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Thanks for calling me fat MIL (in not so many words)

VitaminCVitaminC member
in September 2011 Moms

The following is a MIL vent: 

We had MIL and FIL over yesterday for Labor Day yesterday.  I was sitting on the couch and MIL looks over at me and says.  "I don't remember you being THIS big last time."  Whether I am or not, who says that?  I guess I should consider myself lucky because this is the first time she's specifically mentioned my weight this time.  Last time she would actually ask me how much weight I've gained.  And then remind me that she only gained 10 lbs with DH and 13 with BIL.  Maybe I should have smoked the whole time like she did with both of her kids. 

My reply was something like, well I'm carrying lower and I think it's pushing my belly out further.  But I wanted to say something more like "I have a full term baby in my belly what's your excuse?"  We do not have a close relationship at all.  So I'm not really sure what makes her think that she can bring up my size. 

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Re: Thanks for calling me fat MIL (in not so many words)

  • manda26manda26 member
    OMG that would have been a great come back! My SIL's mother called me chubby on Sunday. People really think comments like this are ok to make to pregnant women. Really irritating. I promise myself to never do it to someone else.
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  • sw_weddingsw_wedding
    Ohh the in-laws and people in general need to learn to keep their mouth shut!
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  • aleksmaraleksmar
    Meh!! Try not to get upset. My dad calls me fatso everytime he talks to me.
    My response: be happy I'm this big! big belly=healthy grandchild for you!
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  • TchrJen24TchrJen24
    OMG I don't know what I would have said. Why do people think it's OK to mention a pregnant woman's weight gain?
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  • JaninneAlvaradoJaninneAlvarado
    I usually don't care for these posts as they are common during pregnancy but this reminded me of how my MIL called me a pinata the other day. I feel you!! I understand that my last 3 pregnancies I was smaller, I had small boys and this time I'm having a girl. Yes, I am carrying different and am much larger. As if I haven't noticed this, she had to point it out. G thanks MIL!!
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  • Ms5586Ms5586 member
    Ugh, that's so obnoxious.  I had a relative of DH's write "Happy Birthday chubbs!" on my fb wall in MAY...I was all of 20 weeks pregnant.  I wasn't amused at all. 
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  • Codi-BaileyCodi-Bailey
    People are so rude. I think comments about weight gain/weight in general are the rudest. My MIL always asks my DH how much weight I've gained. She asked me a few weeks ago how much I weighed. I laughed, because I was in shock, and said I'd never tell her the answer to that question. It's none of her dang business!
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  • VitaminCVitaminC member

    It also just annoys me because it's coming from her.  If my mom said it I probably wouldn't care.  Last time when she would ask me how much weight I had gained I would never answer her.  I would say something like, oh I don't know, but my Dr. is happy with where I am.  Or oh, I don't even look when they weigh me.  But I always wished that I had come back with.  "Oh, I'm not sure, but I think it's somewhere around None of your Goddamn business"

    It's not like she's some fitness/health buff herself either.  She's overweight, overall unhealthy and still smokes.  That just makes it all the more annoying that she liked to judge my weight gain/size.

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  • KellieD6708KellieD6708 member
    My grandma has called me fatso a couple times. I think it has more to do with her age though..like to her that is okay to say. She always smiles and then says how good I look. But if my MIL were to say something about my size I would probably flip out and then cry.
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  • stephlhystephlhy
    People have no filter! Yesterday FIL referred to me as "the fat lady". Super Angry
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  • eortmaneortman member
    I totally feel you on this one. Over and over again, my MIL has told me how little she gained both of her pregnancies, too. She was also a smoker.  I've wanted to point out to her that it was probably her smoking and constant diet coke habits that caused her to gain so little (and also have low birth weight babies), but I have restrained.  Good luck not punching her Smile
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  • angel2288angel2288 member
    imageVitaminC:

    The following is a MIL vent: 

    We had MIL and FIL over yesterday for Labor Day yesterday.  I was sitting on the couch and MIL looks over at me and says.  "I don't remember you being THIS big last time."  Whether I am or not, who says that?  I guess I should consider myself lucky because this is the first time she's specifically mentioned my weight this time.  Last time she would actually ask me how much weight I've gained.  And then remind me that she only gained 10 lbs with DH and 13 with BIL.  Maybe I should have smoked the whole time like she did with both of her kids. 

    My reply was something like, well I'm carrying lower and I think it's pushing my belly out further.  But I wanted to say something more like "I have a full term baby in my belly what's your excuse?"  We do not have a close relationship at all.  So I'm not really sure what makes her think that she can bring up my size. 

    THIS...ALL OF THIS!!!

    Whenever i do see my MIL, which is usually when DH drags me over there, since they dont realize we exist unless we make the first move. MIL likes to grab my belly and say how HUGE i am getting, while reminding me how she never gained more than 16lbs with any of her pregnancies...never mind the fact that ALL 3 of her kids were born premature. And she loves talking about how much skinnier she was than i when she was my age...i was 5'1 and 112 before i got pregnant, im not a hippo, thats normal for my body frame!

    I posted earlier on 3rd tri about her not being involved...maybe that isnt such a bad thing after all........?

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  • stace114stace114 member
    Ugh I totally can sympathize. Last time I saw my MIL she goes "You are way bigger then you should be right now..the baby's going to be huge" I go well my doc said I am right on target and she geos "Oh well maybe it's bc you are big boned to begin with" Um OK?? PISSSSSSSSED! I didn't think I was big boned :(
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  • Miss ShastaMiss Shasta member
    I get the opposite. Most people tell me I am "way to tiny" or that I need to "feed my baby better". One old lady even told me she couldn't believe I hadn't lost the baby yet! Who says crap like that?! Ugh, excuse me for being sick my whole pregnancy. As long as the baby is healthy that is ALL that matters! People need to keep their opinions to themselves.
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