I feel mean

LifesPeachy · September 2011

My 9 year old pays NO attention to me when I am walking. She is constantly walking into me, walking in a diagonal instead of a straight line, or being in the way of the stroller. Today at SAM I just kept bowling the stroller into her intentionally, hence why I feel mean. It felt like the right thing to do at the time LOL. I just couldn't ask yet again to please excuse me, so I just rolled over toes and bumped into her butt. I feel so mean now like I didn't respect her little person. I would hope at age 9 she would be easier to walk with! How do I make her pay more attention to her surroundings?? FYI She has ADD Smile

doublem · September 2011

ha!

Are you and the stroller the only people/things she's bumping into? Does this happen everywhere you go, or just today? I feel like most 9-year-olds who wer super absorbed in checking out the art and people at SAM (and following the lines on the floor) would have a hard time NOT running into something. Whenever I take my class there (10-11 y-o's), they bump into each other/benches constantly and they're often spotting each other to make sure no one sets off an alarm. I think ADD would only make matters worse. I'd guess that she had to focus a lot on not bumping into everything else, and you were part of her safe space to not worry about.

massagegirly · September 2011

Kiah does the same thing also 9. I think they like to be close to us when out and about. But when I run over her feet she looks at me like I did it. I remind her that she is walking in front of me or more like under me! And she does not have ADD. I think it is just a 9 year old, clumsy kid!

LifesPeachy · September 2011

massagegirly:
Kiah does the same thing also 9. I think they like to be close to us when out and about. But when I run over her feet she looks at me like I did it. I remind her that she is walking in front of me or more like under me! And she does not have ADD. I think it is just a 9 year old, clumsy kid!

OK thanks, I feel a little better now. I'll try not to be so mean next time Stick out tongue

LifesPeachy · September 2011

doublem:
ha!
Are you and the stroller the only people/things she's bumping into? Does this happen everywhere you go, or just today? I feel like most 9-year-olds who wer super absorbed in checking out the art and people at SAM (and following the lines on the floor) would have a hard time NOT running into something. Whenever I take my class there (10-11 y-o's), they bump into each other/benches constantly and they're often spotting each other to make sure no one sets off an alarm. I think ADD would only make matters worse. I'd guess that she had to focus a lot on not bumping into everything else, and you were part of her safe space to not worry about.

This is good to hear! You're right, I am her "safe" space. She did set off an alarm and have two different guards tell her to step back! Poor kid!

Surfinbride · September 2011

I'm so happy to see a post about 9 year olds. My daughter is the exact same. ADD kids are easily distracted. Their minds wander and their feet follow. The other thing about ADD kids is that they are usually very sensitive. I would be more worried that you hurt her feelings than her toes. I know that my daughter gets sad when she makes clumsy mistakes and we say, "Pay attention." Then, I feel badly... because, I realize she can't. She's the girl who hears someone else's conversation, turns to look and walks into a cement column.

I'm just grateful that she doesn't have any impulse control issues. I'll take a distracted, sweet kid over a kid that acts out any day.

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https://www.additudemag.com/

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