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asking to be induced..

futurearcherfuturearcher
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First time posting in Military Families..looking for some input from someone more experienced :)

My husband leaves in 1 week for deployment, luckily within the states..He?s in the Ohio National Guard. I am due Dec 7th. He has already addressed the situation with the appropriate people and will be able to come home for the birth of our FIRST child . Here?s my question..would it be crazy to ASK to be induced say at 38-38.5 weeks so that we can plan better for his return home? Never in a million years would I have wanted to do it this way, but if that?s what it takes for him to see the birth then, so be it. This is our first so I really have no idea what to expect. I'm 26.5 weeks right now so is it too early to even wonder about this?

I can only imagine how many other mom?s on this board have been/will be in the same position. Any input is appreciated J

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  • Princess FireballPrincess Fireball

    I'm in a similar situation. Ask your Dr when they would be willing to induce. My H is scheduled to deploy overseas within a week of my due date. It's our first child too. Our Dr said he would induce me at 39 weeks. Some hospitals have regulations that they won't induce before 40 or 41 weeks unless there is a health reason. Our Dr said that Deployment and PCS are exceptions. The longer you can wait to be induced the heathier it is for the baby. Good luck!

     

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  • meltoinemeltoine member

    I would not. An induced labor is much harder on you and the baby and more likely to end in a section. Also, only invasive testing can tell you if the baby is ready at that point. Yes, you are technically full-term, but babies come when they're ready.

     I'd seriously question any doctor willing to do an elective induction given the risks involved. Also, if you do decide to go this route, be sure that your insurance will cover an elective induction. Some won't.  

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  • Pumpkin701Pumpkin701
    imagemeltoine:

    I would not. An induced labor is much harder on you and the baby and more likely to end in a section. Also, only invasive testing can tell you if the baby is ready at that point. Yes, you are technically full-term, but babies come when they're ready.

     I'd seriously question any doctor willing to do an elective induction given the risks involved. Also, if you do decide to go this route, be sure that your insurance will cover an elective induction. Some won't.  

    This x1000. I know it's important for H to be there, but baby's health should be more important. 

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  • Princess FireballPrincess Fireball
    The best thing is to talk to your OB and see how they feel about the situtation. My OB compared a planned c-section, for those who can't have a VBAC to an elective induction at 39 weeks. If it wasn't safe they wouldn't be delivering babies by c-section before 40 weeks. It is your decision and your husbands. You need to do what's best for your family.
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    imagePumpkin701:
    imagemeltoine:

    I would not. An induced labor is much harder on you and the baby and more likely to end in a section. Also, only invasive testing can tell you if the baby is ready at that point. Yes, you are technically full-term, but babies come when they're ready.

     I'd seriously question any doctor willing to do an elective induction given the risks involved. Also, if you do decide to go this route, be sure that your insurance will cover an elective induction. Some won't.  

    This x1000. I know it's important for H to be there, but baby's health should be more important. 

    ITA! 

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  • Lissa832Lissa832 member
    No you shouldn't ask to be induced, and if the doctor would agree to it, you need a new doctor. Most hospitals won't even allow elective inductions or c-sections before 39 weeks. If there was a medical necessity, then it would be different. I'm sure this sounds judgy, and that is not my intention. IMO, it is just not worth it.
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    futurearcher- You have a private message.    :)
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    imagePumpkin701:
    imagemeltoine:

    I would not. An induced labor is much harder on you and the baby and more likely to end in a section. Also, only invasive testing can tell you if the baby is ready at that point. Yes, you are technically full-term, but babies come when they're ready.

     I'd seriously question any doctor willing to do an elective induction given the risks involved. Also, if you do decide to go this route, be sure that your insurance will cover an elective induction. Some won't.  

    This x1000. I know it's important for H to be there, but baby's health should be more important. 

    This!! I would never want to be induced unless there was a very good MEDICAL reason.
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    Please reconsider this as an option for the health and safety of your baby. It is only considered "safe" to delivery a baby prior to 40 weeks when a mother goes into spontaneous labor or for a valid medical reason. Babies are still developing their lung function right up to the time they are born so you would be risking an under-developed baby that might require steroids and possibly other complications that could have lasting impacts through their entire life. Any doctor that agrees to such an induction is going against their own professional organization's (American College of Obsttrics and Gynecology) recommendations.
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  • Smudges*MomSmudges*Mom member
    I understand wanting to have your DH there for the deliver, with limited difficulties getting him there, and to be able to maximize your time with him before he deploys. I really do understand it. My DH was deployed (to Iraq) and missed the delivery of our only child (for many reasons, we are one and done). I wish like crazy he'd been there, but we knew before getting pregnant that he would miss it.

    I urge you to let your body determine when to give birth. Recent research shows that those last two weeks are important to the baby. If your body/the baby is not ready, do not force the delivery.

    I am an older mom (I was 37 when I delivered my son) and my son was conceive through IVF. Stereotypically, older moms and IVF babies tend to arrive early. I *knew* that I would have my son around 38 weeks. Imagine my surprise when I was still pregnant at nearly 42 weeks! My son just was not ready to be born.

    I know that you want your husband there with you. But as your baby's mom, it is important to put the baby's needs first. Good luck, it will all work out.
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  • futurearcherfuturearcher
    thank you everyone for your input!! no judgements taken :)
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  • sweetpea2003sweetpea2003 member

    "Standard of Care" in OB is that 39 weeks is the earliest they will do a non medically indicated induction.  Obviously they will induce in emergency situations that require it (pre eclamsia, pPROM, GD complications) but they won't induce for non medically indicated things (big baby, scheduling conflicts) prior to that.  If they do, they risk much more in the form of liability if something were to go wrong with your child.

    Honestly, unless you are looking very very favorable I wouldn't induce.  I have seen so many friends that have gone in at even 41 weeks for their first babies and end up with 40 hour labors and then emergency c-sections.  I can't imagine going through 2 days of labor, dilating, pushing, and then having a c-section. 

    On the other hand, I was induced because of situational factors at 39w4d (big baby, advanced dilation at 6cm, lived an hour from the hospital, DH is an aviator and is often unavailable when he goes to work) and DS was born 2 hours after my OB broke my water.  If my water had broken at home while I was alone and caring for my toddler I wouldn't have made it to the hospital on time.  So not all inductions are a bad idea... I just think that your body needs to be showing some solid signs it is ready.  Most first time moms aren't ready at 38 weeks.

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  • croberts22croberts22

    I would ask your doctor what their opinions are.  Maybe you could try membrane sweeps or other things that can get labor going without having an induction.  If I were in your shoes, I would be asking the same question. 

     You've got a pm, by the way. 

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