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Can I have a 3rd birthday party w/o a "special" activity or location

DD's birthday is in December.  I was thinking about going to a bounce place, but I think that'll be really expensive - like $300ish, plus food, etc.  I'm now thinking of maybe jsut doing it at home and invite DD's friends (and parents).  We have a big enough house and we have a separate playroom for the kids.  We did an at home party last year and it was fun, but I'm not sure if it'll be boring this year.  I probably have between 10-15 kids to invite, plus parents and our families.

Thoughts?

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Re: Can I have a 3rd birthday party w/o a "special" activity or location

  • We did just that for DS1's 3rd birthday party and again this past weekend for his 4th birthday party too.  I had no activities planned for the kids and no one thought anything of it!  We just had fun playing and eating (instead of spending money on a special location, we made a lot of really good food for our guests) and catching up with our friends and family members. 
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  • I think you can get away with that easily up until age 5 or 6 and even beyond depending on the size of the group.

    The kids just have a blast exploring a new house and playing with different toys.

     

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  • I think you have to have some kind of activity, but it doesn't have to be expensive.  We've had arts and crafts before and that kept the kids busy, especially with all of the toys to play with. 
    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
  • imageshouldbworkin:
    I think you have to have some kind of activity, but it doesn't have to be expensive.  We've had arts and crafts before and that kept the kids busy, especially with all of the toys to play with. 

    do you have a recommendation?  We've done arts and crafts at a few parties, but it always seems like it ends up being me doing the project.

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  • You can totally get away with that.  I think it will be fine.  You can have some activity planned if you like, maybe decorating a cupcake to take home, but I am not sure that would even be needed at that age.


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  • We had an at-home party for DD1's birthday last year. We had seven kids (but invited 10), ages 3 to 8 years, so I thought we needed some activities to keep them all entertained and occupied.

    Unlike everyone else, with 10-15 kids, I'd want to have some activities planned rather than all free play, because with that many kids stuck indoors I'd worry there'd be fights over toys and complaints of boredom.

    When I was planning our party, I asked for ideas here and used this advice (I think from neverblushed) as a guide:

    For 3 year olds, a mix of free play activities (a train table, a bunch of balls in the yard, the play kitchen made available for guests) along with one or two whole-group games and a table with art projects where parents will help their own kids out works well. The best parties for this age group are structured using the same logic a preschool teacher uses to arrange blocks of activities for the kids at school.  Some flexible free play as the guests arrive, then have the kids come together for a group activity (the freeze dance is one that kids of all ages love), then some time for kids to cycle through the arts and crafts activities, then another game or activity, then cake and singing, then a little more play as you hand out favor bags and say goodbye to guests who are leaving.  The whole party can be accomplished in 2 hours. In fact, parties that go much longer than that can lead to preschool meltdowns!

    So, with that in mind, we had a Wonder Pets theme and did: free play (as the kids arrived), freeze dance, limbo, a break for pizza, a scavenger hunt (four rhyming clues to find each WP and the baby pig in trouble), duck duck goose (per one kid's request), pin-the-W-on-the-cape, a break for cupcakes, musical chairs, and a pull-string pi?ata. I also had a table set up with crayons and some WP coloring pages and left the playroom open for free play throughout the party. If we hadn't had the older kids, I probably would have kept it less structured, with more time for free play.

    We've been to two other at-home parties; one was similar to ours, with a steady stream of activities, for 3 and 5 y.o. brothers; and the other was mostly free play with one craft, but that was outside in June. (The craft was simple and worked well, though; they had foam doorhangers and buckets of foam shapes and letters stickers so it didn't need to be overly supervised.)

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  • Of course you can! That is exactly what we did for our three year old in July when she turned three. It was fantastic. Just a backyard morning party. My DD told me she wanted monkeys for the theme, so I went with it.

    We had sangria/coffee/tea/orange juice/Honest Kids juice boxes, monkey cupcakes (banana cupcakes with vanilla cream cheese frosting, decorated to look like monkey faces), tropical granola with yogurt on the side, banana bread, fruit salad, veggies and dip and Banana Nut Cheerios in little cups.

    Each favor bag had a barrel of monkeys, bubbles with zoo characters on the outside and monkey munch, which I made. It had banana chips, white chocolate chips, Banana Nut Cheerios and shredded coconut.

    No games. Everyone had a blast hanging out and the kids had so much fun playing together. 

  • I never had a special location or guest at a birthday party growing up (except 1 year when we took about 5 girls to the city indoor pool).  Crafts for 3 year olds might be tough, but just providing craft materials would be fin for the kids.  Decorating sugar cookies is easy, cheap and fun.  Bake a bunch of cool shapes ahead of time and have several bowls of colored frosting with popsicle sticks on the table.  The kids can come and go, eat them or take them home.  You can have a music corner for the kids to have a "dance party"- especially if you have a kid who's not shy.  I remember one year I had plastic visors or hats for each kid and puffy paints (yeah it was the 80's) to decorate them.  Somewhat a waste of money for 3yo kids, but might still be fun.  Something tangible to personalize that they can take home.  
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     For his 4th I did party games too, and the kids seemed more inconvenienced than anything - even at 4 they were happiest just playing with toys.

    Wanted to second this.

    What I've found from parties with lots of scheduled activities is that the kids don't get to interact with each other as much.

    At D's BFF's birthday this past summer they did the freeze game, pin the tale on the donkey, etc.  There was very little down time.

    Dylan was really looking forward to it because he was at a new school and wanted to socialize with new friends but they were so focused on activities that he didn't really get to "play" with his friends much, KWIM?

     

     

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    imageshouldbworkin:
    I think you have to have some kind of activity, but it doesn't have to be expensive.  We've had arts and crafts before and that kept the kids busy, especially with all of the toys to play with. 

    do you have a recommendation?  We've done arts and crafts at a few parties, but it always seems like it ends up being me doing the project.

    The foam sticker kits seem to go over well.  They need a little help from mom or dad, but they don't make a big mess.  You can have them decorate something, like a bucket or bag and maybe do a pinata after where they fill their bucket/bag with pinata loot. 

    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
  • We're having a 3rd birthday party at Michaels.  I just can't entertain and clean up after a bunch of little kids at my house this pregnant!  But - the room is only $50, and they provide an employee to "lead" the crafts - just buy supplies there.  Heck, I'd buy supplies there if I were doing it at home so for $50 I am thrilled that I won't have to do much set up or cleaning.  We're doing a foam sticker project AND decorating cupcakes.  Oh, and added facepainting and a ballon bouquet.  We can come 30 minutes early to decorate and bringing in pizza.  Easy, not too expensive, and limited setup/cleanup work.
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  • We did the same thing for DS1's past two parties. I'm big on no frills parties at home. Kids don't care about how much money you spent or the space you rented out. They want to get together and play, no matter where that happens.
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  • I have a suggestion for an activity that kids really enjoy.  We did an egg hunt, which could be indoors depending on weather.  At DD's party last month, we did a princess theme (really a no-brainer with a 3 yo girl!), so I bought sparkly plastic eggs from Oriental Trading that we called "Dragon Eggs" and filled them with candy and party favors, then hid them all over the yard.  All the kids understood the rules and it kept them busy for quite a while.  We also did dress up and I took a picture of each kid dressed in a costume standing next to the birthday girl.  As a craft, we bought $1 wooden picture frames from Michael's and gave them lots of self adhesive gems and glitter glue to decorate with (markers or paint would also work), and we printed the photos so the kids could put theirs in the frame when heading home.  Otherwise, free play and food were the order of the day- no bounce house or other expensive activity.
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  • Sure you can have it at your house without any special activity or spending money on renting a place.  This is what we've done for DD's birthdays and it's worked out great.  The kids have a blast playing with whatever toys they want and they organize their own games.  The only structure I offered was having time for lunch, presents and cake.  The rest of the time (about 1.5 hours) was mixed in between those activities and was a free for all.  The kids seemed to enjoy it and the adults were free to talk instead of having to watch "the events".  
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