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May 2011 Moms
lilcoco13
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MIL vent! longish
lilcoco13
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She is totally cray cray! I am so tired of her advice and her drama. My IL's live in a small town about 20min away from me and DH. However, they both drive in to our city to work daily M-F. But they never stop by to see LO on their way home. They invite us out to dinner about every 1-2 weeks. So we pack up LO and go out for dinner. And every single time LO cries and cries almost the whole time we are there. Dinner time is his fussy time. I have told them that, but MIL insists that he doesn't like her and that he is "playing strange". I tell her that it is just the time of day, especially if he hasn't had a good afternoon nap. And they won't even try to hold him if he is fussy. I feel so awkward while we are there and it stresses DH out that we never have a good visit, but he won't tell them that 6pm isn't a good time to visit with a LO. He said that he was mad the other day, because when my mom is around LO and he is fussy she jumps right in and helps and soothes him just fine, but his parents won't even try.And then she lays a guilt trip on us about not seeing LO enough. I am sorrry, but if you won't even take 10 minutes out of your day to stop in and see us once a week, I don't think it is my responsibility to make sure you spend time with your grandson. DH is an only child, so DS is their only grandchild. I would think they would make more of an effort.
And while we are out visiting, MIL is full of "does he STTN" questions and "you need to start feeding him pablum" advice. Not only does she ask once, but she is really forgetfull and will ask several times. Then she will say "if you even need a babysitter, give us a call". Ummm, yea right, you won't even hold him when he cries, I am not going to leave him alone with you for any length of time!
Ugh, I wouldn't even care so much if her passive aggressive comments about LO not liking her and not seeing us enough didn't make DH feel so bad.
DS1 Born Apr 29 2011
DS2 Born Nov 5 2013
Pregnant with #3 Dec 24 2014, MMC found at 10w, D&C Feb 10th 2015
Cautious BFP May 25th 2015 EDD Feb 6 2016
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Re: MIL vent! longish
Next time they ask, tell them since it hasn't been working, you'd rather not continue going to dinner. Instead invite them to breakfast or lunch if they won't just come over to your house. Or simply ask if they'd like to stop over after work on such and such a day. Turn it around so you are controlling the times, even when they do the asking.
As for the advice, be as passive aggressive as her and go get something like this: https://www.target.com/p/Circo-174-Baby-Girls-My-Mom-Doesn-t-Want-Your-Advice-Bodysuit-Brown/-/A-13507080 and put in on your DS next time you see them.