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Pregnant after IF
Wanna complain? Come in...
ok, I'll start off this post with something that I know all of you PAIF ladies know (and feel) but for the sake of not wanting to get flamed by others here goes:
By no means does the following indicate that I'm ungrateful or do not feel great joy for every single moment that I'm carrying this little guy that we have gone through hell and back for and wanted for over 3 yrs.
That being said...
I'm getting uncomfortable. I feel like I'm sore all the time. I can't sit too long because my a$$ hurts and my muscles get stiff and sore. I can't walk too long because my belly gets heavy, I get sore and I need to sit. I can't lay down for too long because my back or my hips hurt.
I'm definitely not at the " I just want him out" point, in fact I'm not ready for that and want to keep him as long as I can, but I'm certainly afraid of how uncomfortable I will feel in the next few weeks.
Anyone else? Flame free zone, no judgement, just let it out. I know you want to.
IUI#1 - 05/20/08 = BFP! M/C - 14 weeks 
baby girl
IUI#2 - 01/07/09 = BFP!!! Twins!! Pre-term labor 20 weeks lost twin girls
IUI#3 - 1/31/10 = BFP!!!! M/C - 8wks again
IVF #1 - 7/2010 = c/p
FET - 9/2010 = another c/p
IUI#4 - 2/14/11 = BFP!
baby girl IUI#2 - 01/07/09 = BFP!!! Twins!! Pre-term labor 20 weeks
lost twin girlsIUI#3 - 1/31/10 = BFP!!!! M/C - 8wks
againIVF #1 - 7/2010 = c/p
FET - 9/2010 = another c/p
IUI#4 - 2/14/11 = BFP!
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Re: Wanna complain? Come in...
I feel the same way and hate to complain for the same reasons. That being said, I'm in pain no matter what I do. Going from sitting to standing is not only a chore, but painful. Rolling over in bed causes so much pain in my pelvic bones that it brings me to tears. I have 1 pair of shoes that fit and even then I have to put them on in the morning or I won't be able to get them on due to the swelling. I know that the longer she stays inside me, the better. However, since the doc's will not stop it if I go into labor at any point now, I'm perfectly fine with her coming whenever she is ready (even if it's, say, now!).
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
I'll play! I'm sick to death of bleeding and worrying all the time. This is not the joyful pregnancy I imagined. I am grateful for where I am and hate to complain, but I am f'ing sick of this. I have had enough anxiety after 4 years and 3 losses. I don't need this extra stress! I am not enjoying pregnancy at all - in fact, I haven't even let the fact that I'm pregnant sink in because of all the fear I'm dealing with.
Early loss 10/08
Lap 1/09
IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
2 frosties but don't know what's next
FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
Besides the GD diagnosis.... my hips have started to ache all the time. It doesn't matter if I'm walking, sleeping, sitting, etc, they just ache. I can't sleep more then maybe 4 hours a night and that is a big maybe. Some days my belly feels like it is going to burst open. Like I'm stretched to the max which terrifies me because I have so much further to go.
Thank you for letting me get that out.
OMG I feel the exact same way.. except i am carrying two! I seriously rented a wheelchair to take DD to the zoo Monday. I was ashamed.. but I wanted to get out and play with DD in this nice weather!
I had an u/s today and Baby A's head is in my lady castle... so no wonder this pelvic bone feels like it is about to break open. I keep feeling like i am going to break his little neck by just sitting upright - with his poor brother on top of him!
Baby B is on top and his head is right under my right boob. I seriously feel like he is trying to be born out the top of my ribs. I have nightmares about it. I am constantly trying to push him back in towards my belly.
I have 5 more weeks until my c/s and I keep wondering how in the world i am going to do this! I am getting no sleep, I am an emotional psycho, everything hurts and the heartburn! omg - gross!
But I WANT them to stay in! I dont want them out at 32 weeks! I dont want the heartache of NICU and the fear of them being born at this point. I dont want bedrest! I cant imagine the hip pain and the fear! I take back all my complaining and try to be happy to just be here. at this point. with my 2 chunky monkeys blowing up my insides. I keep trying to tell myself that I love it and wouldnt have it any other way. I do NOT EVER want to go back to IF and loss and this is absolute heaven compared to that.
iui #5 2/7 + 2/8 = BFP!! 11 dpiui
Beta #1 2/18 11dpiui= 46, Beta #2 13dpiui 150, Beta #3 16dpiui 584!!
u/s revealed triplets! Baby B 3rd loss 8w2d. Twins! EDD 10/31/11 * c/s scheduled 10/12/11 My NEW BLOG
LOVE my baby boy..... but...
I injured my tailbone during labor/delivery with my daughter, and that pain has returned. It hurts to sit on any hard surface, and the act of sitting down or standing up is painful. I really hope this is temporary... because otherwise, I don't see it going away until like 8-12 weeks postpartum (when it finally started to feel better after DD was born).
Also, my RLP is atrocious right now. I can't walk for more than 5 minutes without it feeling like someone is stabbing me in the side. Which made us cancel some plans over the weekend and keeps me from being outside as much as I would like in this gorgeous weather (I feel like I am going stir crazy inside!). It eventually went away when I was pg with DD, so I am holding onto that, but I just hope it isn't winter by then...
Because we're fancy like that.
I'm not as far along as most of you, but I will say that my back hurts!! I know it's because I've been at work all day getting down on the floor or getting back up, the physical demands of my job (constantly on my feet and moving), etc. (btw, I'm a preschool teacher).
So that's all for today... my back hurts.
We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And HOPE does not dissappoint.
Romans 5:3-5
~Matt and Jen~
Married August 26, 2006
TTC since June 2008
Severe MFI
IVF #1 Feb. 2011 = BFN
IVF #2 (Long Lupron) May 2011 = BFP!!!
Our sweet little girl, born January 26, 2012
Time for #2!
IVF #1 (Long Lupron) July 2013 = BFP!!!
Beta #1 (8/1) 203! Beta #2 (8/8) 3,677! 1st u/s scheduled for 8/15!
oh jeez, thanks for posting this. in no way are my complaints directed toward wanting them out now. i want them in as long as possible. all i want is full term babies.
that said, i am so freaking uncomfortable right now i'm having a hard time with it. my hips, legs and feet are killing me. it hurts so bad to go from sitting to standing. it hurts to sit on the couch for too long.
my back starts to kill if i lay on my left side (which is the side i SHOULD be laying on!). getting out of bed to pee in the night hurts so bad, my hips are so stiff and my feet feel like i walked 5 miles in stilettos.
even my hands hurt, i have no strength in my grip. and i'm still taking zofran and zantac every day. even with the zofran, i still puke a couple times a week (it's super awkward to be bent over a toilet, on the floor, when you are measuring 43 weeks!). luckily my babies' kicks are not painful, they are just a little aggressive sometimes.
Oh sweetie I know exactly what you're going through as I've been exactly where you are. Trust me, it does get better and one day, although you may not be able to let go completely, it will get easier as you see/feel your LO growing inside you! Hang in there.
Same here. Some days I feel like I'm gonna burst and my skin HURTS its so tight!
LOL "Lady Castle" !!! I can't believe how far you are already!!! It seems like it was just yesterday you were posting your BFPIUI#2 - 01/07/09 = BFP!!! Twins!! Pre-term labor 20 weeks
IUI#3 - 1/31/10 = BFP!!!! M/C - 8wks
IVF #1 - 7/2010 = c/p
FET - 9/2010 = another c/p
IUI#4 - 2/14/11 = BFP!
I have 2.
#1 - my feet hurt. No matter if I walk around all day or lay on the couch all day. They hurt. And they've already grown a little bit, which as a size 11, I can't afford to have them get any bigger. I'm very scared that my shoes won't fit after baby comes.
#2 - I had to move out of my bedroom to sleep in the guest room because my bed is too firm and my IT bands are killing me. It's really lonely going to bed and waking up alone... and my legs are still achy.