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Confession...

MelicakesMelicakes member
in Pregnant after IF

I have bump envy.... whew ok I got it out.

I love my bump I do ! And everyday I thank God for letting me finally have one.

When I take my weekly pics I marvel over how it has changed from week to week.

But then I see other PG women who are very obviously PG walk by and I feel a twinge of jealousy. I see the sweet looks they get , how (some) people go out of to give them a seat or hold a door open for them.

I don't get that Sad Why? Because I'm a fat @$$ who apparently just looks fatter to everyone else on this planet except my friends , family and my dear PAIF girls...

It feels petty to be envious of something so silly especially since God willing at the end of this I get what I've always wanted, a little baby all my own.

No point to this really, judge or comment, it's fine either way, I just really needed to get it out.

Thanks for listening!

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Re: Confession...

  • StuckinthemiddleStuckinthemiddle

    Hey, confessions are part of what this board is about lady!

     I'm sorry you are feeling this way.  I just want to say that I think you look great in your bump pics, and as you are coming down the home stretch here, your bump is only going to become more and more apparent to other people.  I am sure some of those bumps you are envious of also belong to women who are more "ripe" than you.  Haha. 

    I think its okay to have bump envy from time to time, but just wait until you have your LO in your arms - and all the wonderful comments you will be getting from strangers about her!  I am very excited for you!

    TTC Child #1 Sept '08, Dx: Unexplained, DOR 2 IUI's = BFN, m/c, IVF 1 = 0 embies to put back, IVF 2 = BFN, IVF 3 = cancelled, IVF 4 = BFP with 1 embie. Our son came into our life on 9/28/11. We are in love! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • steveandkim2steveandkim2 member

    FWIW - I think your bump is beautiful!  I actually thought yesterday about how beautiful you looked.  You glow with your pregnancy!

     But I agree with your confession.  I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I don't have a cute bump.  Its not a cute round little basketball - its more like I'm a big square sticking out.  Honestly, people finally commented on my pregnancy yesterday and were shocked to hear how far along I was.  I was actually underweight pre-preg, so I expected it really to pop out and it didnt.  But - my mom and sister also didn't "look pregnant" and b/w the two of them, went on to have 6 great babies between the two of them.

    I often think people don't realize that pregnancy is hard because I'm not waddling or looking like I'm about to topple over.  Even DH asks why I'm so tired all the time.  I think if I looked more pregnant, people would be more understanding!

    TTC since April 2009 dx = PCOS; TTC History for DS - A FET miracle after 7 IUIs; 2 fresh transfers, and 1 other FET resulted in BFNs. Hoping and Praying for baby #2: Cycle 1 - FET; November 2012 BFN Next Steps - who knows? Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
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  • Sunshine05Sunshine05 member
    I understand where you're coming from.  I am jealous of people who have the cute little basketball bump.  I feel like I have a good-sized bump now and have passed the she's just getting fatter phase, but I still don't get any comments on it.  I don't know if people are just getting smarter and know never to ask a woman if she's pregnant, or if I really just don't look pregnant.  It does bum me out though. 
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  • Yellow_DaisyYellow_Daisy
    I felt that way my whole pregnancy so I totally understand how you feel.  I think DH was going to strangle me if I asked him one more time if I looked PG or just fat.  Your bump is beautiful sweetie and once your sweet girl is here you won't even remember the belly envy.
    TTC since 8/2004
    Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
    DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
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  • leecrystalwed08leecrystalwed08

    imageYellow_Daisy:
    Your bump is beautiful sweetie and once your sweet girl is here you won't even remember the belly envy.

    You said it sister!

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  • MelicakesMelicakes member

    You guys! I seriously have tears in my eyes right now, thank you so much for your words of encouragement!

    It was hard to get that out I felt like it was such a dumb thing to feel bad about...but all of you have made me feel so much better about it, thank you so much.

    And I agree I just know once Carina is in my arms I'll forget all about all this bump business ( and Lord only knows what my belly will look like then LOL)

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  • etoyamaetoyama member
    (((HUGS))) to be honest, I always had bump envy too. I never had the round, basketball shaped belly I thought looked so cute. I carried low and wide and until I was almost 30 weeks people couldn't even tell I was pg. FWIW Melicakes, I think you are one gorgeous pregnant woman!
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  • MelicakesMelicakes member
    imageetoyama:
    (((HUGS))) to be honest, I always had bump envy too. I never had the round, basketball shaped belly I thought looked so cute. I carried low and wide and until I was almost 30 weeks people couldn't even tell I was pg. FWIW Melicakes, I think you are one gorgeous pregnant woman!
    Awww thank you E, you are just to sweet ^_^
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