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Megaloo05Megaloo05 member
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So umm a lady at work just asked me if I was pregnant. I said no she said oh you kind of looked like it. My reply was nope just period bloat.

Really? Is it okay to ask someone if they are pregnant? She pretty much just said I was fat! I'm sure I'm a little more sensitive then others who are not going through IF. But really? Oh and to mention today is CD 1 too.

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  • tgreenftgreenf member
    Oh no that's absolutely not acceptable!! So sorry she said that to you. Ugh, some people!!!
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  • acmaxwellacmaxwell member
    WTF!! You look beautiful, I can tell from here ;)
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  • BRBR member
    Oh my goodness.  That is not okay.  People can be so rude!  I hope she at least felt embarrassed by asking you that!
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  • hootie123hootie123 member
    Completely not acceptable! 
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  • Kathy4678Kathy4678 member
    I want to vag punch that lady for you!!
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  • Megaloo05Megaloo05 member

    Thanks ladies. I knew each and every one of you would understand.

    I told my husband and his reply was "kick her in the kneecap" :)

    Love my husband 

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  • kgp_061910kgp_061910
    imageMegaloo05:

    Thanks ladies. I knew each and every one of you would understand.

    I told my husband and his reply was "kick her in the kneecap" :)

    Love my husband 

    Haha, that's great! I agree with all PP's. That is completely unacceptable. I cannot believe how rude some people can be.

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  • renee3n2008renee3n2008 member
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  • MsGMChickMsGMChick member
    People are so rude! I'm a little overweight and the scrubs I wear to work aren't exactly flattering.. I've had a pt or two ask if I was pregnant. I've gotten to the point now where I just smile and say, "Nope. Just fat." And they tend to STFU after that. 
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  • kimikins79kimikins79 member
    That is unacceptable behavior!  I would have told her so!  I would never, unless I was sure, ask if someone was pregnant!
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  • MandaS08MandaS08 member
    Even if you're not trying to be senstive to IF issues, you SHOULD never ask someone that! I'm sorry-I would have been tempted to kick her shins.

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  • jessican08jessican08 member
    imageMegaloo05:
    So umm a lady at work just asked me if I was pregnant. I said no she said oh you kind of looked like it. My reply was nope just period bloat.

    Really? Is it okay to ask someone if they are pregnant? She pretty much just said I was fat! I'm sure I'm a little more sensitive then others who are not going through IF. But really? Oh and to mention today is CD 1 too.

     

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  • farmerlyndafarmerlynda member

    That is SO rude!  *biitchslaps coworker*  If anyone ever asks you that again, don't say anything about period bloat... just smile serenely and say:

    "Oh, are my boobs looking especially great today?  Or is it the glow?  I'm not pregnant, but thanks for asking."

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  • skibostonskiboston
    Its not acceptable. Oprah said it best until someone is about to drop the baby out you never ask.
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  • Mrs.SlickMrs.Slick member

    That kind of comment would have pissed me off regardless of TTC status. It's not okay to ask someone that. And it's not okay to say they look pregnant/fat, especially after they said they're not. 

     

    Rude. 

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  • Mrs.UmmMrs.Umm member

    Generally, unless the woman is in active labor, or you see an arm or leg, NEVER ask if someone is pregnant. It's just plain rude. Obviously, if you're meant to know, you'll know. Otherwise, it's pretty much just a nice way of saying "you're looking plump". 

    Some people just have no filter.

     

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  • Megaloo05Megaloo05 member

    Thank you all ladies. I really needed a laugh tonight. (had a baby shower for a different co-worker today). IF really sucks!! My husband told me a few other things i should do to her but it isn't nice language. Im sure you can figure it out. :) 

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