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Out of Towners

CharlyneCharlyne
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All of my husband's family lives out of state and most of mine does as well. I don't want to make them feel like they're being left out, but I also highly doubt any of them will make the trip down and I don't want to seem "gift grabby" by inviting them. My mom is going to be looking for a place to hold the shower soon and I know we'll need a preliminary list just for a rough estimate of how many people we think will be there.

Should I just invite the out of towners and hope they don't think I'm being greedy? Don't get me wrong, I'd love it if they could make it, but they're spread from GA to MI to MO and I know my ILs won't be able to be here other than Thanksgiving.

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    We invited our out-of-town relatives but they were anywhere from 1 1/2 hours to 3.  We did invite a few that were 5 hours as well.  Everyone came.  I think your distance is a bit farther.  I would definitely invite immediate family but other than that probably not.  Just send a birth announcement.
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  • Liz4444Liz4444 member
    I would invite immediate relatives, MIL, grandmothers, sisters and aunts, and anyone you or your H are very close to, I think they would probably be offended if they didn't get invitations.  Anyone you are close to would know that you just want them to feel included, not that you are looking for presents.  Is is possible that your mother could talk to your family and tell them what she is planning just to get a feel of who might be able to come and have your H do the same with his family?  And you never know, they may surprise you and come. 
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  • heuyheuy member

    Is it tacky to say something to the effect of "I realize you live several hours away, but wanted to let you know we'd love to have you come celebrate with us" Or something to that effect.

     Essentially you don't want them to feel left out....yet don't want them to feel obligated. {at least that's how I feel when contemplating on inviting my sister in law who is 6 hours away}

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  • DiademChiDiademChi member
    Ideally, try to have someone in your family host a shower near Thanksgiving so everyone will already be together.  My MIL is throwing mine this Labor Day since a bunch of family is already traveling out for BIL's wedding.  Otherwise, no family could attend.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    imageLiz4444:
    I would invite immediate relatives, MIL, grandmothers, sisters and aunts, and anyone you or your H are very close to,
    This.  It's a shower, not a wedding.  It isn't an event to invite distant relatives who you only see at weddings and don't keep in touch w/ otherwise.
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  • weddingbells2010weddingbells2010 member

    imageLiz4444:
    I would invite immediate relatives, MIL, grandmothers, sisters and aunts, and anyone you or your H are very close to, I think they would probably be offended if they didn't get invitations.  Anyone you are close to would know that you just want them to feel included, not that you are looking for presents.  

    This.  My aunts would have been offended to not get an invitation, but they've all moved in the last year and I didn't expect any of them to come.  Those that are close enough to you to be invited had they been closer by will know that it's just out of sentimentality and not to grab gifts.  Don't worry about saying anythign special in their invite.  When they RSVP to the host she can say, "Oh of course we didn't expect you to make the trip all the way here, but we wanted you to know we'd be thinking of you that day!" 

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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    Yeah I say close relatives.  I have gotten invites to showers for my husband's family some are even people I have never met or spoken too.  I thought it was just strange.  I mean who would be offended about not being invited to a baby shower for someone they don't know that lives halfway across the country.
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