question for those without intown family

yellowtulips80 · September 2011

we don't have intown family members to rely on. Or at least any im willing to let babysit. I have a babysitter we used a few times. I'm worried about going into labor in the middle of the night. MIL can fly into town in about a day. But I don't know what we are going to do with L in the event I were to suddenly need to go to L&D. DH could watch her. But I don't want him to miss the birth. I'm Hoping to be induced again for this reason. But I think I need to plan worse case scenario for my own sanity. What did you do?

ebearwife · September 2011

Ask a friend to help. Make sure they are willing to do the middle of the night thing.

NewBlue · September 2011

People are so willing to help out in this situation. Just don't be afraid to ask. You may feel that you are imposing but you would do it for them right? Does LO go to daycare/school? If you ask another parent, they usually have the carseat and could help with drop offs and pick up. You could probably arrange for your sitter to come in the middle of the night and then come back in the evening.

tracigator · September 2011

We had friends on call but I also talked with my OB and towards the end she would let me know if she thought I should have my mom fly up that week. We ended up having my mom here for 6 days before Noah was born but she was able to help with Benjamin and it put my mind at ease.

Good luck. Trying to figure out what to do with B in the event of labor was probably my biggest concern of my pregnancy.

MrsL1022 · September 2011

Close friends I think are the way to go. Are you friends with any neighbors that could be on call for a middle of the night L&D trip?

seahorse102410 · September 2011

I bet you'd be surprised at how many neighbors and friends would be happy to help. This could happen to any family so just talk to your neighbors and I'm sure they'd be delighted to be there for y'all.

tgirl613 · September 2011

A good friend of mine was in a similar situation when her second was due to arrive, and we agreed to be the on-call people for her. she's a good friend, so we would have had no problem taking the middle-of-the-night phone call. as it turned out, it wasn't necessary!

AugustaBride04 · September 2011

This one thing - lining up childcare for H - drove me crazy. I was so worried about it happening in the middle of the night. Everyone told me it wouldn't - that was just a common misconception. Ummm. Yeah. I went into labor in the middle of the night. DH's parents are in town but they are older, flaky, and slow. So, we asked our nanny if we could call her in the event and she said of course. When it actually happened, we did call her and she was at our house in less than 30 mins. She was actually easier to deal with than our family

If you have a regular sitter, I would ask her. If not, I would get a regular sitter just so you have that option. I would also ask close friends bc I believe you can never have too many options.

coffeekitten · September 2011

I actually have intown family but was so worried they couldn't be reached and DH was out of town so I had neighbors and friends all on call. Reach out and you will be surprised how many people will help! In Jan. when I was sick and pregnant my neighbor drove me to the hospital in the middle of the night and even wheeled me to my room in L&D at northside.

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