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Natural Birth
Mamasaurus
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Natural Birth with twins?
Mamasaurus
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This might sound stupid, but I'm a spazz...so sue me.
Somebody eyed my barely-there bump recently, asked me how far along I was, and said, "Oh! You must be having twins!" I know that it really doesn't mean anything, but this makes me so nervous because if that's right, my insurance will not cover HB and the only BC near me will not deliver multiples.The local hospital has a c-section rate around 70% and reviews I've read state that they prefer to do all multiples via c-section regardless of how the mother and babies are doing.
Horrible visions of having two babies sliced out of me without having a chance to even try birthing them on my own are running through my head. Is all this anti-natural-birth-for-twins stuff based on real dangers, or is it just hype? I'm having a hard time finding any info about healthy mothers delivering healthy twin babies--it seems like there's always preeclampsia, GD, or fetal distress--so I hope maybe somebody here knows something about it from experience.
FWIW, I am willing to pay out of pocket to try twins at home if there's a possibility of it happening successfully. I also know that one person's guess doesn't necessarily mean anything. I'm just trying to think ahead as best I can to avoid making decisions on the spot.
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Re: Natural Birth with twins?
This is anecdotal of course, but I know two different twin mommas who fully intended to get an epi and try for a vaginal birth but ended up having the babies so fast the doctor barely had time to catch them, let alone get an anesthesiologist in the room! So natural twin births by default
That said, you're 7 weeks along...I know pregnancy can do crazy things to your mind, but you need to take a deep breath and relax! There are only so many things that are within your control when it comes to birthing your babies, focus on those and let the stuff that's outside your control go.
ETA: Any bump you have right now is just bloating, your uterus is still well below your pelvic bone and even with twins or triplets you wouldn't be showing yet, I'd bet even octo mom didn't show at 7 weeks. The bloat will go down and you'll get a regular bump in a few months!
You're right. You sound stupid.
#1- At 7 weeks you do not have a "baby bump". You are just bloated.
#2- You seriously need to take it down a notch. If you're going to take stupid comments from strangers seriously you're going to have a very long and frustrating pregnancy. Relax.
Hi, Jason's wife! How about you go eat a crap sandwich?
I actually do have a little bit of a tummy because of bloating, water retention, and the 5 lbs or so I have gained because of all the snacking to ward off morning sickness. I have always been small and so the weight really shows on me, so most people are totally freaking out and thinking I am either farther along than I am or gaining weight for multiples. The staff at the maternity store even thought I was at 12 weeks when they saw me. 90% of the difference in my body is in my tummy, the other 10% seems to be in me breasts. Even my neighbor who is blind in one eye took one look at me and guessed I was pregnant.
I said silly, not stupid. Silly is worrying when maybe I shouldn't. Stupid, like rude (as you are being), is not the same thing. FYI I am applying for my PhD at the University of Chicago this fall. I'll let you know if the dumbasses there all think their department head (who recommended me) and I are a couple of morons.
By the way, this "stupid" person who made the comment happened to be an OBGYN nurse of 20 years, with five kids, who scored great on the MCATS but decided to keep nursing instead of becoming a doctor. When she's surprised at the way I look, I think twice about it. Am I overthinking? Probably. It's no cause for you to be so insulting, though.
Listen, miss 30 posts, if you're looking for support from the women on this board and others, it would behoove you not to say things like this, especially to regular posters. This is not junior high.
Overture, I am very grateful for any advice and information from other people, but I don't think that asking a question means that I should be willing to accept rudeness from people. I don't think that how long a person has been on a site should affect how people treat them, nor does being a "gold" or "silver" poster entitle somebody to rudeness. In fact I am pretty sure that the site isn't here as a forum for more experienced mothers to put down new mothers regardless of "status."
FWIW I had 1,000+ posts at a competing pregnancy site from the last time I was TTC. (I switched to bump because the spam to new content ratio is much better here. I don't really care about the car seat safety ratings from 2006.) I know how forums work. If somebody starts flaming, they should expect to get it back. Somehow all the other responders managed to be polite. I think it's because most of the people on sites like this agree that you should treat others how you wish to be treated. If somebody wishes to be treated respectfully, she should treat others that way herself. Number of posts has nothing to do with it.
This is perfect! I had TWO sets of twins vaginally so it is possible! One of my twins flipped after baby A came out and my doctor was able to turn her around before pushing again. I did have to deliver in the OR with a big team geared and ready to do emergency C-section and multiple doctors, but everything turned out great and my babies were all healthy!