We were going to wait until 10-11 weeks but during our appt last week we found out it was twins. We couldn't keep that a secret...a lot to process on our own so we told our parents and siblings. Everyone else will know after the 1st trimester.
We waited until after our first appointment last time, and will do that again. This time I'm really not in rush because I am DREADING telling my brother and his wife that I am pregnant again. Her IF has no explanation and they've been trying longer than we have. We're now working on kid number 2, both conceived on first tries and we are older.
I'm impatient and told everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, the day I found out. I cannot keep something like this a secret.
i wish i could be joking but my dad is the music teacher at a church so he owuld be mad. we had sex, all the time how bad i know but we dont want to wait and he said GREAT OH KAY! and I was really feeling the wets? down there- too embarsed to say- but he acted like man.
I waited until after my first appointment where I saw the heartbeat for my DD. I have been pregnant twice since, and miscarried twice. Needless to say, I am very glad that I waited to tell my family. (sorry, accidentally came to the wrong board (I just miscarried 2 days ago) but thought I would post none the less).
I actually freaked out when I saw the very VERY faint second pink line, and called my mom (she's a nurse) to ask her opinion... so my parents knew immediately when we did
We told his parents a week later, when we got back from our vacation.
I know we probably should have waited (should STILL be waiting) but it is our first, and will be the first grandchild for both sets of our parents... and honestly, if something happened, we'd need their support anyway.
Although we've had a m/c before and know how hard it can be to have to back-track, we are telling my parents this weekend. They are coming to visit and would notice if I wasn't drinking. Plus, I know that I'd want to talk to my mom about it if anything bad happened again, so she'd find out anyway.
Other than that, we always have a party/cookout for our wedding anniversary on or around Halloween, so I figure we'll do it then by announcing that we're going to be having a "little pumpkin" on a cake or something. That would include friends and other family.
First came love, then came marriage - Oct 31, 09 Then came a miscarriage March '11 Then came a baby in the baby carriage May 16, 12
We told right away our first pregnancy which would have been around 5 weeks. But we miscarried. We miscarried 3 other times and never told. (well except once to my mother but that's a whole other story)
So we are waiting right now until after the first trimester, but there is a big family get together when we are 11 weeks so we want to go ahead and tell then.
I think it's safe to wait, just because of my experience, but tell whenever it feels right to you.
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We told my sister, bf and DH's brother around 5 1/2 weeks. We're telling DH's mom and sister tomorrow at 6w, 6d after our first u/s, and my parents Saturday. We do want to wait as long as possible to tell everyone else, but it's getting exhausting making up excuses. I've been nervous going to social engagements because I know I'll get asked a bunch why I'm not drinking.
We are waiting to tell them when we have a wedding date set, which will be in a couple weeks hopefully. We have been engaged since May but think it would be important before we tell them about baby that we have a wedding date in mind to soften the blow. They are pretty traditional.
We told our immediate family (parents & siblings) right away because after a loss we knew we would need all support if something were to happen early on. Once we had my first ultrasound and saw the heartbeat we didn't care who knew, we felt much more comfortable after that.
We told our parents the weekend after we found out. We still haven't told anyone else except a few close friends, but we may announce it this weekend or at least start telling more people. We're tired of hiding it, and our first appointment is today. So we'll see how we feel after this!
We told our parents at 6 weeks, after my first doctor's appointment. We told friends and the rest of the world at 9 weeks, after we saw and heard a strong heartbeat. I knew that if we lost the baby, we'd want as much support as possible. Plus, we know SO MANY people who are expecting a baby...it was too hard being around them and hiding my own pregnancy!
We announced at the boys second birthday at which point I was going to be 8 weeks on the following Wednesday.
They were already hinting around so I knew that they already had an idea so all our close families were there.
As far as friends I'm thinking closer to 12 weeks, but I'm having an u/s on Tuesday so I guess we'll see if everything looks good we might start spreading the news...
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We are telling them tomorrow at 10 weeks. We saw the heartbeat last week and feel pretty good. I'm glad the embryonic stage is over. I would like to hold out longer, but I'm going to see my mom and sisters next week and I wouldn't be able to keep the secret.
I have an appointment during week 11 where we'll hear the heartbeat on Doppler (and if we don't, we get an ultrasound, which might happen as I have a titled uterus)... but anyway, we have a family wedding that weekend so it will be easy to share then, since all of DH's family will be together. We will also tell my family that weekend.
It's up for debate haha. Originally we were going to wait until I was out of the first trimester. Then I wanted to do it around 9 - 10 weeks. Now I want to tell my mom at my brother's birthday in two weeks. LOL. We'll see. H wants to wait as long as possible.
I told my mom and sister at 6 weeks. I wanted to wait until we heard a heartbeat, but we had dinner with my sister and I kept having to leave the table because I was sick, so I spilled the beans and then told my mom. We told the ILs and my dad (parents are divorced) a couple weeks later when we heard the heartbeat. We'll tell the rest of the family in another couple weeks after the NT scan.
I would love to not tell people until the 2nd trimester, but that's almost impossible. My coworker has already been making comments and has an idea. My mom and dad are having a party next weekend and they will notice and comment when I do not have any beers. And If my mom knows, then all the other women in the family will know. My grandma, aunts, and cousins are all pretty close. So I'm likely going to spill the beans next week, but I'm excited to share because one of my cousins just told about her pregnancy the other day and our babies will be very close in age.
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I wanted to wait but my husband can't keep a secret. So everyone knew about a week later. Lol
Robin
We won't tell them until after my 9 week appointment when we will hopefully have a baby with a heartbeat.
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I actually freaked out when I saw the very VERY faint second pink line, and called my mom (she's a nurse) to ask her opinion... so my parents knew immediately when we did
We told his parents a week later, when we got back from our vacation.
I know we probably should have waited (should STILL be waiting) but it is our first, and will be the first grandchild for both sets of our parents... and honestly, if something happened, we'd need their support anyway.
This. And now I'm kinda worried and hope I didn't jinx myself
Although we've had a m/c before and know how hard it can be to have to back-track, we are telling my parents this weekend. They are coming to visit and would notice if I wasn't drinking. Plus, I know that I'd want to talk to my mom about it if anything bad happened again, so she'd find out anyway.
Other than that, we always have a party/cookout for our wedding anniversary on or around Halloween, so I figure we'll do it then by announcing that we're going to be having a "little pumpkin" on a cake or something. That would include friends and other family.
Then came a miscarriage March '11
Then came a baby in the baby carriage May 16, 12
Waiting on our second little peanut!
We told right away our first pregnancy which would have been around 5 weeks. But we miscarried. We miscarried 3 other times and never told. (well except once to my mother but that's a whole other story)
So we are waiting right now until after the first trimester, but there is a big family get together when we are 11 weeks so we want to go ahead and tell then.
I think it's safe to wait, just because of my experience, but tell whenever it feels right to you.
We announced at the boys second birthday at which point I was going to be 8 weeks on the following Wednesday.
They were already hinting around so I knew that they already had an idea so all our close families were there.
As far as friends I'm thinking closer to 12 weeks, but I'm having an u/s on Tuesday so I guess we'll see if everything looks good we might start spreading the news...
We waited 10 days because it just so happened that my out of state inlaws were coming in for my older DD's birthday party then.
We are still waiting... I'm around 9 weeks.
I have an appointment during week 11 where we'll hear the heartbeat on Doppler (and if we don't, we get an ultrasound, which might happen as I have a titled uterus)... but anyway, we have a family wedding that weekend so it will be easy to share then, since all of DH's family will be together. We will also tell my family that weekend.
We're waiting until after the 12 week appt. That's what we did with DS and it worked out fine. I'm just afraid I'm going to show sooner with this one.
mm 2/17/11 * dd born 4/20/12 * bo 1/3/14 * edd 1/21/ 1/15
Our immediate family (I have 1 sister and DH has 2), found out 1 week after we knew.
However, the rest of our extended family and friends still do not know. I am keeping that hush, hush until 2nd tri.
. . . BTW, my boss just found out last week Friday.
I would love to not tell people until the 2nd trimester, but that's almost impossible. My coworker has already been making comments and has an idea. My mom and dad are having a party next weekend and they will notice and comment when I do not have any beers. And If my mom knows, then all the other women in the family will know. My grandma, aunts, and cousins are all pretty close. So I'm likely going to spill the beans next week, but I'm excited to share because one of my cousins just told about her pregnancy the other day and our babies will be very close in age.