So I'm pretty sure I'm asexual now... I haven't had any desire whatsoever for the vast majority of this pregnancy. For a long time, I tried to just fake it until I felt it for DH's sake, but lately (like the last 2 months) I've been really bad. DH feels completely neglected & I feel terrible for neglecting him, but I just don't want it at all. It's not that it's painful or uncomfortable even, the few times we have done it in the last couple months were actually really enjoyable if not just a little humorous. The thing is, I want to feel close to him & I just don't. I feel like maybe if there was a little more closeness without the thought of sex coming into play (like cuddling or whatever) would make me feel a little more desire.
But when I explained that to him, he just said "oh so it's my fault". I tried to explain to him that my hormones combined with my constant exhaustion just makes me have no desire.
I don't really know what to do - anyone else experiencing this? What have you done to make DH feel wanted?
I have placenta previa that was found at 20 weeks - my lack of desire is so bad that I've actually wanted my docs to put me on pelvic rest. I feel terrible about it but I just don't know what to do.