Funerals w/ toddlers amd newborns

braveangel2 · September 2011

Any advice? My granny's funeral is tomorrow and we haven't taken the E and P out for an event before. Large crowds and trying to keep them quiet are making me nervous.

pinktulips · September 2011

Sit near the doors for a quick escape. When my Grandpa passed, Ella was about P's age. I just nursed her the whole service.

I am sorry for your loss.

iHeartHimMore · September 2011

No advice, but wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss, Angel.

breebree13 · September 2011

Sorry I don't have any advice. Just wanted to say sorry for your loss!

Seattle_JiLLn · September 2011

is it too late to get a sitter? even someone who could just keep them outside taking a walk during the service or something?

I'm sorry for your loss... I hope everything goes ok tomorrow.

braveangel2 · September 2011

Thanks guys. It happened three days before P was born and were finally having the service. I was so wrapped up in P that I was able to put it aside. I think tomorrow I'll be mourning the person she used to be when i was younger instead of the person she was when she died, if that makes sense. Unfortunately my sitter pool is very small. Most of them will be at the service with me. My mom has offered her help which means my sister will help too. I just can't shake the feeling tomorrow is going to suck.

braveangel2 · September 2011

pinktulips:
Sit near the doors for a quick escape. When my Grandpa passed, Ella was about P's age. I just nursed her the whole service.

I am sorry for your loss.

Good one!

doublem · September 2011

Would P be more likely to sleep/stay quiet in a Moby wrap or carrier, and can you keep E occupied with small toys or snacks in the way back of the service?

I'm so sorry for your loss, both of who your granny used to be and her passing.

suzie711 · September 2011

braveangel2:
Thanks guys. It happened three days before P was born and were finally having the service. I was so wrapped up in P that I was able to put it aside. I think tomorrow I'll be mourning the person she used to be when i was younger instead of the person she was when she died, if that makes sense. Unfortunately my sitter pool is very small. Most of them will be at the service with me. My mom has offered her help which means my sister will help too. I just can't shake the feeling tomorrow is going to suck.

So sorry for your loss. I lost my Grandpa in February and I also felt the same way (mourning how he was when I was young ..) We had Hudson with us at his service - and my mom helped out by watching him and stepping outside when he got restless. I would say just sit near the door in case one of them gets restless.

bunch · September 2011

I let mine have quiet toys in the funeral- which wasn't too long. If your husband is going, sit near the aisle and let him take the kids out. That way you won't miss the funeral if they are loud. Plus, its family, and there is something about kids that helps the grief, I think- circle of life, 'ya know?

Also, my aunt and uncle from the other side of the family (my dad's mom just died, and my mom's brother and SIL came) were on hand offering to babysit or bring my kids home for me. I don't know if there is another family member/neighbor/etc that could be on hand to help out.

So sorry for your loss.

kaskade · September 2011

If it was me, I would want them there just because funerals always make me want to be close to my loved ones.

I would bring the moby and a nursing cover and try to nurse/snuggle as much as possible to keep P occupied. Does E color or look at books quietly?

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope tomorrow goes smoothly, but if they do act up or make noise I bet most people will understand.

braveangel2 · September 2011

It went well - my mom asked to take care of E so shed have an excuse to be outside. Eric took P and sat by the door about five feet from me and P slept the entire time. We stayed for three hours and left before P was over tired. I had snacks and toys lined up and we ended up not needing them

it worked out perfectly! I was also worried my bio dad would be there but he wasn't.

keri1013 · September 2011

I just saw this, but you're always welcome to leave a kiddo or two with us! Glad it went well, and I'm really sorry for your family's loss.

braveangel2 · September 2011

keri1013:
I just saw this, but you're always welcome to leave a kiddo or two with us! Glad it went well, and I'm really sorry for your family's loss.

Thanks, Keri - I appreciate it!

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