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What else can I do?
Back story: Before my DH and I became engaged I weighed 280 lbs and he was 405 pounds, that was 2007. The day that we got married (5/16/2009) I weighed 218 and he weighed roughly 290-300 pounds. All we did to lose the weight was walking and eating right. Then fast forward to Dec 2009, I finally broke the 200's when we found out I was pregnant. During my pregnancy I gained 42 pounds, and he probably gained about 20-25. Since my LO's birth (8/9/10), I have lost 40 of my 42 pounds gained, with an overall goal of getting down to between 150-160 pounds. However, my DH keeps gaining weight, at a rapid pace. The last weight he told he was at was almost 340. I have talked to him about how I would love for him to workout with me, because I want him to be healthy for our daughter, and for himself. So far, he has done nothing but complain about the weight gain.
My question to you ladies: How do I get him motivated again? I am just so afraid that he is going to get back to his original weight, and then some. Please know that I would love him at any weight, but I want him to be able to live a long healthy life and see our daughter grow up.
Any input you ladies have would be greatly appreciated. TIA!
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Re: What else can I do?
Right now my goal would be to help him avoid gaining anymore weight, before you worry about him losing any.
Can you start going on walks again, take your LO and invite DH along? Also, do you prepare the meals or does DH?
If you prepare them, maybe you can start to make healthier substitutions. Can you pack his lunch a few days a week? Make a healthy breakfast option in the morning?
Also getting out of the house after work, rather than watching TV can 1) help everyone stay moving 2) prevents tv induced snacking.
Maybe if you just make these changes without directing them at him but more of a family effort, he will be more willing to participate. The best motivation is commenting/positive reinforcement when healthy habits are achieved.
My DH was skinny but not generally "healthy" when I met him. When I first started making changes, I would encourage him when I noticed he did something. Like the first time he came back from the grocery store with brown rice instead of white. I made sure to make a comment about this and say "thanks".
GL and I hope you find something that works for everyone.
When I invite him to go on walks with me, he seems to have an excuse as to why he doesn't want to go. As for meals, I make dinner. He takes care of his own breakfast and lunch.
You're right, I need to try harder to make it a family oriented thing. Not to mention it's not like he hasn't made healthier choices before. I just need him to start wanting to do it.
Thank you for the advice, and Congrats on your LO!!