I'm a first-time mom, living in a new state with my husband. We moved in January of 2010 and we found out we were pregnant with our son in March. It's been an amazing and frightening experience, doing it on our own without our mothers and aunts down our backs.
But honestly, I wish they would have been here sometimes. I was so freaked out about making a mistake that I followed every advice I read literally to a T. I put my beautiful son down to sleep on his back every night and felt proud when he would sleep 8, even 10 hours through. I thought, hey, I'm getting the hang of this. I can do this after all.
But I didn't notice that his head was flattening out in the back. I just didn't notice. What kind of a mother doesn't pay attention to this detail? I was caught up with his feedings, his laundry, my husband, everything but his head. And then we went to visit family when he was 4 months old and did I EVER get hell for it!
I also noticed that after 6 months, he wasn't really interested in holding or grasping objects. He didn't understand that he had to hold his bottle at some point. Even at 9 months now, he still won't.
Back to his head. After following the ped's advice to "let it round out on its own", I finally decided to see someone who could give me concrete help. And a diagnosis. And at 9 months old, my son is getting a Doc Band and it's scaring the *** out of me. I feel like I'm punishing him for MY mistake as a mom.
So to anyone reading this, please heed the advice of tummy time. Watch your darling babies' heads. DON'T use jumpers. Have him roll around and get strong. Have him develop his upper body. Tummy time is essential, not only to prevent flat spots but to develop his upper body strength, hand-eye coordination, etc. It can even develop neuron synapse connections that will help your child be able to tie his shoes when he's older.
Don't get caught up in trying to be perfect. Just pay attention to your CHILD and see what your precious one needs.