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second baby shower?
What is the rule or etiquette on a second baby shower for a second baby?
I had a boy in Dec. 07 and now expecting a girl in Feb 08...
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Re: second baby shower?
Well... it depends. First, has anyone offered to throw you a shower?
My personal take- I think a full on shower for a 2nd baby is overboard. Except for in special situations- babies REALLY far apart in age, twins the 2nd time around, etc. Different gender is NOT a special situation in my book - you'll get lots of girls clothes regardless.
Some people throw "Sprinkles" which are smaller and much simpler than a shower. It's truly your CLOSEST family and friends. Or have a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born.
But as close as your babies are in age ... to have a full blown shower - why? What could you really possibly NEED beyond diapers and clothes? That's why I say if anything is done, it needs to be simple and small.
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I would so no, what would you be asking for? People will buy you girl clothes no matter what. Any toys etc... you should be able to use from your last baby. I would not go to a 2nd baby shower because I would see it as gift grabby even more so since it is not even a year since Dec 07 yet.
ditto Roxy Lynn exactly.
And whatever you do, don't host a diaper dinner and charge people for your hospitality. You are not a restaurant, and hopefully have better manners than that egregious example.
I am having a second shower but thats because 1. its been 9yrs 2. its a girl and the first girl in 2 generations for 16yrs 3. This is the big one, I had 3 pp fighting over who got to throw one. My mom won and is super excited to be getting a grand daughter and having a party for her/us. This is also dh first and only bio child he will get after months of trying and medical intervention to go with.
Since it is so close to your other child I would just have a get to meet our newest memeber party after she is born. Pp will buy presents if they want to either way.
i have 2 other kids both girls. we are having a boy. my mom and sil are give us a shower. i think every baby should have their own shower. big or small. i dont expect anything. but its nice to gather wit friends and fam.
if someone wants to give you a shower go for. if not then throw something yourself after the baby is born
Nope you shouldn't get one.
Well we had our daughter Hayden in Feb and she was stillborn at 37 1/2 weeks. We are pregnant again and before we even knew what we were having the ladies at work and my closest friends said we are having another shower. I only want it to be close friends and family and right before I get induced. For my family shower, my mom and my bf are throwing it. It will be only family and very close friends and probably at a resturant.
We are having a boy this time and last time everyone went over board with the pink stuff. So there is stuff we need but we are getting alot of stuff ourselves. The shower is mostly to celebrate this baby also
You can host a nice no-gifts tea or luncheon for your friend - it's a lovely way to celebrate her blessing, and it's entirely etiquette-compliant.
Ok. So tell me if I qualify.....
I had my daughter in 2003. I saved EVERYTHING.. Even bottles and pacifiers. We lost everything in the fire last year, and literally have NOTHING baby because everything saved, was destroyed. I am now pregnant with number two, and am really hoping someone wants to throw a shower, because I really have nothing. Do I qualify on etiquette? Or is it still a big no no to have a shower for a second baby?
We do a small "sprinkle" for second babies in our social group. It's usually a really girly gathering for pedicures or tea that includes small gifts for the mom to be. For the most part it is a celebration of motherhood not really of a baby.
IMO, to the post above... I think that is a special situation. If your house burned down, and someone offers to throw you a shower, then I think it would be ok. But honestly, I would still make my guest list shorter than what your first shower was.
One of my best friends relocated here when her son was 2 and daughter was 3yrs. old. I didn't share in celebrating the birth of her son or daughter. 10 years later she's remarried and expecting a girl. Her friends, family and I through her a shower and thought nothing of it.
I'd do it again. In your case maybe your kids are to close together you should have a lot of stuff that can be handed down...clothes and diapers I'd have to agree with the others who say through a meet the baby party
My husband and i decided not to register anywhere. The only things you really NEED are a crib, diapers, onesies, wipes and maybe some burping cloths. Everything else is completely unnecessary for a newborn.
We decided to have a "Welcome to the world" party after the baby is born. The idea of a shower as basically being a "present party" is kinda tacky, and we didn't do one for our wedding either.
Good luck wth your showers, but maybe you should think about what things you really NEED and what things people tell you "omg you just have to have this!"...there's usually a very big difference.