, but you make the best of it, and tell you child they're what brings light to a dark anniversary.

dani2480 · September 2011

I imagine it might be a little hard if our future child was born on October 23. That was my parent's wedding anniversary (before they went through a nasty divorce). And also the day my dad committed suicide. It is a very sad day for me.

However, I wouldn't attempt to induce early to avoid that day. If my child was born on that date, I would focus on the positive, and feel blessed that life gave me something wonderful to focus on, on that day, instead of all the sadness. No doubt the sadness would always be there to some extent, but I would also have a choice as to how I reacted to it all.

Switzerland87 · September 2011

I don't think I'd be upset enough to induce early just to avoid a certain birth date. That being said, I know my mom always told me that she was glad I was born late because my EDD was October 31, and she was worried that I'd feel cheated if I had to share my birthday with a holiday.

IDK, inducing early doesn't seem worth it to me.

ATXBarber · September 2011

brookelynpaisley:

1. People probably also induced yesterday because of the novelty date 9-10-11, just like they did for 7-7-07 and 10-10-10. I realize there is a stigma about 9-11, but I don't think that's the only reason.

I don't think it would bother me much. Ideal? Not really, but you make the best of it, and tell you child they're what brings light to a dark anniversary.

I completely agree with this. DH's parents have their anniversary on 9-11. I told that to my grandpa and he basically said ahhh that sucks. I don't understand why that sucks, especially considering they've had that date as their anniversary way before 2001.

Rhianna1981 · September 2011

An friend of a friend induced last week because the due date was today, and she didn't want the baby to be born on 9-11. I wouldn't do it, but it isn't really my business what she does.

brookelynpaisley · September 2011

dani2480:

I imagine it might be a little hard if our future child was born on October 23. That was my parent's wedding anniversary (before they went through a nasty divorce). And also the day my dad committed suicide. It is a very sad day for me.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Brodyrox30 · September 2011

I wouldn't choose to be induced/have a c-section early or on a specific day just for the sake of having/not having a certain day. I always feel like the baby is supposed to be born on a certain day (fate-related, sort of) and I shouldn't interfere with it. However, if I was scheduled to be induced/have a c-section and got my pick of days, that would probably sway my decision.

ETA: Wow. I'm really tired and just realized how many times I wrote "certain day". OY!

NBA0703 · September 2011

I don't think I would schedule an induction to deliver early to avoid a certain date. I don't want to be induced at all. I also have a couple friends with 9/11 birthdays.

NBA0703 · September 2011

dani2480:

I imagine it might be a little hard if our future child was born on October 23. That was my parent's wedding anniversary (before they went through a nasty divorce). And also the day my dad committed suicide. It is a very sad day for me.

However, I wouldn't attempt to induce early to avoid that day. If my child was born on that date, I would focus on the positive, and feel blessed that life gave me something wonderful to focus on, on that day, instead of all the sadness. No doubt the sadness would always be there to some extent, but I would also have a choice as to how I reacted to it all.

I am soo sorry for your loss : (

CC.to.be · September 2011

I was originally due with my first child 9/11/10. I ended up miscarrying at 8.5 weeks. At first I was upset that my baby was possibly going to have that for their birthday then I got over it. Usually people celebrate birthdays when it is convenient so usually on weekends and not often on the actual birthday. I still get very sad on 9/11 not only because of the trajic loss our country went through, but because that would have been my angel baby's birthday

Edit: My DS was born on Christmas Eve and came almost 2 weeks early. Not ideal, but we will always make sure that he feels like its his special day so he can never say he got "screwed" out of Christmas.

SGC29 · September 2011

I don't understand early inductions unless it is medically necessary so my answer is no, it would not matter to me the date.

LooneyLife · September 2011

When my sister was scheduling her repeat csection her doctor gave her two dates. One was 9/11. The other was a nephew's birthday. They went with 9/11 so that my niece would at least have her own birthday.

This is what she wrote yesterday, which I thought was really nice:
"It takes only minutes of news coverage for the crushing sadness to come flooding back. But...I feel lucky to have a beautiful, funny little girl who is celebrating her 3rd birthday today. One day, she will learn about the significance of this day and its cost to our country. Today, though, she is trying on her new princess dress and dancing away. Happy Birthday, *********. When you were born, we knew you would make a hard day so much better. Thank you for brightening our lives."

MrsSerendipity · September 2011

I honestly wouldn't mind if future LO shared it's birthday with a holiday/tragedy anniversary.

Now I'm going to somewhat contradict myself and say that I did have a problem with my DS trying to make his appearance on mine and my ex-husbands wedding anniversary. That was one 27 hour labor I didn't mind because he stayed in until the next morning.

Jinnifah · September 2011

I would sort of hope my future child isn't born on a holiday so that they don't get cheated out of a birthday. Growing up I had a friend who was born Dec 25th, and I always felt bad for her because she never had birthday parties (because all her friends were busy over the holidays).

Still, I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to prevent my child being born when he/she wanted to come.

rainyday31 · September 2011

I don't think it would be such a bad thing to celebrate a life on a day marked by death. It serves as a reminder that time is precious and every year we are given is a gift.

LivingItUpInUP · September 2011

I would prefer to avoid a day with negative connotation, such as 9-11, but I wouldn't induce to avoid it.

I think someone having 9-11 birthday post 2001 is different than someone having it who lived through the events. For example, being born on December 8th (Pearl Harbor) or June 6th (D Day) doesn't have much meaning for people our age, but for our grandparents they probably have much closer feelings for those dates. It's different actually living through a tragedy rather than reading about it and learning about it in history class.

7apodacn · September 2011

I wouldn't care when the baby would be born, as long as they are healthy. S/he will come when they are ready. As for the holidays, my husband's birthday is Dec. 31st. He never felt like he got screwed out of it because it was close to Christmas; his parents made sure to have a separate celebration on a different day for him. DH has a niece whose birthday is the first week of January and we still do a separate party for her too.

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