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would you lie about your childs age?
DD1 started kinder this year. DD2 really wants to go to school and askes every day if she can. Our rec center has a program that's 2hrs 1 day a week that I think she will really enjoy (DD1 did it before). The issue is it clearly states children MUST be age 3-5. DD2 is only 2yrs 8months.
Would you lie about her age to register her for the program? I honestly think she would do great and am not worried that she's not ready for it. I just feel a little morally guilty I guess?
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Re: would you lie about your childs age?
Of course not.
ETA: don't you think the program would eventually figure out if you keep taking classes there?
I wouldn't lie about that. It is not fair to the people running the program.
Now, lie about my kid being under 2 to get him in somewhere free: yeah.
In this case, no. If we were going to a movie where under 2 was free and they turned 2 last week, probably.
And chances are you'll have to provide a birth certificate to register. I'd search for another program, or look into a part time childcare situation.
Of course not.
DD's school starts at 3 and we wanted to enroll her the January before she would turn 3 that April. We talked to the school and they made an exception.
I guess I knew the answer before I asked....thanks!
In that case, no. I'm sure they require a birthday on the enrollment form.
No, not for that. If you really want her to go you could always call and see if they could make an exception to the rule and see if they'll do a trail run with an almost 3 year old..
IMO the only way lying about age is ok is instances like if you were trying to get into the zoo that was 1 and under free and your kid is 15 months old.
Aiden 10.17.07 Emma 07.15.10
I don't know if I'd lie, but I'd call them and ask and leave it at that.
I really don't think they'd ask for a birth certificate -- I've never seen that happen anywhere but the airport!!
Why is it OK to lie to get your kid into places for free?
OBVIOUSLY because that's moral and lying to get them accepted in a YMCA program is not.
Get with it, Elise.
I'm honestly curious about the rationale here. I remember there was a poll a while back and most people said they thought it was OK to say that a kid who was 2 1/2 was under two to get into an amusement park for free. I don't understand why people thought they shouldn't have to pay for their kid.
Call and talk to them. Both LOs start swim lessons next week. DS (not even 2 1/2) is going to be in the 3-5 class. We spoke at length about his abilities and the fact that I am petrified of water and don't want to do a class with them to keep from transferring my fear to them. He is actually more comfortable in the water than DD, so they said we could try it and if it doesn't work then we would have to switch to the toddler class for him.
It never hurts to ask!
See, I don't find this zoo instance lying. Sure, the kid is 15 months old, be they are still one. They aren't 2, after all.
Kaden William 11/4/06 and Dawson Michael 6/30/10
Dawson's first birthday - at the zoo
I just went over there with DD and talked to the teacher. She ok'ed her
She said the main reason they say 3yrs is for seperation from parents and toilet trained. I assured her that if she felt DD couldn't handle it after the 1st or 2nd class, I would pull her out...no problem.
I really do feel DD will do great. I wouldn't force something like this if I thought she wouldn't enjoy it. She begs every single day to go to school.
OK maybe I was over reaching with a 15 month/1 year old example, but I would say my kid is younger for that purpose.
To me it's a matter of services used. If my kid was a few weeks different from the cut off age and not going to get out of a stroller at the zoo or use any services provided by the zoo (playground, restroom, water fountain) more than a 12 month old then it's "ok" to say they are younger than they are.
Aiden 10.17.07 Emma 07.15.10
Great! That is how it went with DD's school as well- since she was pt'd and also acted a little more grown up then most 2 year olds when it came to separation, etc, it was fine.
GL to her!
There is clearly a reason why. The preschool DD is going to has a daycare and doesn't enroll anyone under 3 and they must be fully independantly PT. They claim it's part of their licensing (which also connects to insurance).