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August 2011 Moms
msm1379
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Taking LO out....
msm1379
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DH and I were just chatting after mass this morning and he made a comment about taking LO to mass next week. I'm scheduled to be induced on Wednesday night, so I most likely won't be getting out of the hospital until saturday morning. I said that I'm not sure if I'll feel up to going to mass (which includes walking about 3 blocks to our church). DH suggested that he'll just take the baby without me....I'm not sure why, but I felt like that was a bad idea. It's not that I don't trust DH, I just don't know how I feel about 1. having LO taken away from me not even a whole day after coming home and 2. having LO out in public so soon.
Any thoughts? Am I already being over protective?
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Re: Taking LO out....
So your baby will only be about 4 days old? I would definitely say no due to the amount of people generally at mass. Imagine possibly 40 or more people in your baby's face ooooing and awwwing over him. Tons of exposure.
I'm with you...probably not the best idea.
Is he referring to taking the baby to mass on Saturday? or Sunday? Either way.. I wouldn't do it. It really drove me up the wall that I had to take Stella to the doctor on days 2, 3, 5, and 6 out of the hospital. (Although I totally realize it had to be done- we were working with a pretty serious case of Jaundice) I was not happy about having to get up & get both of us ready. I felt like I was robbed of the first few days at home getting "used" to things around the house with her.
Obviously your H isn't talking about taking LO out of the house every single day, but I'd wait at least that first week at home. I really wish I'd gotten that first week to myself!
With DD1, recovery was a b!tch and I wouldn't have even considered going out so soon. But with DD2, recovery was a breeze and I was pretty much out and about as soon as I left the hospital. Who knows what your recovery will be like and if you'll be up for mass or not?
As for taking LO out in public, I would do it BUT I would keep the baby in a carrier or carseat at all times so that people aren't so tempted to ask to hold him. if you keep him in the car seat, you can even cover it with a mosquito net so that people can't touch him.
No, no, no, no.
1. As others have said, people will want to get all up in your baby's face and touch him/her, ooh and ahh, cough, sneeze, spit, hack, sniffle, etc. all over your poor child.
2. Even if you take measures to keep people from actually touching LO, I still think that a large crowd like a church service is a bad idea with a child SOOOO young. At least give it a couple of weeks. At least.
3. I would have issues with my LO making his debut somewhere without me. This may be totally selfish, but I carried him for 9 months, I went through major surgery to have him, and he's sure as crap not going to be going much of anywhere without me... but especially not to church or somewhere where we have lots of friends... I want to see and hear everyone's first meeting with him, all the little comments, etc. Selfish? Probably. Unreasonably so? I think not.
Our time table was a lot different than yours - my LO was born on a Monday, we came home Friday. DH went to church Sunday morning without LO or me and that was ok... LO hasn't been to church yet (maybe next week... he'll be almost 4 weeks by then) and when he does go, I'll be going with him, and in all likelihood keeping others off of him by wearing him in a Moby.