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October 2011 Moms
e_delo
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How do you know if your baby is cute?
e_delo
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I know this sounds really shallow but I've wondered for years (DD is 8). When I was pregnant with DD my bf got preg 3 months after I did. DD was born 10 days after the EDD and was 8lbs 9 oz. She had blue eyes (most babies do) and red curly hair. She was delivered c-section and was plump, her head wasn't squashed or coned or anything. I thought she was so beautiful. My bf's dd was born premature she came out 4lbs wasn't developed all the way and just kind of funny looking (to be expected, she didn't have enough time to bake) after her dd got out of Nicu and was home we'd go out together and people would come up and say "what a beautiful baby" to me then would look at her baby and say "what a beautiful baby" . I don't mean this to sound bad but her dd didn't look "normal" for about a year. So I KNEW people were lying to her...which made me think, are they lying to me too? Is my baby ugly? I mean I know that everyone thinks their baby is beautiful and to all moms they are but how do you REALLY know? I'm just as guilty to telling parents of ugly babies that they are beautiful (and I get the babies are miracles thing- I also believe this). I also wanted to say that my bf's DD is beautiful now, she is not behind in any way and thriving in school and sports. It doesn't really matter but I would like to know if LO is cute when he comes but I know I can't really trust people to tell me.
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Re: How do you know if your baby is cute?
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Parents should always have the illusion that their kids are beautiful. It doesn't matter if they are not model babies, as kids change so much so quickly. Those "unfortunate-looking" babies usually get better looking by 3 months of age and I've seen the cutest toddlers grow into "unfortunate-looking" adults.
I try not lie to people ( I think it's two-faced and I resent people who falsely say flattering things). I usually say "precious" if the baby doesn't deserve the "gorgeous/beautiful" title.
I agree. Whenever I see an unfortunite looking child, I try to find one thing nice about their looks and comment on that. Ex: Instead of saying they are beautiful, I'll say "(S)he has such nice eyes/nose/chubby cheeks,ect"
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life."
~ Winston Churchill
to me - most babies look like aliens.
but also - once they fill out (say about 3 months) all babies are adorable.
I don't think any newborns are cute-- they all look like aliens. I however don't say "what a beautiful baby" because itd be a lie I'll say "oh look at those cute little toes" or "isnt he sweet" if its cuddled up sleeping.
Guess thats just me...
Just enter the kid in a beauty pageant and let the experts decide. Spray tanning seems to help...
I jest.
I was very premature myself, pulled out with forceps so I had a mishapen head and a very smushed up face. My mother said she didn't believe I was hers and I was not a cute baby at all. So hey, I guess some moms can tell!
But why do you want your LO's appearance to be evaluated as beautiful or not? My DD was, and is, absolutely gorgeous, and I would cutabitch who said otherwise!!!! I already know my son in my belly is a handsome fella. Who cares what anyone else's standards are for attractiveness of our spawn?
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Ahh you just literally made me cry like a baby! Thank you for your kind words. I don't think of her as imperfect I just know others might see it that way. My point was more that no matter what I'll love her and think she is beautiful...just like most parents do with their children
I remember the first time my mom went through my baby album with me when I was around 10. She showed me my newborn pictures, and the first thing I said was "Wow, I was a really ugly baby." Her jaw dropped and eyes went wide, but when she recovered she said "I thought you were the most beautiful thing I had ever seen when you were born, and I still do."
Babies do look a little weird at first, but once they fill out and grow a little most of the ones I've seen have been adorable!
Well every parent thinks their children is cute. Alot of family and friends will say your child is cute as well to be nice. If random strangers come up to you and tell you your child is cute, adorable, etc, then you will know.
I wondered the same thing b/c I normally do not think babies are cute but I did think my daughter is/was. But when I had tons of strangers coming up to me saying how cute, adorable she was, I knew. She is almost 4 and I still have complete strangers that want to talk to her and complimenting on how adorable, pretty she is. I actually have been told tons of times that I need to enter her into modeling.
You can also tell by a person's body language. If they halfway smile and say aww or how cute then it's not completely believeable. If they have an ear to ear grin on their face, talk in a high pitched voice, gets all excited, and you are trying to get away from them b/c you are busy shopping when all they want to do is talk to your child, then you know its not fake.
I agree!
There is a difference between BEING beautiful and LOOKING beautiful. In my book, all babies ARE beautiful, even if they look like aliens. Bad comparison, but it's sort of the same way that even the weirdest looking dogs are adorable. They just are, it's in their nature - just like all babies are beautiful.